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My mom would stay in her in-laws' home when we'd visit Pak and she'd invite her married sisters and their kids over. My dad would stay with us for a while and then he'd leave for work....and a few times my khalas and cousins have come to stay over. So, there are exceptions.
I'm sure your mum was doing all the kharchay, including treating her inlaws which earned her their silence and acceptance.
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I'm sure your mum was doing all the kharchay, including treating her inlaws which earned her their silence and acceptance.
My grandparents...especially daadi was very hospitable of my mom's family. She even made my mom's youngest sister, my khala, like her daughter.
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My grandparents...especially daadi was very hospitable of my mom's family. She even made my mom's youngest sister, my khala, like her daughter.
Point is, your mom wasn't living there with her inlaws.....accepted they were very hospitable but I note you didn't deny what I wrote.
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Really if your inlaws dont want you to put cream in the kheer then dont put it in. Simple.
You said it was a petty thng that caused this argument. Was cream in the kheer such a big issue for you?
and hte award for missing the point goes to........
yeah because nobody here has hjad to deal with constantly being picked apart...... everyone here is so perfect and has such wonderful lives. :)
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and hte award for missing the point goes to........
yeah because nobody here has hjad to deal with constantly being picked apart...... everyone here is so perfect and has such wonderful lives. :)
Would the kheer have tasted that bad without cream?
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Would the have kheer tasted that bad without cream?
I dont disagree you and the kheer without cream is not a big deal too.. the point is not cream.. not kheer, the point is of putting me in trouble everytime!!
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Point is, your mom wasn't living there with her inlaws.....accepted they were very hospitable but I note you didn't deny what I wrote.
Catskin, there are exceptions okay? My mom did not live with her in-laws. But my chaachi lived with my dada/dadi and even she never felt uneasy about having her married siblings over....in fact my chachi's nieces/nephews would even spend the night over. As for the expenses...my grandparents got their money from their sons (my dad, chacha, taya) which was used for a variety of purposes...(hospitality, etc). Even when my mom wasn't in Pak....my dadi would make courtesy phone calls/visists to my mom's side of the family for various occasions.
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I dont disagree you and the kheer without cream is not a big deal too.. the point is not cream.. not kheer, the point is of putting me in trouble everytime!!
ok point taken... but you have to chose which battles to fight. If you make a big fuss over food ingrediants you will look like a crazy DIL.
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Catskin, there are exceptions okay? My mom did not live with her in-laws. But my chaachi lived with my dada/dadi and even she never felt uneasy about having her married siblings over....in fact my chachi's nieces/nephews would even spend the night over. As for the expenses...my grandparents got their money from their sons (my dad, chacha, taya) which was used for a variety of purposes...(hospitality, etc). Even when my mom wasn't in Pak....my dadi would make courtesy phone calls/visists to my mom's side of the family for various occasions.
So if you accept that there are exceptions then my point about desi culture was correct and your family may have been an exception.
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the problem is, I don’t want to fight, I just want them to live and let live!! kaun samjhaae unhe!! 
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So if you accept that there are exceptions then my point about desi culture was correct and your family may have been an exception.
Reemy, I was battling her "highness".........I forgot your point. What was it again?
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Reemy, I was battling her "highness".........I forgot your point. What was it again?
post#31 :D
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post#31 :D
Oh ok. I dunno man....because now I'm thinking of my married khalas and cousins who live/d with their in-laws and they invited their families over at tunes. I've heard the classic saying that you shouldn't impose on your married daughter that way....but I guess I haven't seen it practiced.