As a manager, I would fire her for being inefficient and poor work attitude (someone who cant' control her emotions) unless she shows significant improvement in some time.
you need to tell her off like you would do a normal employee and not be deterred by the fact that she is girl. And you can explain that to your boss too, tell them she's a crybaby.
You see i can't do much....because she has come with a strong 'reference/sifaarish'....so i can't get her fired......and even my immediate senior would be wary of doing anything...
now i think some of you would have an idea how things are in pakistani environment....the bosses are quite 'Tharki' themselves.......do you think they would let go of an opportunity like this to 'support' her??.......and she is that kind who is always smiling n stuff infront of the bosses.....
who would they listen to ?? Me or a attractive young woman crying for help [who happens to be related to some very important people too]??
NOT when she's crying or has effed up. When you see that she's relaxed......approach her.....and tell her that you wanted to discuss something with her in a positive/constructive way and that you have NO intention to offend/hurt. If you start it like that.....it can put her a bit at ease. Start with her positive qualities. She may seem incompetent....but pick something positive (maybe she's cooperative, nice, etc)....and then discuss your concerns.
hmm....that sounds like a good advice...but do you think i should say that to her alonge or in presence of others??
because if i say something to her alone....and i start by saying positive things.....she might take it as if i am hitting on her or something.... rumours and scandals are prevalent in pakistan if you know what i mean]
if i say it infront of others...she may feel embarassed or something......or feel degraded or something like that.....
Excessive auditing is injurious to mental health. Get professional help.
I have dealt with such gems in the past. Stop giving her any important work, anything that will reflect on your team's performance. Save her for call-overs, photocopying, scanning, printing and filing, and formatting and beautification of reports. And let your bosses know she is dead wood but you are having to keep her on your team because of her benefectors. Try swapping her for a bloke from another department if that is a possibility. You might be able to lure a therki colleague to trade her in for any common bloke out of his team, get a relatively inexperienced one if you have to. I hate to sound sexist here, but I never put a lady in my team.
The only solution I see is either you tell her straight up what you expect from her if she’s on your team, or like others said you need to find a way to get rid of her. Unfortunately most females (not all) in the audit line of work (I assume that’s what you do) are there because they have nothing to do hence their dad uses the reference to get her in the firm, they’re lazy and inefficient because of this.
I don’t think that’s sexist, what’s sexist and really counterproductive is women behaving like sniffling lil crybabies in the working world…and then they complain why they’re not taken seriously!
This does bug me more than other issues, I had a few bad interactions with “working” women in Pakistan, its like unn ko shok hai “jaab karna” but they don’t know the first thing about customer service or anything else…they’re only there b/c they look pretty and got the job from some rishtedaaR
No its not, almost everyone here agrees that her technique is quite manipulative and women who act like this don’t deserve to have jobs, esp considering how she’s incompetent and only got it b/c of a rich relative.
is she just being a drama queen or is she really clinically depressed
with drama queens that really don't have any real problems in life and are just doing it to get attention, i have no clue how to talk to b/c i find that they f it up for all womankind by doing what they do.
if she really does have a problem that she's having a hard time dealing with then just listen to her problems dont' try to bring the big solution to all her problems. let her vent, be supportive and then hopefully she'll be able to deal with it calmly and on her own.
if it's actual clinical depression, recommend that she should go to a therapist to get real help. i've seen people with clinical depression, they go from a complete break down where they are so low that they cry uncontrollably and have suicidal tendencies, to being happier and calmer than ever(after taking the antidepressants)
ps: i just read the first post before writing this
maybe she comes from a background where she's always been used to getting attention when she does the fake crying.
so i think nomica should recommend that she take extra help and actually learn the craft that she's in and stop using her gender as a way of getting through the day and to focus on the work.
Respect usually needs to be earned. why did she choose to work in that field if she doesn't like it, if she feels the need to use fake crying to get others to do the job that she should be competent enough to do, then she really doesn't have any real interest in it.
not saying that he should b*tch about her to the boss but talk to her directly about this and that she should take the job more seriously b/c other coworkers depend on her doing a good job on her own
I would find a moment when she has not done anything wrong and simple be blunt about what you have to say. If she cries, keep going and do not flinch. Sometimes, women cry to get a sympathetic reaction out of you or because they cannot handle confrontation. Either way, you're not her husband. You're her colleague. You're not there to babysit.
If she cries when you are talking to her, hand her a box of tissue and continue with what you have to say. Her tears should have no affect on you...when she sees that...it will embarrass her enough to stop.
you don;t need to talk to her even, issue her a warning letter indicating the mess she has created, 3 letters and she's fired. Simple....
This is what i do.
ought to teach her a lesson.
