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^^ Then be a Pashtoon brother, be brave
here is a tip, just tell your friends you are getting engaged/married this summer...
I knew her brother because he went to school with me. but not her. i did not know that she had a break up or something. did not even have the slightest idea. the only reason i went with all this was that my family wanted me to marry into pashtoons. when i heard some of her comments about life in general, i thought we could be compatible. I also thought she was suitable for me family wise. so that was pretty much it. but if i had known that it would lead to all this, i would never have had proceeded with it.
Maybe she thinks that you tried to use her brother to get to her.
Is her brother still friends with you? If he is still friends with you....then it's rude of her to ruin your reputation like this.
She's being immature. Just be normal. Pay attention to the lectures. Don't look at her. Don't talk about her to anyone in class. Don't mention her name. When everyone sees that you are not even looking at her.........they will think that she is stupid for talking about a guy who doesn't even pay attention to her. People will start questioning her honesty. Her stupid strategy/game/behavior will fail and blow up in her face. So let it blow up in her face.
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It's also possible that her boyfriend rejected/broke up with her.....so now her confidence is low.....and she's trying to build up her confidence by telling people that you were interested in her......as a way of proving that she is still "desirable" even after her boyfriend rejected her.
Dude, just wink at the guy seating nearest you......she'll get the message that you are NOT into her at all, LOL LOL LOL.
Although....that would give her....ahem...another reason to talk about you.
Ignore her.
hilarious advice der RV. props to u...... this dude shud try dt.... :p n then got GS n tlk bout her reaction.... :P
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Jaanaan... I guess you have been saved from lifelong hell through Divine intervention of seating arrangements.
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Maybe she was this way , only u din't notice it till after the rejection !
Now your more aware of her and thus picking up on subtle signs ...
Or maybe its just prolonged PMS :D
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Jaanan, the woman got an ego boost from your proposal and thinks you're in love with her and that her immature behaviour will actually make a difference to you.
Get someone to slap her. And you must not be serious and solemn around her, have a time of your life and ignore her completely. When you do that, she'll want to get your attention in more desperate ways then you can punk her off.
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^ lol lollll
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She deserves to be slapped, alright! It is not COOL to play deliberate mind games.
But slapping her will unleash the girl's brother after Jaanaan. LOL LOL LOL. Hmm....hitman slappers? Female hitman slappers?
I think if he just continues to treat her like VAPOR...........people will think she's a fool for talking about a guy who doesn't even give her the time of day. And by talking about him behind his back, she'll appear like an OBSESSED STALKER. People are going to wonder why the hell she talks about him when he doesn't even look her way. Then people will start spreading rumors that she LOVES HIM.
Seriously..........this immature girl is not using her head. She's not thinking this through. I don't know what she hopes to accomplish by talking smack about him........but it is sooooooooooooooooooo going to BLOW UP in her face eventually. And in the process of trying to defame his character............she'll end up destroying her own reputation.
She's setting herself up for HUMILIATION. And it will work out that way.........provided that Janaaan stops getting emotional and continues ignoring her.
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may be she has inflated ego? i knew someone in her position and she found it incredible that the guy just took her no decently and didnt try harder to seek her approval so maybe she is pushin your buttons to hold your attention.
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This girl developed a huge ego after you expressed interest in her. Some girls suffer from low self esteem and when they find out a guy is interested in them, they start acting really immature to make sure they sustain the guy's attention. But her refusal was a blessing in disguise coz you got to see her true personality.
She thinks you're madly in love with her so she is acting all snotty. I think you should just ignore her outright and not even acknowledge her existence! She'll get the hint that you're not dying for her attention and have moved on!
she is a pashtoon. her brother went to school with me. she is from a decent family. we both work for the government in the same cadre. she likes to laugh, and once told me that she loved reading books. I thought it would be be better if we were together becaus her house is like 2 hours away from mine, and so on occassions like Eid etc, it would be easier for her to be with my family and her own. plus there was the language thing. besides, i thought she is touching thirty and in pashtun society that is where your marriage proposals are non-existent for women. she is cute, but then most pashtoon women are cute. in any case those were the factors that led me to propose her.
i was not much of a friend, but had gotten in contact with her in this training. i had never asked her brother whether he had a sister, because I thought it was inappropriate in the pashtoon society.
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Well that explains everything ......
Pashtoon girls have huge Egos.....
Never mess with a pashtoon girl............
:D
Well that explains everything ......
Pashtoon girls have huge Egos.....
:D
bigger than pashtoon guys??
Lesson of the day Jaanaan , Stay Away from Pashtoon girls…:halo:
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^ Do they bite? 
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What does it matter.. you'll still be the jaanwar in the relationship if you got one! :p
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^ You make it sound like being a jaanwar in a relationship is a bad thing.
How old are you?
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Nope not bad at all, depends how extreme of a jaanwar u'd be tho :s each to their own i guess
why is that of interest to you?? im 20
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^ Specifics can be worked out.
Drop me your details, I promise to look into it.