No No not singling out just the West, also including the South like Australia!.....:-)
OK let me clarify here, it is not part of the culture in Christian or Buddhist countries to call azaan for the baby, so the staff ain't going to volunteer for that activity. and in our case a C-section kept my Wife and Child in Hospital for 5 days, I felt why delay it!
ofcourse it was not done at the moment of delivery, but after the baby was made ready for relatives to see!
Hello... I am from Australia and I dont see how this is a problem.
All of our kids (my sister, my bhabhi, me... and every oher person i know) has had the Azaan recited in their baby's ear... No one is stopping this from happening. I had my dad recite it once we were in the room..
how hard is that?!
And yes, I had my hubby with me. Best support system ever!
same as ehl-e-chaman's hubby - im never gonna stop annoying the wife about how i saw the kid first, held her first, smelt her, changed her first diaper blah blah. (i have a long blackmail list). i even got to snip the umbilical cord. :P
and any new dads to be, here is a romantic tip for you while your wifey is in labor and pushing - hold her hand, look into her eyes and recite sincerely - "hun you are doing it wrong, let me tell you how, k?"/QUOTE]
No kids yet but I've already told him he has to be there no matter what. Plus, he wouldn't have it any other way, although he did mention he wouldn't be able to see me in pain and would rather be outside but now it's a different story.
Also, I'm strictly against moms/MILs/friends/sisters etc being in there. Maybe it's because I wouldn't feel comfortable having it all out there w/ the exception of the Mr.
ANd isn't c-section a surgical procedure, so the less distractions the better.
Yeah 'they' allow it because they know childbirth via C section is a different surgical procedure vs. any other procedure where they generally do not allow any family,and the husband is no distraction there.He is supposed to sit next to your head.That is it.
I am not sure how it works in govt.hospitals of Pakistan because as far as I recall my working experience there,no husbands were inside the OR.They do tend to the patients' wishes in private hospitals and do allow the husbands to be in the OR.
Not true at all. My uncles, cousins etc all were with their wives in the delivery room. I think the ones who aren't there tend to be more vocal about it. :p
ANd isn't c-section a surgical procedure, so the less distractions the better.
When a women has a c-section, she's not under general anesthetic, they give you just a local to knock out the pelvic area. They set up a curtain from your waste down, so that you and your husband cannot see the dr and nurses performing the surgery...once the baby is out, they hold it up and if the husband wants, he can cut the cord. The clean up the baby and then stitch up the mom...the whole process is pretty quick and smooth.
I have never heard of the husband not being allowed in the room in Pakistan, that would be dumb. Personally, I would sue if they didn’t allow me to have my husband in there with me.
ya I thought, husbands are not allowed in PAk. I also heard its very frowned up if a mom to be cries out in pain… my freind told me her cousin’s mil kept on telling her “humhari izat rakh lena”
as i said, a few of the people I know who have had babies in pak, their spouses werent allowed in the room. But as ive been informed (by yourself) thats not always the case… maybe only in certain hospitals/areas
I have some experience of working in the Ob/gyn dept. of government hospitals in Pakistan.The thing with these hospitals is that they mostly cater to lower or lower middle class groups.These people tend to think it is 'besharmee' for the man to be with his wife during childbirth.These people are not vocal about expressing the need to be there with their wives and hence has become kind of a standard.
Another reason is that there is actually not a concept of private labor & delivery rooms.Where I worked,a tertiary care hospital,there was a labor ward which had the capacity for about 10-12 women,and once they were ready they were moved to the delivery unit which had 4 tables,and if it was a 'busy' day there could be 4 women all at once pushing a baby.So technically you cannot have a husband or mother or anyone as a matter of fact with you in there.
when it comes to private hospitals,which are many now,they do consider the wishes of the parents-to-be and allow the husband to be there.Reason,these people have a different mind-set about the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing.Since these hospitals charge more,they provide more.There are private L&D rooms,and it is ok for the dad to be in there.
In the US my husband was only allowed in AFTER I got anesthesia for my c-section. But I know others whose hubbies were present for that part too. It depends on the hospital.
