^ hehehhe.... I need a giggling smilie
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Tlk 
use this 
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^haha, thats a good one :p Thanks Marwah
I don't really remember his birthday or buy him a gift because he doesn't really celebrate it. That sounds really bad but its true! he's from Pakistan and it seems guys from there aren't too bothered about celebrating birthdays. ...don't all tell me I'm so wrong about that, it is jus my experience in terms of a couple of other friends whose husbands are also from Pak.
in the last couple of years we haven't bothered celebrating our anniversary and this year I don't even think I particularly remembered the day neither did he. So neither of us acknowledged our wedding anniversary.........I'm getting depressed at the state of my marriage whilst writing this.
You don’t remember his birthday?? Hainnn?!?! 
I’m speechless.
And he still sent you flowers?!? 
On his next birthday, buy him a card and a nice gift… my husband doesn’t celebrate his birthday either but I do get him a gift every time with a card… any gesture shows your care. I think it was really nice of him to send you flowers, especially since he doesn’t get anything from you on his BDays.
Anniversaries are so easy to celebrate, we just give each other some nice gifts (small ones) or cards and dress up and go out for a nice dinner… that is totally do-able. You have to start by giving him something on his birthday, please do try it… IMO these small gestures make a ton of difference in our daily mundane lives.
P.S. Don’t get depressed please, state of marriage cannot be based on celebrations alone. Be happy that he cared enough to send you flowers, I think its a good sign.
I don't really remember his birthday or buy him a gift because he doesn't really celebrate it. That sounds really bad but its true! he's from Pakistan and it seems guys from there aren't too bothered about celebrating birthdays. ...don't all tell me I'm so wrong about that, it is jus my experience in terms of a couple of other friends whose husbands are also from Pak.
in the last couple of years we haven't bothered celebrating our anniversary and this year I don't even think I particularly remembered the day neither did he. So neither of us acknowledged our wedding anniversary.........I'm getting depressed at the state of my marriage whilst writing this.
It's normal ...don't worry about it. Birthdays, anniverseries cause more tension than comfort. I have decided to get away with it all together. We celebrate life at every opportunity we get, be it daily, weekly, monthly. We don't have to wait a whole year.
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er yah. Good one FG, trying to convince us that anyone can be happily married. I won’t believe you until you prove you are married to Mrs Claus, and deliver me an Omega watch in december 
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hitchki, WOW, you actually typed up three lines. What an improvement from your earlier days of snooty icons and three worded replies.
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Ajuba, for your next birthday you can tell your hubby in advance what you want as birthday gift
I always tell my bro's in advance what I want for my birthday, so that I dont get stuff that I dont want
I think I am going to do the same with my hubby
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During your fight he still buys you flowers, that is amazing
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um..i think marriage counseling is in order
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u know what’s weird, whenever my husband gives me a gift (er okay $$) he doesnt give it with khushi but acts really weird and like unhappy, like jaan chora-ying. i mean shouldn’t a person be HAPPY when he gives a gift 
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^definitely
That’s cause parting with money for some people actually activates the same parts of the brain that are associated with physical pain! I fall into this category too for better or worse. 
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I think you should take the initiative to plan something on your birthday/anniversary and even on his birthday. If these days are importnat to you, then you should do something. Don't wait around for him to do it. Take control of the situation. Plan something and ask him to join you and do something together which will create a wonderful memory you can both have forever.
I think you should take the initiative to plan something on your birthday/anniversary and even on his birthday. If these days are importnat to you, then you should do something. Don't wait around for him to do it. Take control of the situation. Plan something and ask him to join you and do something together which will create a wonderful memory you can both have forever.
so lets talk about aniversaries, I think those are a 2 person deal aren't they, so if he is not creative with anniversary presents, why dont you take the initiative and plan something, make it about something you can both enjoy, a nice evening out, some show, some activity, weekend away, whatever. Birthdays I can understand, but I really dont understand when any individual in a relationship complains about anniversary present not being something one really enjoys.
great minds think alike
although you state it so much better :)
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Oh wow. ajuba, your sad, I feel extremely sorry for your life.
That's cause parting with money for some people actually activates the same parts of the brain that are associated with physical pain! I fall into this category too for better or worse. :D
WOw seriously? I did nto know that. :D
My husband just gives me $$...but I make it apoint to buy something special, so I can say... "my husband gave me this" for eid/b-day/anniversary etc. :D
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^ as long as they do something... :)