Some girl/woman (adult) is working with me/subordinate…she is assigned a specific task…and she nesses it up it…and she has a habit of effing things up…but before i can say anything…she starts to cry …and everytime she effs things up…she starts crying even before someone utters any strong words…
now being in a desi society… how can a man deal with such a woman?
if it were a guy…i could easily speak my mind and set him straight and may be do some bisti too…but what to do to a woman who is crying already…
What is a man supposed to do in such a situation?? ((keeping in view the fact that if i say something and she starts crying even more and creating a drama…and then the ‘sympathetic’ bosses and colleagues start thinking i did something rude to her or disrespected her or something))
someone needs to get outta diapers and into big girl underwear
What is she 5? You do NOT CRY AT WORK especially constantly and in front of everyone…makes her look manipulative and immature.
As a manager, I would fire her for being inefficient and poor work attitude (someone who cant’ control her emotions) unless she shows significant improvement in some time.
Tell your boss everything and how it's effecting you and that you are having a very hard time working with her. At least bring it to her/his notice. Or the next time she's done something wrong, go call another supervisor to try telling her and then see what she does. If she carries on doing that tell your boss you just can't work with her. Last option just let her cry and make sure she gets things right.
As a manager, I would fire her for being inefficient and poor work attitude (someone who cant' control her emotions) unless she shows significant improvement in some time.
Exactly. How the hell does someone like that get a job? The next time this happens, NomiCA you need to tell her off like you would do a normal employee and not be deterred by the fact that she is girl. And you can explain that to your boss too, tell them she's a crybaby.
I know there are situations where the crying can't be helped. I think very few people actually "want" to cry at work....and especially before their superiors. In most cases people try to hold it in...and then there comes a breaking point.
HOWEVER...I do agree that if it's a frequent behavior where the waterworks begin before the issues are even addressed .....it raises questions as to whether the person is using it s a manipulative/defensive strategy.
I would suggest discussing her behavior......when she's calm........NOT when she's crying or has effed up. When you see that she's relaxed......approach her.....and tell her that you wanted to discuss something with her in a positive/constructive way and that you have NO intention to offend/hurt. If you start it like that.....it can put her a bit at ease. Start with her positive qualities. She may seem incompetent....but pick something positive (maybe she's cooperative, nice, etc)....and then discuss your concerns. Tell her that while mistakes can happen by anyone......the FREQUENT (yes, mention frequent) crying prevents one from understanding her...prevents clear communication....and as a result is not productive in resolving issues. When you let her know that she's been crying frequently.....it can make her reflect over her behavior as it points out that it's being noticed by others and needs to be toned down. Bringing up her positive points won't make her feel like a complete failure.
You can talk to your boss....and have the boss talk to her. But if the boss decides to let her stay.....this can result in negative vibes between you and her. People don't appreciate being tattled on to the boss. They tend to prefer direct communication. So, if you can....then talk to her first....as opposed to rushing to complain to the boss. She may shape up, become stronger, be more careful about mistakes. And if she doesn't improve after you've talked to her......and it's still affecting you....then tell the boss.
Its a trick. If a girl messes up regularly and she just cries every time she is in fact playing you. Its a foolproof mechanism to get a guy to back off from any scolding or any corrective action. Since it is the work place, I would recommend walking out when she cries, inform her to call you when she is done with the water works so you both can get back to work.
That should solve any future crying problems. You are the de facto boss. Being an ass comes with the territory.
Jeeeezzzzzzzz…I hate it when women cry at work!!! It makes the rest of look like silly nilly fools
and I totally agree on this one…if she has any kind of professional sense she would not dare cry…SPECIALLY when she messes up! I once worked with a girl who was ALWAYS messing up and was this crying type..she was FIRED!
I know there are situations where the crying can't be helped. I think very few people actually "want" to cry at work....and especially before their superiors. In most cases people try to hold it in...and then there comes a breaking point.
HOWEVER...I do agree that if it's a frequent behavior where the waterworks begin before the issues are even addressed .....it raises questions as to whether the person is using it s a manipulative/defensive strategy.
I would suggest discussing her behavior......when she's calm........NOT when she's crying or has effed up. When you see that she's relaxed......approach her.....and tell her that you wanted to discuss something with her in a positive/constructive way and that you have NO intention to offend/hurt. If you start it like that.....it can put her a bit at ease. Start with her positive qualities. She may seem incompetent....but pick something positive (maybe she's cooperative, nice, etc)....and then discuss your concerns. Tell her that while mistakes can happen by anyone......the FREQUENT (yes, mention frequent) crying prevents one from understanding her...prevents clear communication....and as a result is not productive in resolving issues. When you let her know that she's been crying frequently.....it can make her reflect over her behavior as it points out that it's being noticed by others and needs to be toned down. Bringing up her positive points won't make her feel like a complete failure.
You can talk to your boss....and have the boss talk to her. But if the boss decides to let her stay.....this can result in negative vibes between you and her. People don't appreciate being tattled on to the boss. They tend to prefer direct communication. So, if you can....then talk to her first....as opposed to rushing to complain to the boss. She may shape up, become stronger, be more careful about mistakes. And if she doesn't improve after you've talked to her......and it's still affecting you....then tell the boss.
I agree with RV. this is what u should do. by telling her that this crying thing makes her look bad and foolish infront of everyone, might make her realise the situation.
