Ehh? Whats that got to do with anything? Any woman, and I mean ANY woman would natually feel slightly jelous, anxious and suspicious if her man was chatting up some next lady. And just because shariat allows upto 4 wives, does not give this man a free pass to speak to another woman daily for the past year. So PEACE to you oh silly one.
Op, if this was innocent then it would have happened 1 or 2 times which is fine, but its been an ongoing daily occurance, so something is definetly fishy there.
well, apparently this wife is a very religious person as she does not approve her husband talking to to any namahram...
my response to this religious wife is....SO WHAT....remember he can marry 4 times by shariat.... and maybe he is trying to find a second wife.....something sharia allows him..so PEACE religious wife!
If that is what he was trying to do, he should just say it and not hide behind excuses. Clearly he feels guilty. Denigrating the wife just because she is religious is pretty asinine.
Well you should of asked him why innocent calls are lasting for more than 20 mins .On the flip side maybe your family friend is getting advice on an issue ......But that is hardly the case here...Just be watchful of his interaction with her....and pray:)
Hi what would you do if you found out your husband been chatting to another lady for a year and she is a family friend?
You only find out by getting hold of call history itemised bills.
When you confront him and her they both say it was just innocent chats and no affair.
He does not say what were the conversations about. Every call lasted 5 mins to 20 mins every day.
His excuse for not telling his wife is because the wife does not agree to non mahram talking to each other without a valid reason.
The wife does not believe it's innocent calls and he says she has no proof eg recording and that she can not accuse him and itemised bills are not good enough evidence.
lol...sounds like he is defending himself in a court of law. he should know that relationships don't work that way.
i believe they are both lying. it's highly unlikely that it's an **'innocent' **call when a married man talks to a woman for 5-20 minutes every day and does not reveal the purpose/content of those calls.
The world doesn’t need to know but his wife and your fiance need to know this for sure. both of you are deceiving your respective partners by withholding this info.
Hi what would you do if you found out your husband been chatting to another lady for a year and she is a family friend?
You only find out by getting hold of call history itemised bills.
When you confront him and her they both say it was just innocent chats and no affair.
He does not say what were the conversations about. Every call lasted 5 mins to 20 mins every day.
His excuse for not telling his wife is because the wife does not agree to non mahram talking to each other without a valid reason.
The wife does not believe it's innocent calls and he says she has no proof eg recording and that she can not accuse him and itemised bills are not good enough evidence.
Its not innocent chats. no one would talk to a woman just like that for 5-20 mins everyday! that's a lot really. you don't even call up your own siblings or close friends everyday to have a chat let alone a family friend.
and even if there is slight chance that he is having innocent chats with her, even then you should talk to him to stop because most of the extra marital affairs begin with the innocent chats.
You can either leave him or be content that he will always be like this. Seems like flirty sort of individual. But amazing thing is it always some woman in your family or in friends. What sort of women are around you?
Na ,certainly not innocent to me.
What's the point of talking an ordinary family friend for SO LONG? yes it's quite long for me ,as i can only do 'kaam ki baat' to some family friend and that will last maximum 2-3 minute.
The world doesn't need to know but his wife and your fiance need to know this for sure. both of you are deceiving your respective partners by withholding this info.
I have a friend who is doing exactly this. It always starts out innocent enough. She was just getting life advice from a married colleague of ours...that turned into getting life advice at night ...alone...and its turned into a full on affair (she says that they're not physical). His wife, who didn't think anything of the phone calls (the guy chalked it up to "oh she's just a schoolmate i'm helping her out) but started to get worried when he would get defensive...what a mess.
I'm not saying that that's what going on in this case, but usually where there's smoke, there's fire. Unless the girl is VERY insecure and psychotic, usually -- from my experience-- people don't jump to "he might be cheating on me with a family friend if there's nothing there. Listen to your subconcious.
Women tend to exaggerate sometimes. Is it exact one year? And are you sure its 20 mins Every day?
Second please get a critical review of yourself.
It seems you are not doing the things or behaving as per your husband needs.
Maybe give more time to your husband. Make him feel comfortable that he can tell u anything. Without getting worried. Stop confronting. OK let him talk more...
Don't lecture him about religion.
Don't lecture him at all.
Don't judge him ... Just listen to him .
Chances are he will get comfortable with you.
Tell u everything. And stop talking to other lady.
