Discussing it here because I am too much tensed.. although things are set.. but not a good feeling.
Something which I am going to discuss here is absolutely something minor.. but when few things keep on happening (because you have been ignoring it) it starts troubling and one day, you can’t tolerate it! I hope people who have gone through it.. will understand me!
(as my husband isn’t here with me) I have noticed from a couple of months.. that my in-laws have started teasing me for nothing! previously, whenever I asked my father in law to bring me something (anything that can be related to a veg or fruit for home, not for me), he used to tell me how much it was of while handing it over to me.. it was fine twice or thrice but it started happening for every single thing, from salt to yogurt, from a capsicum to tomatoes.. I was like ignoring it… then it started happening that when I used to ask him to bring me something, he was replying “O, ye to market me mil hi nahin rahi” I used to request him for weeks to bring me that particular fruit, medicine etc! (I don’t have a long list) apart from this, whenever his daughters were at home, EVERYTHING was available in the market, at ANY time! I still stayed quiet.. (Again will tell you, this is not the one time stories.. It started happening like hell)
Now something that happened today, and which I am tensed for!
I invited my family and married sisters at my home tomorrow.. A lot of frozen meat was already available at home and even it was given by my mom and my sister.. so I thought to use it.. problem was solved and NO big expense was left.. there was a very small list which included cream, yogurt, and two three things more.. I had a plan to cook kheer in meetha for tomorrow.. but then again when i was there at Tea, they started inquiring like if I was in a court.. why cream? dont add cream, you never used to add cream, we can eat plain kheer, you dont need to add cream!! blah blah! I controlled myself and kept smiling, reminded them that I have always used cream in kheer and that if you dont eat it I will pour out the kheer for you before I add cream, but they were like.. Uf… Ok I was like (ye itni choti baat kese ker saktay hain..jabke koi khaas kharcha ho hi nahin raha). I moved from there, but ofcourse my mood was off, my nands were there too.. i wanted to talk to them to make them realise that their parents are not doing right! but I couldn’t get time because pehle mairay aik nandoi aagaye, so I didnt want to discuss the personal matters infront of him baad main my second nandoi came.. so i couldnt talk to my nands.. meanwhile, my hubby phoned me and he realised there is something going wrong with me.. I was already tensed and told him.. (kitna bardasht karoon jo baar baar ho raha tha ye sab) he said, ok phone rakho, I am calling them, I said, NO, you dont need to, please dont, leave it, but he said, do as i am saying.. and there he phoned at home.. things went wrong.. my mom in law almost shouted on me infront of her damaads.. she was the one who initiated & then I told her too that they have been doing wrong with me! then my nand came from another room and shouted at me too… I won’t say I stayed quiet but I wanted to make her understand logically.. but only two people are logical at my home.. ME and my Husband! noone else understands the word Logic!!
well then, one of their cousins came suddenly and she saw this happening.. I said to my nand that, I will talk later and left the room but then you know, typical nand saas game started infront of her.. I was very hurt.. called my husband and told him, didnt I stop you of calling them.. my voice was almost shivering.. because seriously, i dont like fights and i keep myself away from this stuff and I am not typical too so I kept on ignoring it… but it was a limit.. limit of my tolerance!
later he called my nand and fought with her, made her realise her mistake and asked her to come to me and set things… she did it eventually.. things are set now too… but I am crying inside.. I never wanted this to happen, and specially happeing it infront of others!! I just want to be with my husband asap! He is the only one who understands me!
There are “thousand” things that I didn’t mention in the whole situation.. but I will keep on writing and you will be tired…of reading!! as I am tired.. of going through!!