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I know that sometimes DILS can be the guilty ones. But I do feel bad for those the victims of persistent abuse. For them....a little "taiz hona" won't be such a crime. :)
a friend told abt another friend who taped her mil's convo n gav the tape to her husband"ab bolo" how effective it was dunno
After watching it, some husbands will only get more confused!!!! Lol! :)
After watching it, some husbands will only get more confused!!!! Lol! :)
Is there no humanity left? Spying on MILs? chchchchchchchchchchch.
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Mabrook - that's some awesome stuff there - no revenge against in-laws, no back-biting, no scheming, just giving your hubby one hundred percent support and smiles to everyone! Gullible, listen to mabrook.
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Husband apna white ho
Lambi uski height ho
Guhssay ka wo light ho
Pocket uski tight ho
Jab Saas se meri fight ho
kahey Begum tum right ho!
Marbook u have given me another great advice. N I live at Faisalabad. U know Its been two years that I'm giving them smiles n listening to my husband n saying sorry to them. But now the situation is different. May b I should open a new thread and write the story exactly. Someone above suggested mr to give het a gift. U know she has come from abroad a week earlier, she brought gifts for everyone. Brought clothes, perfumes, sandals, accessories for my hubby n clothes, shoes, toys, books etc for my son. Not even a single rose petal for me. Should I still b giving her gift? Should my husband still b asking me to sorry them? I think I should write the whole story sometime in new thread.
Marbook u have given me another great advice. N I live at Faisalabad. U know Its been two years that I'm giving them smiles n listening to my husband n saying sorry to them. But now the situation is different. May b I should open a new thread and write the story exactly. Someone above suggested mr to give het a gift. U know she has come from abroad a week earlier, she brought gifts for everyone. Brought clothes, perfumes, sandals, accessories for my hubby n clothes, shoes, toys, books etc for my son. Not even a single rose petal for me. Should I still b giving her gift? Should my husband still b asking me to sorry them? I think I should write the whole story sometime in new thread.
gullible ,,,,,, distance ur self frm ur husband physially .not for a week or two but as long as it takes not until he sits u down n tries to find out whtas bothering u .............. men only understand this language...
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Gullible is it possibe for you to go to your parents house for a few days? just to take a break and also to give your husband the message that something is not right?
btw was it a love marriage or arranged marriage?
It was completely arrange. N I can't go to my parents in this situation. My sil insulted my parents after that called my mil on phone while she was abroad n filled her mind against my parents n me. She didn't tell Her a single word that she used for my parents. Now mil is back but she doesn't know a single thing wat exactly happened. Not even my hubby told her. So she isn't talking to me. N all the family is brainwashing my husband. He is also not talking to me. N askin me for to sorry them. This is all fed to him by his mom n sis n younger bro. N if I will leave in this situation, u know wat can happen. His family will make him against me even more n will say khud Naraz ho k chali gai hai khud he aanay do. Koi zaroorat nai hai usay laanay ki. N things will get even worse.
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Gullible plz do write ur story in detail. i don't want to share mine openly but i went thru a lot. but i did some mistakes too may be lot more coz no one really told me wat to do then. rest i hav tried almost all things personally that others r suggesting here n then wat i suggested. i knew wat worked for me and wat didn't.
they r slowly creating diff b/w u n ur hubby n they r winning at it. u need to strategize ur battle over here.
u cannot solve this prob by going to ur parent's house or by physically denying him. bringing ur family or others into the matter will only worsen it. its u n them. u r alone n they r many. ur only hope is ur husband. us ko apni side pe kero. now the thing is some gals want immediate results. these things happen slowly. grow out of personal hurts us ne ye kaha ,ye kia, mujhay sorry kehna para, mujhay gifts nahi milay... STOP expecting. it only will bring hurts. u giv things, u do things not for them for urself, for ur happy marriage.
i know its very depressing but this is a fight. a fight for survival. u hav no army, no power but only a wise mind n smart movements can help u thru.
PM me.
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Tu Sorry ker lo Gullible. first go to ur hubby n us se baat kero. keho my parents just wanted to help me but nahin ye hmara family matter hai unhain bolna nahi chahiay tha. agay se aisa nahi ho ga. main aap se unki taraf se sorry kerti hon.
then u n hubby make up n go to mil. us se bhi sorry bole do. agay ja ker hug ker lo. keho aap bhi meri mother hain aur wo bhi. main app ko naraz nahi daikh sakti.
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It will be my parents insult :( n u don't know my saas she is too stubborn n cunning. She will always pressurize me if I say sorry to her. Y is she expecting sorry without listening to me? I don't feel like sorrying her
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Atleast husband ko sochna chahiye unhain sharam nai aye ge apni biwi se maafiyan mangwaein gae
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My mil is not the person who will understand my sorry n will get back to normal. Wo akkar jaeein ge n husband k aur kaan bharain ge k dekha is ki ghalti thi. Pehlay b jab maslay hotay thay tow tumhari biwi ki he ghalti hoti thi. My saas is a gaaon ki lady and illiterate too.
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usay nahi ati ho gee sharam. tumhain bhi nahi ani chahiay. they r cunning so u hav to b like dem. ur parent's r not insulted by ur saying sorry on their behalf. they'll b proud of u how u handled everything so tactfully. think ur mil is a toddler that fusses on everything n hav frequent tanturams. giv her a loli as needed n ignore her at other times.
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Kill ur ego n all ur doubts. make up a plan n act accordingly.
u r not saying sorry to ur mil from ur heart but just to cool things off. atleast u n hubby will b on talking terms.
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N yes mabrook u r understanding me exactly. They r trying to create space between me n my husband. My saas is trying this since long. She once said ......(hubby's name) ko shadi se pehlay koi aur larki pasand thi. I mean maaein kh apnay beton ki zindagi kharab karna chaahein ge?
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aur wo isi liay kamyaab ho rehay hain coz u r not stoping them effectively. u hav not been able to bound with ur hubby correctly. u know when there r leaks in ur roof water drips if there r no cracks in ur bond with ur hubby there will b no leakages.
ur mil is no more a mother. she's just an angry women that wants revenge n sees no boundary.
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Wouldn't it b ok if I first talk to my mil politely n explain her the whole story first? Then wait n see wat is the outcome, uskay baad koi aur step loon?
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pehlay hubby phir mil.
n from today make it ur rule no more explanations. "haan saari ghalti bus meri hai" attitude.