Almost every birthday and anniversary its the same: flowers. He doesn’t bother to put any thought into getting me something I would actually enjoy. All he does is fulfills the formality. I would rather he didn’t bother. So, should I thank him for the flowers I just got? or tell him how I really feel?
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You should thank him for the flowers! have you told him what you like? besides the flowers?
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aisay mardon ko doob ke mar jaana chaa'eeye .. I mean who cares if they remember all the special days, make an effort to stop and select a flower bouquet to express their love for someone special in their life. If they cant buy expensive jewelery then shame on them
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If I were you and my husband gave me flowers every anniversary for the rest of our life I’d return them to him and say ‘last years prezzie? next please.’
you women are totally weird. marriage is a piecca cake 
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Gosh hes a monster, awful guy. :) Seriously girl open up your eyes and count your blessings.
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Wow... Insaan kissi haal mein khush nahin rehta.
Lady when you get the flowers, thank him/hug him, clip the ends, put them in water in a vase and keep them on your nightsand.... they will remind you that he loves you & remembers the occasions.... tauba hai.
aisay mardon ko doob ke mar jaana chaa'eeye .. I mean who cares if they remember all the special days, make an effort to stop and select a flower bouquet to express their love for someone special in their life. If they cant buy expensive jewelery then shame on them
Ditto!
My goodness, women don't know when they've got a good thing going. Learn to be happy with what blessings you have. If he's great in other respects what does it matter if you only got flowers as a gift - he did remember the date and thought to mark it with a token of his affection.
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You know, I think you should be really grateful he even bothers to acknowledge these days. He could ignore it or even forget it. He could make zero effort at all. You should appreciate the fact that he goes out and gets you something rather than giving you NOTHING.
aisay mardon ko doob ke mar jaana chaa'eeye .. I mean who cares if they remember all the special days, make an effort to stop and select a flower bouquet to express their love for someone special in their life. If they cant buy expensive jewelery then shame on them
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bajaa farmaayaa aapne janaab. thats what i was gonna say. one should judge one's love by the gifts alone. any gift if given with love is the best gift ever. one should treasure it. May Allah bring understanding and love in every couple's lives. aameen**
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How ironic it is that on one hand there are woman who are beaten up by husbands, who doesnt care abt them being preg, keep them hungry and all and on the other hand we have women who hav no life at all complaining all she gets are flowers, choclates, hugs , kisses, nothing more........................................... duh,.......................
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Ok as its obvious that we all are making fun of ajuba here, so let me speak from her side. I am sure that she is very grateful towards the thoughtfulness of her hubby but maybe she is sensing some mechanical behavior towards his act. If the special dates are part of his blackberry calendar with a note saying 'stop at 7-11 to buy half dozen roses' then the act is meaningless. I am sure that she would appreciate a dine out, or a romantic movie or a hug more than the act of getting some flowers from him like he is just taking care of some obligation
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No, I don't agree... its not meaningless.... even if its on his calendar... if he has taken out the time to put it on his calendar, he cares.
And Ajuba, just say thank you to him now .... he might feel hurt if you tell him how you actually feel....... maybe later you can somehow bring up the topic and ask if you could have something else for your next birthday/anniversary..... maybe you can ask him to just take you shopping on these occassions. Thats what I usually do ;)
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sweet.i.f: 
for you!
Can't you just tell him what you want for your birthday/anniversary/etc.? I know it's not as romantic, but some guys are just really concrete thinkers and they need some direction on this stuff----it doesn't mean he doesn't love you just as much or that it doesn't come from the heart.
And yes, I know, it takes away the element of surprise, etc. If you're each 80% happy with each other, and the remaining 20% is just small stuff like this (not abuse, infidelity, etc.--the biggies), DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF! :)
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You know, you’ll be LOVE the flowers seven years from now. 
He probably thinks he did good, and actually he did, he made an effort, even if it was set as a reminder on his blackberry.
So chill, and just thank him.
Ok as its obvious that we all are making fun of ajuba here, so let me speak from her side. I am sure that she is very grateful towards the thoughtfulness of her hubby but maybe she is sensing some mechanical behavior towards his act. If the special dates are part of his blackberry calendar with a note saying 'stop at 7-11 to buy half dozen roses' then the act is meaningless. I am sure that she would appreciate a dine out, or a romantic movie or a hug more than the act of getting some flowers from him like he is just taking care of some obligation
i agree. i'm sure she appreciates the flowers and is grateful for the thoughtfulness. but what good is a marriage if a woman can't even express that she wants something different or something different from her partner? what's the harm in that? i'm not married but if my parents or siblings gave me the same gift every single year, i'd be like what the heck, can you get me something different already! what's wrong with being open with someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with.
ajuba, try expressing your feelings to him jokingly. and if you don't mind me asking, what do you give him on birthdays?
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He probably has no idea what you want. As time comes near the occasion, just babble on and on about the new whatchamacallit in the market that you want, and then you'll see, he'll get that for you.
I wouldn't say he's being tthoughtless. Then, he'd just forget to get you anything at all.
what do you get him for your anniversary and his birthdays? Does he normally get you things throughout the year? If so, just let it go.
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My lady is anti-flower. She told me early on that if I waste any money on buying her flowers she will shove the guldasta up my rear. Since I don't fancy growing a flower bed there, I stick to other thoughtful variety.
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^:omg: