Re: "I fell in love with someone online"
it doesn't matter how you meet your life partner. Online, arranged, through friends.....whatever. At the end of the day, your personalities, compatibility, need to keep the marriage bond strong are the ones that matter the most after you meet in person.
It wouldn't be love online it would be a realization that there is a potential for a successful long term relationship. Online can be just as superficial as arranged marriage because you are looking at their photos online as well.
There will be stories of people that ended up being totally different from their online personalities and end up being totally incompatible and as a result end of the relationship and then there are other stories that are totally beautiful and successful.
Its not about falling in love. Its about understanding and companionship. While the world is as big as it has ever been it is far more isolated than it was before. People spend more time at work, at home and less time finding and establishing lasting relationships. I have my friends who I have known for like 15 to 20 years and I have people I meet daily, work with and socialize with but they aren't friends. Its all about connections is what I am saying.
If you feel connected why does it matter what the medium is? As long as it is honest, true and based on honesty and respect it shouldn't matter if its the internet or in person.
V well said :) but what if you see no future in that relationship? And ppl keep telling u leave me?? And if we and they are honest?
Know 2 stories, one never met because each was in a different continent and actually had a proxy nikah, and went over to the in laws for 10 days after the wedding and then flew to the US and met her husband. 14 years still going strong with 2 kids. They didn't even have skype in those days, so they saw only photographs of each other and talked to each other on the phone multiple times a day. They were over 25 years old.
Case 2, also met online and saw each other a few days before the nikah. 8 years still going strong.
This works but not for everyone :( sadly m in such a bad situation too
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So where is that R rated thread ? :P say these words and men wait for it ;)
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I don't quite understand how this is possible either but do know of some examples.
My cousin began chatting online to a guy in Pakistan. They communicated for 2 years via phone, skype, email etc. He then came here as a student, they met for the first time and married shortly afterwards. They have been married for over 3 years now and seem fine. Another cousin did the same thing, started chatting to a guy in Pakistan. She then flew over there to meet him. Got married 9 months later and are in the immigration process at the moment.
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I've just had a really bad experience with online meetings because a person can totally fool you. It's basically a complete stranger and it ended up being a horrendous experience. I'll say some people are lucky enough to find a good life partner but others will get fooled by liars or people who end up being completely different from how they posed themselves online.
I don't see it as a bad route to meeting someone wonderful for some people but I think people should be very cautious and not give away their hearts until they've met the man or woman in person and they stay practical until they are sure this is the one. I guess just like any other way of meeting people.
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Is there something pathological about this?
I just find that if you haven't met someone in real life or talked to them substantially, how can you fall in love with a bunch of text messages over the internet??
Something seriously pathological about this.
I don't think it's pathological per say. It may not be the smartest thing to do though.
I have felt a very strong connection with someone I met online (and grew infatuated/had really affectionate feelings). Luckily (or unluckily) I knew who his brother was, went to the same school and stuff. The guy was friends with a few acquaintances too. So I had some reason to trust the person.
(It's a different story the person ended up dating my friend who he was introduced to through me, while he knew how I felt about him :p)
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u saw in front of ur eyes and im an example hahaha i met someone online and he propose me and i saw him 1st time after 2 years and in total may b 10 times but we love each other deeply and we r in a relationship for 7 years now but but very difficult to convince the family still suffering but ya 80%done planing to get married this year In Sha Allah.
so u can love someone online but depends on u and ur partner u need to trust and support each other.
Pyar kiya nahin jata... ho jata hai!
I saw it in front of my eyes. My lab colleague fell in love with a girl in Australia (the girl as well) and they met face-to-face first time when they landed in Nepal to get married.
For me it hasn't work and probably won't in this life.
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Seriously guys find some new topic to discuss on this one is quite old now. And ya I would say sometimes you meet people who aren't as nice, but even in real life you can meet someone and they will show the real face after a while.
I met someone online and now we are happily married Alhamdulilah.
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They fall in love with a perception, not the person.
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When you spend all your life online, then its natural.
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There's nothing wrong with online relationships IF both parties are honest about who they are.
And I think it's a good way for people to meet who are shy and introverted. I don't see anything pathological about it at all.
In fact, people have meaningful conversations instead of just the physical aspect of being with a person.
My cousin met her husband online, and they always talked about their lives, studies, families, ect. It was nothing at all creepy and
when they met, everyone could see that they really connected at a deeper level. Plus you can't hide your face forever online,
there are webcams and phones now. Once they were both on board with marriage, they met, their parents met and they got married.
I don't see anything wrong in that.