I am upset :(

Lifestyle Relationships
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:mad:

thatz how all men think huh

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Its not about who thinks what. This is the natural balance and should not be messed with. The absurd modern ideas of gender equality and empowerment of women are destroying this balance. Hence the tsunamis and global warming and whatnot. Let it be the way it is meant to be, says I.

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WAH !!!!!!!!!!! What a nice one. Where is it written that only woman has to look after his needs and give birth to kids and blah blah..... do all for her husband. What about the man? Doesnt he have any duties towards his wife and kids. I disagree. ! I guess you will never understand. Anyways we are discussing with this person's issue.

Listen **SWEETDOLL **this is your life and you know him better. You are still young and have your full rights to think and decide for your self. So think over it and then go ahead. Life does not end here. That's all what i can say. Take care.

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These two parts are really written by the hands of fate:hehe:

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OK I agree. But why do men pressurize on this that its only the wife why not husband. These men naaaa will never change neither understand. :mad:

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Men are too emphasize on women’s duties. Women are to emphasize on men’s duties. That is how it goes:p

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If man is the head of the family then woman is the neck. Noway the head can move without the help of neck & the head can not do anything without the neck because the neck connects it to the whole body.

and once I read it somewhere that

woman was created from man's rib...
not from his foot.......to be walked on....
not from his head.......to be superior over......
but from his side.........to be walked with side by side....
under his arm......to be protected.....
near the heart....to be loved.

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Women always live on emotional extremes and thats what happening in this thread . Women hating men , and with a passion . OP need to learn something from it , and fix her own situation .

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Here is what I read somewhere: Adam said to God, "God I need a partner who will keep me company, take care of me, stay with me through good and bad times, love me and care for me". God said, "Sure why not, but it will cost you an arm and a leg". Adam thought for a moment and said, "Alright what can I get for a rib?". And then God created woman.

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:k:

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:rotfl: :rotfl:

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You truly are a a devil’s advocate:snooty:

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i dont wanna say anything more. This discussion will just keep continuing and will unnecessarily stretch. What i've seen, observed, experienced and noticed, is that no matter whatever a woman does for her husband she is never appreciated. There are very few, or I must say 1 out of 100 who are sincere and loyal to their wives. Rest all devils.

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Lol ! That is why she is a partner , she take cares of her husband & she supports him through good and bad times & loves him like crazy. Now I know why we don’t find these attributes in men because Adam provided certain specification for women and in fact there was none when he himself was created. :hmmm:

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:omg:

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Distance in relationships can be killer sometimes. When you are only communicating via text messages and occasional pone calls and I/M , there are bound to be misunderstandings and arguments because a lot of times things can be taken out of context. It is very difficult to determine tone over texts and this can cause hurt feelings. Also, as someone stated above, 24 for guys is pretty young, and a lot of guys are still somewhat immature at that age.

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:k: yaayyyy…aye keeti na gall :smiley:

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sweetdoll…i think u should give each other some space…i had a long distance relationship with my fiance (present hubby :stuck_out_tongue: ) too for about 3 yrs…its difficult to maintain and carry on such a relationship…u have to show patience and give him time to miss you…these 100 mgs and lots n lots of calls make one appear as “chipkoo”…talk once or twice a week…that should be enough…in this way u two will have things to talk about and will feel each others importance …too much contact ruins a relationship!
and plzzzzz stop acting like kids…large fights over phone…atleast this never happened bw me n my fiance (although we had a 4.5 yrs long mangni)…wenever we talked…it was a polite and loving chit chat :wub: although sometimes u dont like what other person says or his point of view…but theres a better way to sort out things rather than fighting and arguing…
Best of luck!!!

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I dont know what to tell you. I think you have a lot of growing up to do. This is only baat pakki and you cannot handle it…what will happen when you get married?

Added to that, long distance relationships do not work well. When you’re in front of each other, you argue less. Maybe limit the convo’s to once or twice a week and make an effort to keep them light hearted as well as fun. Fighting over the phone is bad because you cannot see the ramifications of your words.

If you feel you’re mature enough to be in a relationship at 24…then be mature enough to manage it well.

:omg:

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[quote=““sweetdoll””]

Sweetdoll,

Here’s what I think. Yes, it IS strange for him to disappear like that. Yes, he IS being immature. But then again…YOU are ALSO being IMMATURE.

Look at the parts in your post that I have highlighted in black and blue. When he apologized and said that “it’s okay”…your mood was still off. I understand that it’s hard, but you need to learn to let things go and move on from them when the other person has apologized (some people never apologize). After that for the next few days he was courteous enough to call you and ask how you were doing…and you responded with “one-liners.” WHY??? Asking how you were doing… was like his attempt at trying to MOVE ON from the fight. But instead…you gave him one-liners…which probably gave him the impression that you’re holding a grudge.

I think you both are at fault. Him for disappearing…and you for not moving on after a person has said sorry. Yes, such a combination is going to cause frustrations in a relationship…and you both are not even married yet!

For right now…the first thing I would suggest is that you STOP calling him and sending him “100” messages. This makes you look desperate…which is a turn off to men…and also women…in general. He KNOWS that you’re sending him messages…he has read and heard them…he’s not interested in responding right now. Him not responding to you is his way of saying that he doesn’t want to talk right no. So, leave him alone sweetheart…and get busy with your life. You had a life before him as well.

He’s taking a break from you. So you go ahead and ALSO take a break from him. Use this time to really think about a few things:

  1. What is the reason behind these string of fights that you both are having?

  2. Reflect over YOU OWN behavior also. It’s so easy to blame the other person. But it takes 2 people to make a relationship. Think about your own actions that might be hurting him/the relationship.

  3. Ask yourself if you’re truly happy with him. Or if you are just going along with plans of marriage…only because…the baat has become “pakki” now…and you think it would “mess things up” if your break the engagement. “Baat pakki” should NOT be the sole reason for a person to continue a relationship. If you feel like he’s incompatible…then keep in mind…that it’s much easier to break off an engagement than a marriage. You still have time to end this before a marriage complicates things further.