Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
^ No, never.
now ball is in your BF court. if he accept your religion, i think no one in your family can oppose your marriage.
best of luck.
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
STA, I already said that was not going to happen. My bf is a pretty religious/spiritual person himself.
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
When he kicked you out of the house was he enraged or just really saddened?
Is your dad nominally an angry or tough person? Or is he more soft hearted?
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This is only the start of a major roller coaster ride.
You really need to set your priorities now and make sure your 1000000% sure you wanna marry this guy and the possible effects of marrying him.
Good luck.
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He's generally easily persuaded to things. He's always been a very easy going person, but has been changing lately.
Re: I got thrown out of home …now what?
farimasait: love looks good in young age. but reality comes after few years .
my two cents for all love birds. 
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
So getting harsher. Hm...
You need to see something. Try to meet with your father unannounced. Don't wait for him to come to you because he is going to stew. His religious friends are probably going to begale him with tales of horror of members of their own families marrying outsiders and give him advice on what he should do with you. I'm sure you can imagine what an effect that will have on him. You need to act fast. Surprise him outside of work. Maybe wait outside your apartment building for him to come home. Then when you see him, don't say anything, just quickly kiss him and give him a big long hug. Then start a slow dialogue. Talk about the pain that he is feeling from your actions. Show him you care. Show concern over your action's effect on him. Mention how concerned you were about him after you left. This will subconsciously show your father that you really care and love him. He needs this reinforced right now.
This wont bring your dad to your side but will significantly calm him. You need to gauge where you stand with your dad right now and get to your dad before his friends do.
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I must say I am very proud of your mother for coming to your office. :k: Don’t ever cut your parents off, even your father.
After reading everything here, I would hope that you take your time and do not make any rash decisions. Just take your time and be sure that you will be able to live with whatever decision you make.
Be sure that you know yourself and what you really want in life …
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
He's generally easily persuaded to things. He's always been a very easy going person, but has been changing lately.
That's not a good sign.
You have a lot to think about , most of which has been listed above by the rational posters.
Hope things work out for the best for you and your family.
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
This is only the start of a major roller coaster ride.
You really need to set your priorities now and make sure your 1000000% sure you wanna marry this guy and the possible effects of marrying him.
Good luck.
I would say what G said. Wish ya best if this is something you want.
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
So getting harsher. Hm...
You need to see something. Try to meet with your father unannounced. Don't wait for him to come to you because he is going to stew. His religious friends are probably going to begale him with tales of horror of members of their own families marrying outsiders and give him advice on what he should do with you. I'm sure you can imagine what an effect that will have on him. You need to act fast. Surprise him outside of work. Maybe wait outside your apartment building for him to come home. Then when you see him, don't say anything, just quickly kiss him and give him a big long hug. Then start a slow dialogue. Talk about the pain that he is feeling from your actions. Show him you care. Show concern over your action's effect on him. Mention how concerned you were about him after you left. This will subconsciously show your father that you really care and love him. He needs this reinforced right now.
This wont bring your dad to your side but will significantly calm him. You need to gauge where you stand with your dad right now and get to your dad before his friends do.
Now, this is excellent advice. I need to act penitent and talk to him before his newfound 'friends' get to him. I'll also get mom to go easier on him.
I guess there are other issues at play here since they've been having their own problems.
Dad is kind of saddened that there is so little positivity about his recent turning to religion. He has become more observant, more devout but the rest of us have resisted any change, so he's going to feel we're ganging up on him again over this.
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just to sidetrack a little :
someone who was my senior ran away form her home and started living with her hindu bf. they then shifted to australia. last yr she got married and she had a total Hindu style wedding, wearing a sari, sindoor, saat phere and whatnot. i was soo surprised to see that she had done that as her parents are religious pakistanis from karachi, mother and sisters are hijabis and she too used to wear the hijab till she ran away from home.
her older sister is my friend and refuses to speak to her sister, and only the mother is in contact with her daughter who now resides in australia. she is happily married BUT is it worth leaving your family? think abt your parents who painstakingly brought you up, and remember the life Allah has given you, i do not wish to sound conservative or nor do i want to offend you but the truth is that if you marry a hindu man, you are committing a great sin in the eyes of Allah. you are blessed to be born Muslim ... do not waste this opportunity.
if you do not want to bring religion into this issue, then just make sure that the guy sticks around. you do not want your relationship breaking up- -- then, you will only have your parents to go back to. and that will be very very difficult.
all the best!!! :)
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
Welcome aboard world's craziest roller coaster. Drop lose accessories on the ground and hold tight. You are all set for topsy turvy ride.
PS: I have seen sorry doing wonders. Try it with your parents.
PS2: There are things that defy logic. No matter how much two of you love each other, I can never advise such cross religion marriage.
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
convert him to islam....
It might be a solution but I don't recommend it to go this way.
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you should update your facebook status ASAP!
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
I think everyone has given you all the adviceyou need to hear and I hope whatever you choose to do is worth it. Just a word of advice, you aren't marrying just the guy you are marrying his family who does not want you in their life. And that BF will become a HUSBAND constantly surrounded by family who pretty much doesn't accept you and wants nothing to do with you just like your family wants nothing to do with him. So you are leaving your family and your religion for a possibility of marrying a guy who might not always be able to take a stand for you. And with marriage, comes great complications and you will be pretty much alone to deal with that. Go into this, expecting the worse because in the beginning it will be hard. Whatever you do, just sit and weigh the pros and cons and try to choose the person who will love you and forgive you unconditionally whether it's your mother, sister, or your bf. You aren't choosing a date for the prom, your basically choosing who you want to spend your life with. Hope things work out for you.
Re: I got thrown out of home …now what?
Re: I got thrown out of home ...now what?
Islamically your marriage will be invalid with the Hindu guy.It's better for you to go back to your parents and apologies.
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If he cant convert to Islam then how come u will marry him? a muslim girl cannot marry non Muslim ? is your bf really that Good/perfect that for him you are ready to hurt ur parents and more over your Allah ?how will you face Allah on judgement day if you marry a non Muslim? is love really that blind what about Fear of Allah .....i have seen alot of girls who disobeys their parents for bf marry their bfs without their parents wills but there is one reality that children who don't respect their parents dont make them happy they cant even live happily ever even after marriage ......best of luck
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STA, I already said that was not going to happen. My bf is a pretty religious/spiritual person himself.
He is, someone else apparently isn't? And with this, the incompatibility should be obvious considering the lack of spirituality, religion involved between the two as well?
Do yourself and your parents a long term favor, just get out of it while you can.
Please.