Re: I feel like im being forced to change, what shall i do>?
Nadz! Just a bit of advice...If someone forces you to do something, there will always be bitterness there, even if you do that thing it wont be for your happiness and the end result: you will resent him for 'making' you not wear short sleeves/jeans.
Wanting to wear short sleeves, or jeans first of all does NOT make you a tart/slapper or whatever else ppl say. Secondly, if someone does not accept you the way you are then to be honest it makes a girl feel like she is not fully loved and she has to change to live up to someone's expectations. I hate it when people tell me what to do, sorry if it sounds selfish...if he wanted a hijaabi niqaabi girl then why doesnt he go and find one. Once you compromise one thing, then the hijaab will be next, then it will be spending habits or what friends you can keep or not keep...slowly you won't be your own person anymore....
it's not a religious issue, It's a control thing. Define these things BEFORE you marry him. TALK to him and decide on these matters, if there are too many differences in the way you both wanna live your lives then leave it.....there's no point...you are too OLD to be moulded, your likes/dislikes/dressing/way of life has been moulded now...if he wants someone to mould then let him marry some 16 yr old who will dance at his every whim...sorry if you get offended, just my 2 cents.