How many would want your son to live seperately?

[Jaanwar]

Re: How many would want your son to live seperately?

@khawateen

i honestly cant say what i will want from my son when he gets married.

a mother’s heart moulds itself a million times through out her maternal life… its easy to say im gonna kick my son out when he is 18 or dont want him living with me when he gets married when you ureself are either not married or even if you are and have a baby… your soo young and energetic and have a social life that you cant imagine needing your child for emotional support… but as you age.. things really change… your lifestyle changes, your emotions change, your emotional needs change…

right now i would say ya i want my son to live seperately… but the way i have seen myself change emotionally ever since i became a mom, i can bet my mamta on the fact that 20 yrs down the road, i will be grabbing onto my son not wanting to let go not cuz i never got love from my husband and need my son to fulfil my emotional needs, but cuz the special bond a mother shares with her child is beyond words can describe.

and then bring in grandkids and any grandmother would kill to have her grandchild be around her 24/7. i just came back from my parents place and the joy my son brought to their lives cant not be described.. i live with my in laws and i can again say, they would have it no other way, just cuz they get to live another kind of life through their grandchild.

my joint family situation is very nice so the pleasure is 2 fold… i think my in laws know the pros of having their bahu live with them (grandchild grandchild grandchild), so they keep the drama to a minimal and i also know the pros of living with in laws (babysitting babysitting babysitting), i also keep teh drama to a minimal

Thank you!