Siren, you mentioned liking people at parties. The only sure fire way I have found is to invite them a couple of times at your house, Best to do it with multiple families at a time. Someone invites you back and then you start talking over the phone too. The only way to make friends is to pencil it in a calendar at first. Making friends when you are older is quite hard. I know some ABCDs who have made friends with Pakistani imports quite well. And these are educated, working ladies.
We don’t really have a classy desi community here. One time people insisted that we do a pot luck and I told my wife to be prepared to cook the entire dawat. I was right as these people showed up with alarmingly small quantities. I am not sure what benefit people get from these gatherings.
^ wow!!
People usually specify the quantity to bring if one is doing a potluck. But potlucks do not end well usually as people don’t like cooking. I have seen successful ones too, but it’s a bit stressful for me.
I can understand. I’m also very lonely like you.
I have friends, same group of friends since I was in school. After that I made a few friends in college and university but they never lasted. I had another friend we were extemely close for 3-4 years..it ended when i found out how she had spilled all my secrets to her other friends ( neighbors and all) after her I’ve hardly trusted anyone so I post here..
Its mostly about having the connection. I lack that with a lot of people and thinking.
I was going to start a new topic but then saw this one.I need friends too. I have a few good friends but they all live in another city and I haven’t been able to make any new ones where I currently live. I feel so depressed and lonely, sometimes… like right now
Nah…I am a reddit addict but got friends outside of it as well. I have actually made some pretty good friends through GS as well. @SaeedinPakistan@Mirch@STA
