Huge fight with husband

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Well a lot has been said about the character of husband already, but, the fact is, according to Islam she cannot work without permission of her husband. And you are right, not giving permission or prohibiting are the same thing in this scenario.

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Can a Woman Work Without Husband’s Permission

Hmmm…It looks like the interpretation of this edict is
up for grabs

Maybe we should all just agree to disagree

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Maybe you should make me a sammich! :D

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Well since many of you have been waiting for me to respond to continue to enjoy this thread so here it goes.

1- It appears from subsequent posts of the OP, that it all started at the beginning of marriage when her (now well earning&educated) husband was unemployed. May be he thought of OP and him being working together in everything including finances but OP did not see it that way. She considered (rightly) her money, shud be just hers. Dunno how she handled it at that time, but seems he felt bad about something and since then they haven't been able to bond together. May be if u handled the things differently at that time and made him feel (though u r not required to) that you won't be shying away from spending on both of you, he might have now been willing to spend on ur parents as well now.

2- I don't think its bad for the daughter to give money to her parents. But as i had said before, i think its bad for the parents (middle class or rich) to expect married daughters to contribute regularly to family expenditure, unless they are poor. And i would acknowledge that my opinion is based upon cultural norms in Pakistan. There is a punjabi saying "Dhi dey gharoon pani vi nahin pina chahi da". Its mens job to look after the women of their household and not the other way around.
3- Those who asked me if i would prevent my wife to spend on her parents, no i will not. But my in FIL will never accept financial help from her daughters.

I guess that enough material for u people to contiue a few more pages on this.

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Reading all these responses makes me feel like parents that only have daughters should commit suicide once their daughters are married. =/ This is ridiculous, if a son is expected to take care of his elderly parents financially/emotionally etc...why not the woman? I've never in any Quranic verse, in any hadith or any other Islamic text seen it written as "sons *have a duty to care for their parents" - it's written as *children** for a freakin' reason. Who are we to contradict what He has commanded of us?

Also, soni27 LOL. Wow. You are either an epic troll or extremely demented in the head.

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o bhra ji bt sirf itni hy k agr wo bibi apnay husband ko bta kr monthly fixed amount apnay parents ko de dia kray to mera nei khial k husband phir b aiteraz kray ga. mgr baqi ki rqm apnay personal expenses nikaal kr usay chahiey k husband ko de dia keray. maika b khush susral b khush.

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i dont agree with the above poster, if i contribute at home and dont even help parents every month its every few months.. and my husband has a good income why does he need my money...and he knows that i am saving it for my college fees i have told him million times but he thinks i am saving it for my parents.. cheap mentality...if thats what he thinks i am going to let him think that way .. u cant change mens mentality.

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I am compelled to vehemently disagree with your position that soni27 is an epic troll. The term "epic" would imply "good" and that's just untrue.

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Could just be me. But I still don't rate Soni to be a bad human being. It should only take 3 nomi's or noodles to come up with one bad Soni.

And I care less if anyone thinks otherwise.

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:blush:

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its a norm...... taking personal digs at someone's family....just because they have a different POV......

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Hmmm....I don't think she was referring to you Icono....it looks to me like she is suggesting that the OP and husband have bigger issues than that which is being discussed in this thread.

I'll let Reha clarify.....

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She was referring to him. No doubt.

Three women needed to create one of you. No wonder you’re blushing.

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What the?

Are you feeling alright? What's with all the stars? I had no idea there were curse words that long.

Listen, you have your extreme and sexist opinions...people don't have to agree with you. In fact, here is a little enlightenment: most will not.

Stop getting so worked up and flattering yourself.

Not everything is about you.

Thank you.

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So your jab wasn't a personal one?

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It could be considered a personal jab if people begin to assume every time someone posts, its about them.

The topic strikes a chord with many people.

Why wouldn't someone expect responses like that when they are posting inflammatory remarks?

It makes no sense when people post negatively about a sensitive issue like this and then get upset when they get a bad response.

What are you expecting? A hug? A cookie?

An example would be Icono's response...it was surprising but not really..again considering the source.

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**Talking about your husband in such words....hmm no wonder you two are having problems in your relationship.

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^ Noodle princess. Is that you being a novice again? :blush:

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This thread really shows that the GS population are living in different worlds. Sigh.