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Btw who are we bashing here ? women for not giving him enough action , or man for being stupid and not using some other number to call his friend ?
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Salam May I suggest something.
Women tend to exaggerate sometimes. Is it exact one year? And are you sure its 20 mins Every day?
*Second please get a critical review of yourself. It seems you are not doing the things or behaving as per your husband needs. * Maybe give more time to your husband. Make him feel comfortable that he can tell u anything. Without getting worried. Stop confronting. OK let him talk more... Don't lecture him about religion. Don't lecture him at all. Don't judge him ... Just listen to him . Chances are he will get comfortable with you. Tell u everything. And stop talking to other lady.
If in fact OP is right and the man is cheating on her, then this is ludicrous. Sorry, but I don't think it matters whether his WIFE is fulfilling his needs. Yeah, she needs to examine their relationship and possibly her behavior but let's not blame the victim. there is absolutely ZERO excuse for cheating/being unfaithful. If your demands aren't being met, divorce her, but there's no justification for infidelity.
From my experience, people cheat (whether going all the way physically or talking to another person that isn't their spouse in a way that's not innocent) because it's a character flaw. Maybe it was brought to light by the issues the person was having with their spouse, but it's definitely a part of THEIR personality. There's plenty of people I know that have marital problems/aren't getting their demands met but they don't go out and start up a relationship of any sort with another woman/man. Married/committed people, in particular, need to understand the importance of guarding your eyes, watching their interactions with people of the opposite gender, etc because things can get sketchy really fast.
Relationship problems are rarely a 1 way street; usually theres an issue with both parties BUT like I said before being unfaithful is unacceptable.
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i do not think that in a normal healthy routine either partner should have the time for talking regularly to anyone other than their own mothers daily. I mean, seriously. How does one get the time? And to talk DAILY?
I'm sorry OP, I wish I could tell you something new. If it is daily and if it is a woman, it is simply a matter of time before this spills over into something else. A bad day at work, feeling low overall, bad situations and circumstances and suddenly there is an emotional deficit and that turns into emotional dependence on the person who fills that and so on and so forth. As someone earlier mentioned, if it isn't a affair now, it may as well turn into one. Of course it is IF you aren't exaggerating.
Talking daily to someone is dangerous and uncalled for. A catch up hello hi is something different and random.
I wanted to add though in answer to someone asking what we can talk about in 20 minutes anyway: a meetup can be planned where further talk and whatever may happen.
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Salam May I suggest something.
Women tend to exaggerate sometimes. Is it exact one year? And are you sure its 20 mins Every day?
Second please get a critical review of yourself. It seems you are not doing the things or behaving as per your husband needs.
Maybe give more time to your husband. Make him feel comfortable that he can tell u anything. Without getting worried. Stop confronting. OK let him talk more... Don't lecture him about religion. Don't lecture him at all. Don't judge him ... Just listen to him . Chances are he will get comfortable with you. Tell u everything. And stop talking to other lady.
Do you have any suggestions for the husband? More to the point, do you think he is in the wrong at all?
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You tell em novice & humanityfirst ( in running for the most ironic name) . How dare these women question their men and not know their place like the women of the 1950’s?? 
Makes my blood boil just thinking of how Betty stopped caring for Don Draper when all those pot roasts she made were burnt. No wonder he stepped out on her. And look at where they are now in the 1960’s
Listen to Novice ladeez, know your place!!
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^ yes, and now Don has to wear awful check suits, it is criminal, these ladies know not what they do. :\
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No offense, but this indeed sounds like a 15 year old screaming his throat out.
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OMG dear your blood boiled over such a small matter ? I pray for you 
Have you ever seen a shrink?
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Do you have any suggestions for the husband? More to the point, do you think he is in the wrong at all?
Salam :)
If her wife is not exaggerating
and its known for sure they are involved
and i am best friends with him then
I would suggest him
Dude , have some decency you are already married!
Either get married to her or drop this.
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No offense, but this indeed sounds like a 15 year old screaming his throat out.
No offense, but you completely missed the point.
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We seriously need tags for sarcasm.
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OMG dear your blood boiled over such a small matter ? I pray for you :)
Have you ever seen a shrink?
Yes, he has a parrot and he told me to make sure the wife doesn't leave the kitchen too often :)
Thanks for the prayers hombre
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loved that part...:) especially "oh silly one"
i think you and i shd start chatting as well.....or you cant because this "silly one" is a "na mahram"....
Yes...and the point was?
Twat
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it's pretty obvious, he's screwing her.
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My suggestion is to figure out what you want from this man.
Do you want to keep him or are you done?
If you want to leave him...then find some hard evidence, sue him for all he's got and leave him.
If you want to keep him...then you cannot ask or demand anything from him. Its beyond words now...you have no verbal control so fighting is a waste of time. You have to bring him back to you. Thats only again - if you think he's worth it and you want to keep him.
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So what is it that OP is not offering to her hubby which he craves for ? Any idea OP ?
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cheating man.
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I'll play the devil's advocate here. Sure, it's absolutely very suspicious that he's having daily conversations with another woman that he's not telling you about. Sure, it is very likely he's having an affair, an affair doesn't just have to be a physical/sexual thing, he's emotionally cheating on you. All that aside, instead of focusing on the affair, start to think about WHY he's doing it? What's missing in his marriage that he thinks he needs to turn to another woman? I'm by no means saying that his affair is YOUR fault, but could it be that he's not attracted to you? Could it be that you guys have been married for so long that he's in a rut? Could it be that he never wanted to get married to you in the first place? Put your entire marriage under a microscope and try to figure out WHY this happened. While you do all this, make sure you kick him in the balls.
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My suggestion is to figure out what you want from this man.
Do you want to keep him or are you done?
If you want to leave him...then find some hard evidence, sue him for all he's got and leave him.
If you want to keep him...then you cannot ask or demand anything from him. Its beyond words now...you have no verbal control so fighting is a waste of time. You have to bring him back to you. Thats only again - if you think he's worth it and you want to keep him.
well said.
personally i think men like that are not worth keeping
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I'll play the devil's advocate here. Sure, it's absolutely very suspicious that he's having daily conversations with another woman that he's not telling you about. Sure, it is very likely he's having an affair, an affair doesn't just have to be a physical/sexual thing, he's emotionally cheating on you. All that aside, instead of focusing on the affair, start to think about WHY he's doing it? What's missing in his marriage that he thinks he needs to turn to another woman? I'm by no means saying that his affair is YOUR fault, but could it be that he's not attracted to you? Could it be that you guys have been married for so long that he's in a rut? Could it be that he never wanted to get married to you in the first place? Put your entire marriage under a microscope and try to figure out WHY this happened. While you do all this, make sure you kick him in the balls.
I don't know if youre in a country where this is frowned upon (honestly thats bull**** but I won't get on my soapbox here), you should try to go to marriage counseling. I've seen it help solve a lot of problems and save marriages that seemed doomed.