My husband said it was my choice as to whether he be in the labour room or not... i wasn't sure if i wanted him seeing how "messy" i'd be during the process.
But now that he was there for the first, and the awesome support that he was... there is no way i'm having the second without him.
and yeah, only Aga Khan allow the Dads into the labour... and only Aga Khan allow Dads to be with the wife during regular ultrasound checkups... every other place makes 'em wait outside so they never get to see or hear the baby before arrival :(
This competition is everywhere not just pakistan..as for husbands not being allowed here..then yea as chips said that might be the case in govt hospitals but private hospitals do allow (not just agha khan..I went to ziauddin)but its not a popular trend here cause of the sharam haya sorta concept..
My case was complicated or else I would have allowed him to be there:hypo:
I had a private room in which i stayed..even in the labour room, when I was called for checkups they had a separate room for each patient..and separate delivery room aswell.. So mom, MIL and hubby were with me throughtout..even in the delivery room..until the actual delivery..which took 5mins:konfused: it might sound weird but only my MIL was with me in the delivery room(I was there for 4hours waiting for the doc) cause hubby and mom were resting a bit lol since they had been with me through the whole night..so in the end only MIL was left who kept on rubbing my back and giving me zamzam:wub:
I think husbands are rarely allowed during anasthesia because thats where everyone really needs to concentrate - the actual procedure is less complicated then anaesthesia.
I think in pakistan maybe alot of the women dont want their husbands with them as they are embarrassed?
The reason many don't allow the dad in there until everything is "set-up" is b/c often the dad's interfere OR can't handle being in the OR for so long. It gives them time to look around the room, see all the equipment, sit there and see the little things being done to wife etc......many men mentally freak themselves out over this and lose focus on what they're there for (ie. to lend emotional support to the wife). Hence they're brought in once everything is "ready to go" and the wife actually needs him to talk to her and keep her calm.
My husband was right there with me holding my hand while I was getting my spinal block, but then again, everything happened so fast because of the emergency c section, maybe that’s why they didn’t ask him to leave?
khattichic -- Yeah, that's how my cousin's was. And that was what I expected to happen. But they took into the OR first, tried to distract me (tho I could hear the anesthesiologist behind me prepping things), gave me the shot, and it was just seconds before the surgery actually started that hubby was rushed in.
Maybe. Of course this varies with differnet hospitals and many times, the anesthesiologist’s themselves will allow or not allow the hubby to stay. I know in my hubby’s group, they’ll allow 1 person to stay when administering epidurals. But for c-sections, they make everyone leave while the mom is being prepped. He says its because they’ve dealt with too many situations where what I mentioned above happened.
I ASSUME that some places may allow the husband to stay throughout during emergencies b/c maybe they don’t want the mom more stressed by asking him to leave (plus I imagine things are moving way too fast anyway and they certainly don’t want to be blamed for having the hubby miss the baby’s birth for whatever reason).
My husband had to leave when I got my epidural. Of course some anesthesiologists prefer to not have any family member around due to distractions but a lot of hospitals have become extra careful regarding malpractice suits so they prefer to not have anyone there other than the doctor and a nurse. Right before giving the epidural the anesthesiologist asked me my full name and asked me why I was there and what was being done to me to which I replied am I supposed to lose my marbles after getting the epidural. He told me they needed to do that to avoid lawsuits in case complications arise. Apparently anesthesiologists have pretty high malpractice insurance now. I guess it also didn't help when I told him I'm an attorney!! Haha
did u get your spinal block before or after one of the twins was out?
After!!! They were both supposed to be c section, but they could not stop twin #1 from coming out..i went from 4 centimeters to him tearing through my cervix in 10 minutes! Both bags of water had broken simultaneously, and they tried to move #2 into position hoping he'd come vaginaly too, but no such luck...gave me an immediate spinal (had no sensation from neck down, and did the emergency c section
Maybe. Of course this varies with differnet hospitals and many times, the anesthesiologist's themselves will allow or not allow the hubby to stay. I know in my hubby's group, they'll allow 1 person to stay when administering epidurals. But for c-sections, they make everyone leave while the mom is being prepped. He says its because they've dealt with too many situations where what I mentioned above happened.
I ASSUME that some places may allow the husband to stay throughout during emergencies b/c maybe they don't want the mom more stressed by asking him to leave (plus I imagine things are moving way too fast anyway and they certainly don't want to be blamed for having the hubby miss the baby's birth for whatever reason).
off topic but is your husband obgyn or anesthesiologist?
I don't think my hospital would've cared if he my husband was there or not when t hey were giving me epidural. I was well-settled before my baby came out. It took 12 hours.. Its just that I was alone in the room when it was epidural time. Husband was home... resting :D
I had my husband holding my hand for epidural but when they took me in for the emergency c section, he was asked to change in scrubs while they transported me across the room into the OR...the anesthesiologist was increasing the dose (or whatever they do) but I was panicking and asking for husband so the nurse grabbed his hand and brought him right next to me as soon as she could.. the anesthesiologist was still working on getting me warmed up because I was shivering uncontrollably. oh the joys of labor!!!
^I wonder if that husband was able to have another baby after such refusal :D
My husband didnt want to cut the cord and I totally understood thaht.. If I were in his place, I wont either.. but then we didnt cross that bridge anyway due to csection :D
I was in labor for 15 hours before the emergency c-sec and hubby and mom were with me the whole time. My moM left the room during the epidural and internal exams though as she wasn't comfortable with those bits. When they rolled me into the OR for the c-sec, I was by myself while hubby changed into his scrubs but they didn't deliberately keep him out or anything during this time. He just took forever to change into them lol- or it felt like forever anyway. The epidural had taken so strongly that they didn't need to give me any more anesthetic when I got to the OR. I was completely numb from chest down. I could not have gone through the whole experience without him! It is invaluable having your husband with you every step of the way, IMHO, even if it's only for the moment of truth when they pull your wee babe out and you get to meet him or her for her very first time together. It's an amazing moment.
Yes. my US checkups were done at a hospital close to home, and i asked for the hubz to be allowed in so many times but they never did... had to record the baby's heartbeat on my cellphone so he could hear it too :(
