Actually i had made a mistake that i check his sms and react very harldy i cried and react in the reaction of my behaive he told me that she is only her friend and then he is hidding her calls and sms from me now
now i am thinking all the time May be my hubby taking to her chatting with her or sending her msgs etc the girl is her class fellow my hubby is still studying...
I am still checking his calls and msgs but i find no clue that he is still talking with her or not but i think HE ISS...
the problem is that i cant talk more about that issue with him because he told me that "i hurt him alot and he stop talking her and if he had an affair with her he finished that all"
how can I get rid of this though that he is talking chatting sending msgs to her from his office .....?
I am really in pain
Actually i had made a mistake that i check his sms and react very harldy i cried and react in the reaction of my behaive he told me that she is only her friend and then he is hidding her calls and sms from me now now i am thinking all the time May be my hubby taking to her chatting with her or sending her msgs etc the girl is her class fellow my hubby is still studying... I am still checking his calls and msgs but i find no clue that he is still talking with her or not but i think HE ISS... the problem is that i cant talk more about that issue with him because he told me that "i hurt him alot and he stop talking her and if he had an affair with her he finished that all" how can I get rid of this though that he is talking chatting sending msgs to her from his office .....? I am really in pain
Rida, you're married now. Your hubby is your husband...meaning there are no secrets between you two. If he is making you feel guilty for checking his phone, its because he wants to take the heat off himself. If she is just a class fellow, why didnt he mention her to you? How come you found out this way? Did you find any bad messages in his phone or were they pretty normal messages?
He says you hurt him??? You just caught your husband chatting with some girl you dont know and he is hurt??? How about your pain? Did he forget how hurt you were when you found those messages? Not to mention how hurt you are right now? What about the pain you're in?
Has his attitude changed with you? Does he spend time with you or does he always make excuses that he has something to do? Does he get angry easily these days?
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Rida, i think u are still over stressed on this issue, if he has told u that he has stopped chatting n talking to her, then why not beliveing that? i kno its not that easy , its not really a big deal if they exchange sms n calls but it can create a problem if ur hubby find out that ur still lacking trust on him.
all em trying to say here is that if u'll show ur trust on him, he will feel satisfied and respectfull automatically,
just let him kno that u belive him what ever he says, u have a blind trust on him,
(make it fake if u really dont....) but never leave any clue that show ur lacking trust on him,
this is why he said that "u hurt him" , as u over reacted , he figured out that u dont trust him or u have less trust on him, just let him kno that u have a blind trust on him, belive me he will appreaciate u for that
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I wouldn't let my husband text another girl some friend no way it leads to other things. Confront him talk to him sort the problem out now x
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^lol im not even married
Actually i had made a mistake that i check his sms and react very harldy i cried and react in the reaction of my behaive he told me that she is only her friend and then he is hidding her calls and sms from me now now i am thinking all the time May be my hubby taking to her chatting with her or sending her msgs etc the girl is her class fellow my hubby is still studying... I am still checking his calls and msgs but i find no clue that he is still talking with her or not but i think HE ISS... the problem is that i cant talk more about that issue with him because he told me that "i hurt him alot and he stop talking her and if he had an affair with her he finished that all" how can I get rid of this though that he is talking chatting sending msgs to her from his office .....? I am really in pain
Rida.....either you believe him or you dont. He said all that needed to be said...now the ball is in your court.
Trust is the key to a healthy marriage....for any relationship as a matter of fact. Without trust your marriage wont survive.
We dont know your husband...only you do. Only you know if he is trustworthy or not. What is your gut feeling telling you? go with that feeling. If you do not trust him then keep an eye on him....but dont let him know that you are. you will find the answer you are looking for eventually.
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Just play innocent and goofy at same time , you girls are good at it :D
yea we are 
I mean if you Girls stop hankering over married males , such situations would never happen.
No one here is trying to get the main root . which is , a woman messing with another woman’s married life .
So who is the real culprit here ?
Bibi , we men ( most of us ) can’t have the same daal over and over again , if we don’t get chicken at home , we do dine out . That’s our nature .
To control us , our women should play fearlessly aggressive and innocently goofy at same time .
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It's scary to go through your partners phone afraid of what you will find - it shouldn't be like this
I love him lot i cant explain how much i m deadly in pain and stressed I want relief from this pain i cant let him go away and nor keep him free and cant make restrictions....
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^just talk to him and pray to allah swt inshallah everything will work out for you xx
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Whatever happened to love and genuine connections?
Why play mind games with your spouse?
Talk to him - explain you're fears and express your love.
Leave the rest to Allah
You may be able to sway him now with mind games but what about later..?
Do you constantly have to be acting?
Good luck with everything.
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^ agree, pray to allah (SWT) and inshallah everything will be fine :)
just tell him what you have said here. Apologise for going through his phone and tell him what you feel. For instance it wasn't the fact that he was texting a female class fellow it was the fact that he had never mentioned her and you got a bit suspicious and scared because you love him so much you are scared to lose him. Basically lay your heart bare and tell him you want no secrets between each other and that you do trust him and show this to him with your actions.
Then inshallah everything will be fine
I mean if you Girls stop hankering over married males , such situations would never happen.
No one here is trying to get the main root . which is , a woman messing with another woman’s married life .
So who is the real culprit here ?
Bibi , we men ( most of us ) can’t have the same daal over and over again , if we don’t get chicken at home , we do dine out . That’s our nature .
To control us , our women should play fearlessly aggressive and innocently goofy at same time .
:)
Im sorry Aliyish, I dont see how its the OTHER girl's fault here. SHE is not married and has absolutely NO responsibility towards Rida. She could care less about Rida. Its the husband who married her and promised to be loyal and faithful...not the other girl. The responsibility lies directly on his shoulders as he is well aware of his duties and is neglecting his family for some home wrecker.
Reverse the situation: Dont you think married girls get hit on? Is it any easier for girls to walk away from temptation? No, its not. Society would blame the girl if she started talking/texting some class fellow, right? That she should know better? Same rule applies here...
I love him lot i cant explain how much i m deadly in pain and stressed I want relief from this pain i cant let him go away and nor keep him free and cant make restrictions....
Honestly, I dont see why he should even pretend to be upset. He upset you...and now he is playing victim.
You need to put your foot down and fix your married life. Its YOUR marriage, not this other girl's.
Stop thinking he is hurt. He isnt in more pain than you and he is obviously not making any efforts to help put you at ease.
I know I sound harsh but I just cant seem to sympathize with this guy...
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this is ridiculous yeh u love him but that doesnt mean he takes that for granted and plays around as he knows his wife is too scared to leave him
sorry i think here you need to gather all your courage and be upfront , he is married to you and texting and taking calls from another girl is not acceptable . he shouldnt be having female friends at all.
men think they can get away with all this simply because women let them
and all this taking care of urself and being all trendy is rubbish , if he married u im sure he must have seen beyond ur looks and if he hasnt then you have truly married a real dog.
ask him how would he like it if you were texting and calling a male friends of yours , he is not the victim here at all.
please stand up for urself and do not let him get away with it.
Teach him a lesson he won’t forget.
Don’t you dare feel guilty or feel pity for yourself even for a nanosecond! 
Don’t feel insecure - the more confident you look and carry yourself, the more appealing you’d be for him.
Get a life of your own - go out with friends, dress up, have a good time - glow with happiness and show him indifference. Be independent emotionally - or atleast pretend to!
See how he comes running back to you!
^ :k:
ALIYISH… what makes you think the other woman even knows he is married?
can’t blame the other woman w/o knowing the facts.