Caught my Husband Watching Porn For the Past 3 Years

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Re: Caught my Husband Watching Porn For the Past 3 Years

@homesick

From some of the advice I see here, I am ashamed to say that this is supposedly a Muslim forum populated by Pakistanis (from a country created for Islam.) I am hearing things like watching porn is not a big deal, or you should do it too just to piss him off. I mean wow. How is that different from a kafir’s advice? Have we really become that modernized? This is what scares me about living in the west. The “liberal” mindset. The answer lies in the taqwa and haya of eyes. Your husband has lost that haya and he needs to work on it..plus everything else I told you about the addiction. Please don’t listen to the shameless liberals who tell you it’s ok or you should do it too. It is haram for him and haram for you. Haram for him to look at girls and haram for you too look at guys no matter how “HOT” they may be. It is true that a man’s nature will cause him to have his share of staring no matter how hard he tires, however, there is a point when it becomes abnormal.

While I agree with your sentiment about watching porn/excessive ogleing NOT being okay, please don’t think it’s limited to the West or liberal attitides. The lack of sharam and haya is pretty prevalent in Pakistan as well. Especially the khatoons who find it perfectly acceptable to walk around in a thin, light colored lawn shalwar kameez without so much as a slip to conceal their bras and then get upset when men stare at them. In fact, I would say the staring and salacious nazars are the worst in Pakistan then anywhere else.