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Are you self-centered and too high on yourself that he told you to 'get over yourself'?. Are you sure you are not pushing him to say this?
i was wondering the same as well.
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discuss it with him- don't let it slide. open communication is a HUGE part of any relationship... having said that, it doesn't mean the two people in the relationship don't have to use tact and show care and concern for each other.
i mean seriously....what's their to communicate about here. She will ask "do you really think I'm not THAT pretty" then he'll make up some lie to right the wrong or to avoid the confrontation all together.
It'll just make matters worse in my opinion. Not EVERYTHING needs to be discussed.
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Yea..i was like how can I be with you if you don't find me attractive? His reply: obviously I find you attractive. Then he proceeds to say how nothing stands out abt me...I am just confused as hell. Like REALLY? Absolutely nothing stands out abt me? Thats just absurd
Wow. I smell a discussion laced with emotions. Let the emotions cool down , give yourself and him some time to think through and get over it. Then see where you two stand and what should be you future course of action.
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i mean seriously....what's their to communicate about here. She will ask "do you really think I'm not THAT pretty" then he'll make up some lie to right the wrong or to avoid the confrontation all together.
It'll just make matters worse in my opinion. Not EVERYTHING needs to be discussed.
what i meant is, she needs to let him know he needs to be more sensitive and not just blurt out his first thought- i mean, tact doesn't mean you don't communicate, it means you understand that your offhand comments can hurt the other person and should be curbed or rephrased better. its not about insisting he clarify if he loves her or not- thats already been said and the damage is done- but if they want to continue in this relationship, then moving forward, they need to figure out a better way of talking to each other.
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Okay let him be honest then what? Why should I settle for this when I KNOW there are men out there who think otherwise? I like it when people compliment me, I'm sorry, maybe I'm shallow. If an aira ghaira can compliment then why cant he? He never compliments me..which is okay. But this is too much
lol then why are you mad if you can settle with someone else who can comment on your beauty more than him? Then I hate to say that you so-called love aint true love. Love is beyond way beyond looks. If he said something that is hurting or making you mad - then you are no less than him b/c in return you are thinking the same.
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it just seemed like he was being stupid and honest about it...trust me, he really is not that smart lol. And you're right, it does NOT need to be discussed bc he'll just backtrack and start making up excuses. He keeps saying looks dont matter to him, hes not that shallow. And this is exactly what I told him...I'm sorry but I want my man to think I'm gorgeous. Thats just the way I am. And forget that, I go OUT of my way to compliment him, make him feel better about himself blah blah because I care and I never wanted him to feel like he wasn't good enough for me.
And now i feel like the tables have turned and I was like stunned when he said that to me. I could not speak. And he has no idea what he's done. He has no like noo ideaaa why I'm mad, or why I'm even thinking abt ending it. In fact, I feel guilty about even mentioning the option of ending it lol!
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it just seemed like he was being stupid and honest about it...trust me, he really is not that smart lol. And you're right, it does NOT need to be discussed bc he'll just backtrack and start making up excuses. He keeps saying looks dont matter to him, hes not that shallow. And this is exactly what I told him...I'm sorry but I want my man to think I'm gorgeous. Thats just the way I am. And forget that, *I go OUT of my way to compliment him, make him feel better about himself blah blah because I care and I never wanted him to feel like he wasn't good enough for me. *
And now i feel like the tables have turned and I was like stunned when he said that to me. I could not speak. And he has no idea what he's done. He has no like noo ideaaa why I'm mad, or why I'm even thinking abt ending it. In fact, I feel guilty about even mentioning the option of ending it lol!
maybe we should trust him, you really aren't that pretty. And all along people have been going out of THEIR way to compliment you and make you feel good.
How's that?
The point here is. If he loves you, and really feels for you. Then his little slip of the tongue, if you will, about your "prettyness" shouldn't matter. He should've reworded it but like Mirch said, he's probably trying to tell you that you're pretty but he loves you for more than the looks. I know it hurt somewhat. But, i mean c'moon. Do you want him to compliment just because you compliment him? Don't you want it to be natural...
Take it like a compliment and run with it. If you get hung up on these little things, you'll have a hard time moving forward and you're thinking about marriage. I suggest you be a little light-hearted and not put him on the scale with the others and how they compliment you and he doesn't. Because he's not them. He's unique to you.
ps: we all think you're pretty pretty. Give the fella a break.
