Husband in the delivery room..

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Good or bad idea? Was yours with you?

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Um. good?

Of course mine was with me.

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Yes, my husband was with me during both my deliveries. His presence was very supportive emotionally and he was the only familiar face in the room. It was all good till he fainted :smack: and yes he fainted …the nurse saw this coming and supported his fall.

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Why would it be a bad idea..?
And yeah mine was there with me.

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I did meet someone who did not want her husband there, but wanted her sis (who already had a baby).

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Well some people say that the whole process is a huge turn of for some men and that after watching their partners deliver they don't want to have sex with them any more

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My husband was with me...couldn't have done it without him.

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I had a C section.He was very particular about the fact that he does not get to see the blood during the surgery.I recall him asking the surgeon if tehy had closed up before he actually stood up from the stool near my head.
He saw stuff after that…:bummer:.It did not and has not affected him.

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I guess it all comes down to the fact who you are most comfortable with.Mostly it is the husbands but if someone does not want him there,I dont see anything wrong with it either.
I am very close to my mom but she was the last person I wanted in there with me.Although I was super groggy with the meds and all I had two requests: The husbnad be ready with the camera for when she was born and that my mom stays out during the whole thing...:D

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I think my husband wanted to be there as much as I wanted him holding my hand. He was as excited to hold his baby.. In fact he held them both first and cried. He was an excellent coach...knew exactly when he needed to hold my hand and when to do dua.

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What if a guy does not want to be in the room? Does it mean he is not being supportive of his wife?

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Depends on his general attitude towards the pregnancy as a whole doesn't it? some men can do everything but this one thing...doesn't undo allt he good they did....

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mine was with me. his presence was important for both of us.
he's told the baby (who cant understand a thing yet! :D) a million times how he was the first to see her and hold her tiny self.

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Before the baby came I was afraid that my husband would add more to my stress or panic but he surprised me completely. He was such a support system to me, although later he told me that he was sooo scared and couldn't bear to see me in so much pain.

I would not want anyone else in the room with me except my husband. Also he was the first one to see and hold our baby and seeing him in awe of this miracle. InshAllah we are planning on having him with me this time around as well.

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If/when I have a baby, my hubby will be the only person (other than the medical personnel) who will be in the room. I can't imagine him not being there when OUR child is being born. He obviously was there when the child was conceived....I don't see why he should not be a part of the birth. Personally I would not want my mother, sisters, best friend or any other family member there. I know girls who were comfortable enough to have their mom/sister/best friend etc. there (in addition to their hubbies).....and don't see anything wrong with it.

Hubby has assisted in many births as part of his job....and from what he tells me, in his experience.......the only men he sees who create issues with being there next to the wife are desis and Arabs. All the talk about the hubby not being attracted to the wife if he sees it...and other similar excuses....he's never heard these types of "reasoning" from whites, blacks, Mexicans etc.

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Yup he was there n I thnk Allah he was there he was my support :)

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My hubby was with me at d birth of my son, I wouldn't of chosen anyone else as my birthing partner as I would not of been comfortable & relaxed.

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good idea.. best idea... if its what the woman feels comfy with. not all women feel comfy with having an inexperienced perso(first time dad)in there at their time of need.. and some feel like its absolutely necessary.. upto the couple really

i had mine.. best idea. he pulled through amazingly well. though for the first.. maybe having my mom in there as well woulda been good too.. cuz boy did it take long! she woulda bullied the dumbass midwife into not allowing me to be pinned down on teh bed during the early part of labour and to have me walk around. she said lie down and i did. it took forever.

some women like to have their men in there jsut so they can see the pain of delivery ... well.. this doesnt totaly work.. if a woman can forget the pain of labour (duh.. we do thats why we have so many more babies than just the one).. imagine.. why would a man remmeber?! he didnt bring the baby into the world.

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My husband was the only person from my family with me. We both were alone through the whole process, no one could make it on time. Was he supportive, well he was just there.. lol. He was excited but more on the phone :bummer:. Unlike most doctors he hasn’t assisted many births. I would have him again though because I just can’t have anyone else.. mom, sister etc OR I can just do it all alone if he is going to be on the phone again.. :mad:

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for my first delivery husband was with me but the second one was a sudden c-section and he could not make it to the hospital in time :(