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bro - have you been to a club? any club that has dancers/dances or alcohol?
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so when and where do you draw the line? if at all?
My line is drawn at an actual physical/sexual encounter with another person. Whether its a man or a woman.......I don't care if its a stripper, random girl at a bar/club, co-workers, the neighbor....whoever. If I find out he had a physical/sexual encounter with another person....that's when we'll have a problem.
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Have you or M actually ever been inside a upscale strip club? Of course, not every single club is the same.....but at most "nice" strip clubs, naked women are not all over every man who walks in through the door. Most upscale clubs have rules which prohibit the men from touching the dancers. And the strippers aren't there to work for free. Yes, they will give lap dances (and probably more) if the guy asks for and agrees to pay for it.
I know it seems VERY hard to believe.......but its possible for a man to walk into a strip club and not get lap dances. Many guys will go there during a bachelor party b/c most of the group wants to go there. But that doesn't mean they're spending the extra money for lap dances and other priviledges.
and people of GS..female strippers make over 1000$ in a shift if they are performing in a decent club.
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rest assured the man will not get out of hands if he went to strip club..
i am a man.
That's you though.. whats to say other men won't
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this is what confused me - if ppl draw their own lines, what is the rational basis for that? when and if you draw a line it has to have a solid basis not just because
so its ok for your sons and daughters to have girlfriends and boyfriends and go to strip clubs? (not literally your sons and daughters)
My line is drawn at an actual physical/sexual encounter with another person. Whether its a man or a woman.......I don't care if its a stripper, random girl at a bar/club, co-workers, the neighbor....whoever. If I find out he had a physical/sexual encounter with another person....that's when we'll have a problem.
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inzi, I don’t think there’s anything wrong you how you feel regarding this. There is no “right” or “wrong” answer to this. Everyone has different levels of tolerance when it comes to this. I’m simply sharing my own thoughts on this. My goal isn’t to convince anyone else that they’re somehow wrong. 
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inzi, I don't think there's anything wrong you how you feel regarding this. There is no "right" or "wrong" answer to this. Everyone has different levels of tolerance when it comes to this. I'm simply sharing my own thoughts on this. My goal isn't to convince anyone else that they're somehow wrong. :)
I know :) And to a certain extent I look up to women like yourself who are able to have higher levels of tolerance.. it saves a lot of conflict!
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It doesn't bother me if he goes with his guy friends to a club or a strip club for a bachelor party.
On a side note: I know girls who would be pissed if their guy went to a strip club. Their guys are well aware of how the girl's feel. So when the guys go to bachelor's parties....they just let their friends know how their girl would feel if it was discovered that a strip club was part of the outing. The result: The guys still go head with their plans. All measures are taken to ensure that the girl doesn't find out.
...orrrr the guy could just be respectful of her wishes and wouldn't go regardless?
Have you or M actually ever been inside a upscale strip club? Of course, not every single club is the same.....but at most "nice" strip clubs, naked women are not all over every man who walks in through the door. Most upscale clubs have rules which prohibit the men from touching the dancers. And the strippers aren't there to work for free. Yes, they will give lap dances (and probably more) if the guy asks for and agrees to pay for it.
I know it seems VERY hard to believe.......but its possible for a man to walk into a strip club and not get lap dances. Many guys will go there during a bachelor party b/c most of the group wants to go there. But that doesn't mean they're spending the extra money for lap dances and other priviledges.
I have no problem against strip clubs (heck, I plan on going one day out of curiosity), I also understand that people can go into strip clubs and watch from a distance or with their friends and call it a day. BUT there are preferences out there that you can have since it's YOUR relationship, you don't necessarily have to be okay with something if it makes you uncomfortable just because everyone else is doing it or it has become a norm. I'm not talking about you, Paheli. Just in general that a lot of women will conform to popular things even if it makes them uncomfortable. If it makes you feel weird, it makes you feel weird and the person you're in a relationship should know that. If he/she still chooses to do those things then that's another issue on its own.
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not naked only topless and touching is not allowed in many clubs except if you are having private party.
I think you will find in the UK/Europe it's pretty different.
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Have you or M actually ever been inside a upscale strip club? Of course, not every single club is the same.....but at most "nice" strip clubs, naked women are not all over every man who walks in through the door. Most upscale clubs have rules which prohibit the men from touching the dancers. And the strippers aren't there to work for free. Yes, they will give lap dances (and probably more) if the guy asks for and agrees to pay for it.
I know it seems VERY hard to believe.......but its possible for a man to walk into a strip club and not get lap dances. Many guys will go there during a bachelor party b/c most of the group wants to go there. But that doesn't mean they're spending the extra money for lap dances and other priviledges.
It doesn't bother me if he goes with his guy friends to a club or a strip club for a bachelor party.
On a side note: I know girls who would be pissed if their guy went to a strip club. Their guys are well aware of how the girl's feel. So when the guys go to bachelor's parties....they just let their friends know how their girl would feel if it was discovered that a strip club was part of the outing. The result: The guys still go head with their plans. All measures are taken to ensure that the girl doesn't find out.