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lol then why are you mad if you can settle with someone else who can comment on your beauty more than him? Then I hate to say that you so-called love aint true love. Love is beyond way beyond looks. If he said something that is hurting or making you mad - then you are no less than him b/c in return you are thinking the same.
Um...what? I'm thinking what? I'm mad because when you love someone you think everything about them is beautiful. Yea loving my personality is cool and everything but honey that aint enough for me, because I DO love everything about him...almost...
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maybe we should trust him, you really aren't that pretty. And all along people have been going out of THEIR way to compliment you and make you feel good.
How's that?
The point here is. If he loves you, and really feels for you. Then his little slip of the tongue if you will about your "prettyness" shouldn't matter. He should've reworded it but like Mirch said, he's probably trying to tell you that you're pretty but he loves you for more than the looks.
Take it like a compliment and run with it. If you get hung up on these little things, you'll have a hard time moving forward and you're thinking about marriage. I suggest you be a little light-hearted and not put him on the scale with the others and how they compliment you and he doesn't. Because he's not them. He's unique to you.
Thats exactly my point! Even if I show up lookin nasty and sh*t, he should still find me attractive because he loves me. Does nobody understand this?
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The guy is saying that you are not the prettiest person out there, which would be a fact as mentioned by Sara there is always someone better out there in every field. But the real question is does he love you? He probably does, but then if you are in love you would only see the positives in a person as love is blind.
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**The guy is saying that you are not the prettiest person out, which would be a fact **as mentioned by Sara there is always someone better out there in every field. But the real question is does he love you? He probably does, but then if you are in love you you only see the positives in a person as love is blind.
exactly!
i dont see the issue here...unless of course she wants him to constantly tell her how she is the most beautiful girl in the world. Hmmm I guess some girls like to hear that even if it is a lie?
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maybe we should trust him, you really aren't that pretty. And all along people have been going out of THEIR way to compliment you and make you feel good.
How's that?
The point here is. If he loves you, and really feels for you. Then his little slip of the tongue if you will about your "prettyness" shouldn't matter. He should've reworded it but like Mirch said, he's probably trying to tell you that you're pretty but he loves you for more than the looks.
Take it like a compliment and run with it. If you get hung up on these little things, you'll have a hard time moving forward and you're thinking about marriage. I suggest you be a little light-hearted and not put him on the scale with the others and how they compliment you and he doesn't. Because he's not them. He's unique to you.
ps: we all think you're pretty pretty. Give the fella a break.
Perfect on the dot.
Aminch: Your whole thread is about like yelling, "I am pretty guys look @ me and compliment me" You started off saying you love him and you love everything about him and now b/c of one single comment all fo a sudden you turned around saying he is not all that blah blah blah.
I won't say anything to satisfy you here b/c I haven't heard his side. Who knows he might got sick n tired of you bragging about beauty all the time and also that every guy compliments you. Honey, if you told him that other guys compliment you more than him - that was the perfect recipe to make him say what he said. Again, im assuming this could happen but can't witness it since ur BF is not here.
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He kept saying, “I’m just being honest, I’m not gonna lie.” Then I’m like, so why are you with me? “Because something about you pulls me towards you.” Yeaaaaaaa okay. It must be my Mother Theresa like personality :rollingeyes: I mean why don’t you just marry Mother Theresa then? She’s awesome
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Thats exactly my point! Even if I show up lookin nasty and sh*t, he should still find me attractive because he loves me. Does nobody understand this?
who knows maybe he does. He was just having a bad day and end up telling you the truth.
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It happens. You see someone whose HOT and think ... WOW. But then you get to know them and their personality/character (or lack thereof) somehow downplays their physical beauty. And the opposite is true as well, they might look "eh" but if you get to know them, they just look so much better b/c you know them.
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I guess it might have something to do with low self-esteem.
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i dont get you…seriously! 
you should be flattered that he is after you because of your personality and not based on your looks alone.
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she has been dead 10 yrs ago if u might not have notice by now. Otherwise he would have and I would have given him props for that at least. He doesn’t lie He is honest - good for him :k:
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exactly!
i dont see the issue here...unless of course she wants him to constantly tell her how she is the most beautiful girl in the world. Hmmm I guess some girls like to hear that even if it is a lie?
That is so not the case! I dont understand how two people could love each other and not feel that way? I know I come off as this needy person who always needs to hear it but yea I do need to hear it from him because I'll be spending the rest of my life with him
And hes not my boyfriend
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you and ur bf are meant to be together 