Hi, thanks for the amazing reply! He knew about my education but not the extent of my families ‘class’. Reading your reply, I do agree that these reasons may just be an excuse. Alternatively, he may have honestly just seen it as a hindrance for the future and may have felt I wouldn’t be able to adjust into his family or him in mine. I agree totally, I feel girls learn to love, whereas men are more yes or no. He was just so lovely and I feel its so sad that he felt that way (if he felt inferior) and just hope he finds someone who will bring out all the man in him and help him hold his head higher.
I guess I’ve just got to keep reasoning with myself that there must be a reason for it not working out and there must be bigger and better out there for me. It’s just unfortunate that a guy with such a lovely personality like his wasn’t meant to be.
Hi, thanks for the amazing reply! He knew about my education but not the extent of my families ‘class’. Reading your reply, I do agree that these reasons may just be an excuse. Alternatively, he may have honestly just seen it as a hindrance for the future and may have felt I wouldn’t be able to adjust into his family or him in mine. I agree totally, I feel girls learn to love, whereas men are more yes or no. He was just so lovely and I feel its so sad that he felt that way (if he felt inferior) and just hope he finds someone who will bring out all the man in him and help him hold his head higher.
I guess I’ve just got to keep reasoning with myself that there must be a reason for it not working out and there must be bigger and better out there for me. It’s just unfortunate that a guy with such a lovely personality like his wasn’t meant to be.
(sorry for posting twice - i didn’t quite catch on to how to quote you initially)
Thanks for your reply. Sorry I may have been unclear in my OP- the no from him came 2 days after we met. I met him in person. The ‘rishta’ happened as my aunt saw him at a party and went up to him at the end and asked him if he was single as she was in awe of him all evening. He then told her he was and she showed him a pic of me and took one of him which she later showed me. He told her at that point his family are quite traditional and so even though she had taken his number, she asked my grandad to phone his uncle. His uncle, aunt and cousin then arranged to meet up my nana and mami that weekend to talk and they then arranged a meet up for us all 2 days later. Everything happened super quick and it felt very surreal.
I agree that boys nowadays would pursue an interest if they had one and this is one thing I need to fully accept in my head. I think my issue is that I have never felt this way before about any guy, which may be owed to the rejection and so subconsciously my brain may be in chase mode, but I feel I just need to be harsher with my mind and keep it in check and stop all these ‘what if’ thoughts.
Thank you for all your replies. This month has been super busy as I had exams but my brain has been in overdrive with thoughts of him - very stupid ‘what if’ thoughts, but I have been making an extra effort to keep busier and to try to take my mind off it. I realise it comes across stupid but it’s just what it is at the moment. I agree now that messaging him or chasing will just be silly and will show me as desperate. At the end of the day I know I deserve more than feeling sorry for myself over this scenario and it will take time but hopefully I will get there eventually.
Thank you both for replying. Bobby1 I totally would have agreed with you before this, that 1 hour is not enough to feel this much but having gone into this and come out feeling as if everything has shifted is just unexplainable. Dubaiwali - thank you so much for your understanding. Eggs in basket example was smile worthy. There was most definitely a connection and he has gone and done the right thing for our futures by putting a lid on it now before we both reached points in our lives where our differences would cause trouble. I’ve got to thank him for that - this is the most bittersweet situation I have ever been in and I just feel I will most definitely hold it dear for some time now.
I can’t really agree with Bobby1ji because as practical, logical as his response seems, I tend to not be completely practical and logical, when it comes to crushes(those pesky emotions). I did do what you did and did become too deeply in crush with a guy and it took close to a couple months to completely get over him. Yep, so I totally understand and I am now able to consider other guys but now, I wish I could get those months back, it was a waste. We’ll be alright.
to completely get over him. Yep, so I totally understand and I am now able to consider other guys but now, I wish I could get those months back, it was a waste. 
We’ll be alright.