I stand with her opinion.
I don't mind if he has been clubbing with his guy friends. But if getting lap dances as a habit then i will re-evaluate the relationship.
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this is what confused me - if ppl draw their own lines, what is the rational basis for that? when and if you draw a line it has to have a solid basis not just because
Almost all of us do many things in our lives simply based on how we feel or "just because". Whether it makes sense or not....the fact remains that many of our decisions are made without any rational/solid basis behind them. Although you may be a rare exception to that. :)
so its ok for your sons and daughters to have girlfriends and boyfriends and go to strip clubs? (not literally your sons and daughters)
Firstly, regarding dating. Would I be ok with my kids having a different BF/GF every few months and having sex with almost half the town? No. Would I be ok with my adult children dating men or women with the purpose of being in a long-term relationship that will hopefully lead to a lifelong marriage? Absolutely!
Secondly, from what I know, being 21 is a requirement (at least here) to get into strip clubs. I hope by the time my children are 21 or older, they're capable of making mature/good decisions, and are living on their own. I don't plan on keeping tabs on their daily moves (including social ones) once they become adults. What am I going to do if I find out my adult son went to a strip club? Ground him? Lock him in his room? Besides, do you know any man (or woman) who actually talks about their "strip club adventures" with their parents?!
For what its worth, My values/beliefs/morals/tolerance is very different than what my parents believe in. My parents don't always agree with what I do or the decisions I make for myself. But they have always made it clear to me that they will love me no matter what. They have never once made me feel that I'm any less simply b/c I made a choice that they don't agree with. In the future, I don't expect my children to follow my beliefs/values/morals like a robot. I'm sure there will be times when their decisions/choices will dissappoint me and make me angry. But at the end of the day, my love for them will be unconditional.
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Have you or M actually ever been inside a upscale strip club? Of course, not every single club is the same.....but at most "nice" strip clubs, naked women are not all over every man who walks in through the door. Most upscale clubs have rules which prohibit the men from touching the dancers. And the strippers aren't there to work for free. Yes, they will give lap dances (and probably more) if the guy asks for and agrees to pay for it.
I know it seems VERY hard to believe.......but its possible for a man to walk into a strip club and not get lap dances. Many guys will go there during a bachelor party b/c most of the group wants to go there. But that doesn't mean they're spending the extra money for lap dances and other priviledges.
No, I haven't. But I have plenty of non-desi friends who have for stags and such and generally, they don't go to 'upscale' places. Besides, as I said in my other post, I think in the UK and Europe, it's pretty different from USA. The rules are much more lax. Usually all the guys are coerced into getting a lapdance. There was one friend who I thought would never go for it because he hates that kind of stuff and is really committed to his girlfriend but on his brother's stag even he ended up having one.
I guess coz of the difference in local culture, it is probably useless to compare. I personally think a guy going to a stag here will find it difficult to just go and not do anything more.
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...orrrr the guy could just be respectful of her wishes and wouldn't go regardless?
LOL....yes he could. In a perfect/ideal world, that's what should happen. Yet how often to people (men and women both) do what they should be doing. :)
.. there are preferences out there that you can have since it's YOUR relationship, you don't necessarily have to be okay with something if it makes you uncomfortable just because everyone else is doing it or it has become a norm. I'm not talking about you, Paheli. Just in general that a lot of women will conform to popular things even if it makes them uncomfortable. If it makes you feel weird, it makes you feel weird and the person you're in a relationship should know that. If he/she still chooses to do those things then that's another issue on its own.
^ I agree. Especially with the bold part. Again, this is one of those things that has no "right" or "wrong". :)
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I don't mind going.. but if i go my fiancee would kill me, or she will throw me into such a feeling of guilt that i will end up keeping a beard.
Lying to her about such activity? a big NO. Prevention is better than cure.
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So do you go :halo:
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Ask him how he would feel if some stud muffin swung his you know what in your face for a laugh.
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^Ditto. 
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i dont know why anyone would go to a strip club when they can come to life1 and read sherrykhan's "lolss" tingle
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Girls, what would you do in the below scenario:
You're in a relationship of a couple of years with someone... who's always been very loyal and decent. Then, he ends up going on a 'stag do' with his male friends.. when he comes back he tells you he went clubbing etc and also admits he went to a 'gentlemans club'. (I know... I know.. That's generally the sort of stuff that goes on during stag do's lekin phir bhi).. How would you feel? How would you respond? What would you say to him? Would it or would it not affect you? Would you let it jeapordise your relationship?
Discuss please.
And guys, if any of you are in a relationship, married etc, how do you think your wife/girlfriend/fiancee would react?
Aight..about me or my friends. None of us go to "gentlemen" club or even up scale club as well. We only been there once but got bored. And secondly going to strip bars is big no in my dictionary coz i see this as an act of sexual frustration. And my personal ethics do not suggest me to act desperate. The whole point of going out and having fun is to enjoy time with ya're friends. I go to poker games, pool, hookah, play sports, dining out, camping, bbq, movie, beach do outdoor stuff So my future wife has nothing to worry about.
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^ heera ho, heera 