I found this online. I think it’s very beautifull. I know it’s not true for all the girls.
But i think a girl should be like this. What do you guys think about it? I know parents arent’t always right. But still dont you think a girl should never risk the respect her parents build their whole life. It’s the same for the boys..but still samaaj mein larkiyon ko zayada dehaan rakhna chahiye..
Hum Larkiaya Apne Ghar Ka Angan Hoti Hain, Duniya Ki Talakh Hawaou Aur Toofano Se Bekhabar Hum Apni Ankho Mein Buhat Se Khoob Soorat Khawab Saja Leti Hain Bina Ye Soche Ke Khawbo Ke Tootne Ki Kirchiyan Jab Jub Humari Ankho Ko Zakham Den Gi Un Par Marham Rakhne Wala Bhi Koi Na Hoga…
Hum Larkiyan Apni Muhabbat Ko Dil Mein Chupae Bageer Kisi Ko Kuch Kahe Apne Ghar Se Rukhsat Ho Jati Hain Aur Apni Jazbat Ko Kabhi Aabaad Nahi Hone Dete Aur Apni Zindagi Bus Us 1 Shaks Ke Liye Waar Dete Hain Aur Apni Muhabbat Ke Liye Hum Apne Dil Ke Andar 1 Qabrustan Bana Lete Hain Aur Us Mein Hum Apni Muhabbat Aur Aah O Baka Ko Dafan Kar Lete Hain Aur Kisi Ko Bhinak Bhi Nahi Parne Dete…
Ye Sub Hum Is Liye Karte Hain Take Humare Waldeen Ke Izzat Ruswa Na Ho Aur Humare Bhaiou Ki Laaj Rahe Tab Zindagi Se Mutman Na Hote Hue Bhi Mutman Rehne Ki Koshish Karte Hain Take Humare Waldeen Ko Ye Khayyal Na Rahe Ke Unhon Ne Apni Beti Ke Sath Kuch Galt Keya Hai…
Wese Bhi Hum Larkiyan Qurban Hone Ke Liye Hi Pedda Hue Hain Kabhi Waldeen Par Kabhi Bhaiou Par Kabhi Us Shaks Ke Liye Jis Se Humari Zindagi Wabasta Hoti Hai…
Hum Larkiyan Apne Ghar Aur Ghar Walon Ke Liye Duaae Mangti Hain Lekin Kabhi Bhi Apne Zaat Ke Liye Kuch Bhi Nahi Mangte Hum Ye Sochti Hain Ke Humari Zaat Ki Khushiyan Aur Takmeel Se Humare Ghar Walon Ki Dam Se Hain…
Humare Anso, Aehsasat, Jazbat Aur Tamnae Kabhi Zahir Nahi Hoti Q Ke Hum Apne App Par Aur Apne Ahsasat And Jazbaat Par Essi Sakht Khol Chahra Letei Hain Ke Humara Sub Kuch Us Khol Mein Band Ho Kar Reh Jata Hai And Bahar Aane Ke Liye Tarpta Rehta Hai Magar Hum Larkiya Essa Kabhi Nahi Hone Deti…
Hum Larkiyan Buhat Kuch Kehna Chahti Hain But Kuch Keh Nahi Paate Humare Jazbaat Aur Tamnae Humari Majbooriou Tale Dab Kar Dum Tor Deti Hain Aur Hum Larkiya Humesha Se Apni Khushio Se Ziyada Apni Waldeen Ki Izzat Ka Bharm Rakhti Hain…
Bus Essi Hi Hoti Hain Hum Larkiya And Essi Hi Rahe Gi Ta Qaymat In sha Allah
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Wese Bhi Hum Larkiyan Qurban Hone Ke Liye Hi Pedda Hue Hain Kabhi Waldeen Par Kabhi Bhaiou Par Kabhi Us Shaks Ke Liye Jis Se Humari Zindagi Wabasta Hoti Hai...
I found the whole thing very difficult to read so only understood about 80% - but this part I do not like. I feel our culture places too much responsibility on women to hold a family together, all the while going through difficulties with the in laws, and just having to DEAL with it - there's no way out. Why? I find it hard to adjust to. I am willing to change my mind if I could see the wisdom behind it, but I just can't.
I found the whole thing very difficult to read so only understood about 80% - but this part I do not like. I feel our culture places too much responsibility on women to hold a family together, all the while going through difficulties with the in laws, and just having to DEAL with it - there's no way out. Why? I find it hard to adjust to. I am willing to change my mind if I could see the wisdom behind it, but I just can't.
I can totally understand. But still while reading this it felt like we women have to power to endure. I can relate to your opinion of why we should always DEAL with it, because we CAN.
A women can bare a lot. And i think it's worth dealing with everything for the sake of your parents or Allah. Because in the end I will be rewarded for my sacrifices. That's just how i see it.
Oh please do not misunderstand. I am only talking about girls giving up things that coul harn the respect of their parents, not about all the cruel things that some women have to endure.
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Wese Bhi Hum Larkiyan Qurban Hone Ke Liye Hi Pedda Hue Hain Kabhi Waldeen Par Kabhi Bhaiou Par Kabhi Us Shaks Ke Liye Jis Se Humari Zindagi Wabasta Hoti Hai...
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Hum Larkiyan Buhat Kuch Kehna Chahti Hain But Kuch Keh Nahi Paate Humare Jazbaat Aur Tamnae Humari Majbooriou Tale Dab Kar Dum Tor Deti Hain Aur Hum Larkiya Humesha Se Apni Khushio Se Ziyada Apni Waldeen Ki Izzat Ka Bharm Rakhti Hain...
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Hum Larkiyan Apni Muhabbat Ko Dil Mein Chupae Bageer Kisi Ko Kuch Kahe Apne Ghar Se Rukhsat Ho Jati Hain Aur Apni Jazbat Ko Kabhi Aabaad Nahi Hone Dete Aur Apni Zindagi Bus Us 1 Shaks Ke Liye Waar Dete Hain Aur Apni Muhabbat Ke Liye Hum Apne Dil Ke Andar 1 Qabrustan Bana Lete Hain Aur Us Mein Hum Apni Muhabbat Aur Aah O Baka Ko Dafan Kar Lete Hain Aur Kisi Ko Bhinak Bhi Nahi Parne Dete...
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So basically girls/women/daughters/wives are destined to live a life of dispair, depression, solitude, squash their own dreams and aspirations, talents and abilities, thoughts and opinions 1) for the sake of their parentss respect and 2) for the sake of their husbands?
Puhleeeeze!!!! I don't know of any sane, self respecting parent or husband who would expect this from their daughter or wife.
And what constitues "harming respect"? It's all very subjective. Everyone has their own set of morals and guage of what is acceptable and what is not.
I recognize the sentiment behind the prose, but honestly, it's that sentiment that fuels the dramas, novels, digests and life1 threads and other forms of entertainment that we all have grown to love and hate
So basically girls/women/daughters/wives are destined to live a life of dispair, depression, solitude, squash their own dreams and aspirations, talents and abilities, thoughts and opinions 1) for the sake of their parentss respect and 2) for the sake of their husbands?
Puhleeeeze!!!! I don't know of any sane, self respecting parent or husband who would expect this from their daughter or wife.
And what constitues "harming respect"? It's all very subjective. Everyone has their own set of morals and guage of what is acceptable and what is not.
I recognize the sentiment behind the prose, but honestly, it's that sentiment that fuels the dramas, novels, digests and life1 threads and other forms of entertainment that we all have grown to love and hate
It doesn't need to be depression and dispair. I hope you read the last part of my previous reply.
I don't know which scenario's you are creating, but as i said i didn't mean the cruel things or parents that pressure their daughter to get married or something.
If your parents truly love you and your relationship with them is very good, they trust you a lot. But them you all in love with someone who wants more out of the relationship. You love him a lot but back off for the sake of the respect of your parents and ask him to go to them instead of blindly following your desires. Thats the scenario which popped up in my mind.
The beauty of poetry, literature, song lyrics and art in general is that we all interpret the meaning based upon our experiences and thoughts.
If I’m reading something that says that says larkiyaan sirf qurban honay ke liye paida hoti hain, I’m sorry, but that’s an extremely depressing and disparaging thought.
When reading the verses you posted, I draw upon my experiences as the daughter of a single mother and now as the mother of 3 sons. I was never raised with the mind set that my parents had supreme control over all my decisions, or that I would ever have to suppress a part of myself to please them or another. And I don’t see myself denying my sons of their right to choose either.
And I certainly don’t prescribe to the ideology that girls bear a greater responsibility than boys in upholding their parents honor, or are born to sacrifice, so when I read all those lines about larkiyaan having to this and that and fulaana dhamaka just to appease their parents and later their husbands, sorry…it just rubs me the wrong way.
Anyway it’s an interesting subject matter, I’m curious to see and hear what others think.
This lesson of self sacrifice and not being too egotistical should be taught to BOTH boys and girls.... in a balanced manner.... be it for a child or a spouse. My MIL is a brilliant example.
My saas would relate stories to her sons about some oppressed/ wronged wives (nothing too drastic, just everyday domestic issues) and tell them to never make such mistakes in the future. She got both her sons married at a time she felt they were mature enough to take care of a women but not too mature/ staunch in their personalities that they wouldn't be able to adjust to the ways of their wives.
Her kids would choose their career paths, but she forced that they at least do a masters... bachelors were never enough in her books. So yes, in instances like these a kid should obey his Mum after the years of nurturing she's invested in them.
