Punch my husbands face in. LOL. Ok sorry. Um, inform my parents straightaway of the situation so they are aware of the mistreatment and can step in to support me.
Talk to my husband and determine the reasoning behind his actions. Why the need to slap? Over what?
Push the divorce card on the table, basically calling his bluff, because I doubt he would divorce with a child to consider and the fact that in a fudged up way he loves you.
Once he begs and pleads not for divorce, clarify that you wish to live separately from the inlaws and only on this ground you will return to the marriage.
Some people may think that pushing the divorce card maybe a little extreme, but in my eyes slapping your wife IN FRONT of his no good mother is not something that should ever ever be tolerated.
There is no islamic obligation for you to live with his parents. Explain that to him. Demand your own private quarters/accommodation, but near enough so that he can look after his parents.
I would push for separation from inlaws. These people will not let her live otherwise. That's just my two cents.
Agree with most of that.
Her husband is an absolute scumbag for hitting her, needs to be put in his place; your friend needs to stand up for herself.
Jo ksi k sath jesa krta hai wesa bharta hai,the best revenge is to be silent sabar karen or dekhen us k maa baap shareef log hain wo ziada se ziada kia karlenge?sab se behter badla dene wala Allah tala hai or ye duniya ek makafat e amal hai...apne apko pareshan na kare avoid kare aisi aurten apne kamo se kabhi baaz nai ati or she is too naive infront of her cleverer mil jo b karegi uske agay uski mil ne chalaki se ulta usey bura bana dena hai u can expect anything from her...saas ka mamla to Allah tala par chor de or khd ko carefree rakhe mil ko ignore kare yehi us k lye bht hai.since she cant do anything else shohar mama's boy hai us k samne sch b kahe to farq nahi parna ulta us ne sochna hai k meri maa ki izat nai krti or mri maa sach kehti hai....
Shohar se araaam se bat kare baad mai k tmne is tarha kiu kiya?or shohar ki marzi k bagher ghar se na jaye kahin and try to make husband understand that hitting her infront of family is very embarracing and he hurts her feelings by doing so..
Jo ksi k sath jesa krta hai wesa bharta hai,the best revenge is to be silent sabar karen or dekhen us k maa baap shareef log hain wo ziada se ziada kia karlenge?sab se behter badla dene wala Allah tala hai or ye duniya ek makafat e amal hai...apne apko pareshan na kare avoid kare aisi aurten apne kamo se kabhi baaz nai ati or she is too naive infront of her cleverer mil jo b karegi uske agay uski mil ne chalaki se ulta usey bura bana dena hai u can expect anything from her...saas ka mamla to Allah tala par chor de or khd ko carefree rakhe mil ko ignore kare yehi us k lye bht hai.since she cant do anything else shohar mama's boy hai us k samne sch b kahe to farq nahi parna ulta us ne sochna hai k meri maa ki izat nai krti or mri maa sach kehti hai....
Shohar se araaam se bat kare baad mai k tmne is tarha kiu kiya?or shohar ki marzi k bagher ghar se na jaye kahin and try to make husband understand that hitting her infront of family is very embarracing and he hurts her feelings by doing so..
u r right aur wo husband se poochay bina koi kaam nahin kerti, balkay uska husband usay mana bhi nahin kerta aur khushi khushi maan bhi leta hay magar us ke janay ke baad najanay maa kia baten parati hay ke uske aanay p shohor ke tewar badlay huay hotay hain!! thats wht she said!!
I find it appaling that we still take domestic violence so lightly here in pk.
First time they raise their hands it doesn’t stop. They will apologize plead & do it again.I don’t know why Women keep giving eternal second chances, believing they will change.
She should have informed her family the first time only. Since you said they aren’t the fighting type that will work in her favour, such ppl think cool calmly and do the best for their daughter.They will be firm for her.Trust me No parent wants their child to suffer,regardless of a love or arranged marriage.She has nothing to feel guilty about, his actions define him.
If she has a child brought up in this environment then it will effect their personality & behavioral development creating problems in adolescence . the first advice psychologists give is to remove your child from this environment because it has long term effects which one can’t even imagine.
)1She should stay with her parents for a while & ask that other than empty assurances he actually takes steps to change his behaviour.
2)Ask that both see a marriage counsellor or atleast he sees one .He needs to be able to talk with someone who can help him. sometimes men feel pulled in two directions by their wives & mums and react.Usually it’s the wife who bears the brunt/strain of the relationship (& as she’s seen there is no reward for it, just more taunts & violence).
He needs to change his pattern & have an outlet but this will take time & only if he is willing & has an open mind .
Tell him that unless he doesn’t get a separate place she won’t go back.
There will be no more tolerating mental & verbal abuse from her MIL in private situations when she meet she will be cordial. People like her need to be made to feel what they did wasn’t right.
Tell her however hard it is she must be strong & you need to be very strong for her so that she sticks by her decisions.The betterment of a child isn’t only in the best school toys and clothes, it’s the environment & loving home they are brought up in that matters to.
She must take a stand for herself & her baby.
Yo sup queen. Ya're friend's husband is complete mama boy yo. With that said..this guy lost himself respect when he raised his hands at his wife. Anyway yo..pray for ya're friend.
It’s funny how some of the men are making fun of some guppans who “always” recommend divorce.
In cases where the husband abuses his wife, I don’t know what else there is to recommend. Whether it’s emotional or physical abuse, behind closed doors or infront of other people, abuse is abuse and NO ONE deserves it. The husband should be ashamed of himself. The MIL should be ashamed of herself for not stopping her son.
Your friend needs to ask herself what she wants. Can she live with a man who’ll beat her, that too in front of her MIL, can she live like this for the rest of her life? Doesn’t she feel like she deserves more in life? It’s sad how some women just choose to stay in an abusive relationship because divorce is such a taboo topic in our culture. And because of that they ruin their entire lives and any chance of happiness by staying with an abusive man.
How stupid, hum loug idher larr rahay hain, ghar chor do, divorce lay lo, told you you only gonna get these suggestions, ider 50% tu despo divorcees hain, kiss nay apna banda chor diya aur kisi ke wifey usay chor k bahg gayee and 40% k paas rishtay nahi hain 10 % minority hai aur yeh 90% loug unhay khush nahi dekh saktay.Tum ahsay hee pareshan ho rahi ho woh uder aram say Japi dal ker Papi ker rahay houn gay!!
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aap zaroor 10% main shaamil hongay.......
app khush hain kay nahin?
chalo....baqi 90% ab AF ko khush karnay main lago.......shabash!
