How important is attraction to you

Lifestyle Relationships
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I didn't say physical attraction isn't important. I said physical attraction AT FIRST SIGHT is nonsense. It develops over time, as you get to know the person.... its all in your brain/mind.

What is it with this forum..... people pick and choose what they want to perceive from a post...... Some things never change smh

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Most elderly couples don't even have sex so all the other important things matter more after a certain phase in life though. After that intense/passionate phase ends the companionship matters more.

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^Is that really out of choice tho lol

Err I said 'to those who say'..

And nobody here mentioned 'physical attraction at first sight' either..

Most people know love develops after time and you don't necessarily have to live with someone for those feelings to develop..

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Not true... don't ask me how I know :p. The frequency decreases though.

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While I agree that physical attraction isn't everything, I think it's a bit disingenuous to say that physical attraction is completely unimportant and that personality is everything.

In the case of arranged marriages, I find it especially disingenuous and bordering on dishonesty to say that physical attraction plays no part in deciding whether or not to accept a proposal and that "it’s all about personality and other qualities.” In most arranged marriage scenarios, it’s not as if the couple has months to get to know each other (and thus, become familiar with each other’s personality and other qualities) and decide whether or not they want to get married. The prospective couple only has a number of meetings to decide whether or not they want to go ahead and it’s quite unlikely that you can thoroughly determine someone’s personality based on a few meetings. Given that people don’t have the sufficient time to get to know each other thoroughly, they make their decision based on a series of factors, one of which is physical appearance, and then consider the overall package.

If and after the couple decides that they like each other and want to get married, they may continue to speak and get to know one another and each other’s personality but to say that “I chose him/her solely for his/her personality” is a bit dishonest. Most people would not allow a potential prospect to advance past the first meeting if they found them to be physically repellent or extremely unattractive. I’m not implying that people are completely shallow but I find it terribly difficult to believe that people would marry someone they were physically repulsed by or felt no physical attraction for solely based on personality.

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physical attraction plays a smaller part in a woman's decision to continue with any relationship...guys place a greater emphasis on looks (physical attraction) than women do in deciding if they want to be start/stay in/solidify a relationship.

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This is true...women tend to overlook things whereas men do not.

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Women feel attracted to almost every guy who's smartly dressed and has got hot looks. Is that the case with women?

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^money, don't forget money.

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Why do women have to 'overlook things' so much?

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To me it's Important! Not like someone stepping out of a magazine but fairly attractive.

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To all those who say attraction is not important, are a pack of liars.

Also physical attraction at first sight is nonsense? What is this nonsense?

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I have seen some people marry others that they are physically attracted to but they are mainly women. I think the people who say its unimportant probably mean its less important than say .. personality but i dont think they mean its completly not important.

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As a guy who considers himself attractive I would want someone at least equal or better. That said intelligence and character must be part of the package.

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I think seerat is more important to me than surat... Its possible to live with a man with average looks or who is unattractive..but impossible to live with a man who has bad manners or habbit, negative thinking.. one who has bad character...

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Men and women think different. Generally women are more likely to compromise on looks.

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True mostly. Women go for love. Having said that, they are easy to manipulate in the name of love too. Talk to them, praise them and take whatever you want.

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Is this how it works?

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^ Sounds like how women want men to believe it works

A wise woman on the internet once said that it doesn't hurt women if there's a misconception or two about them among men.

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So, if the girl is pretty normal looking and not super beautiful, you would not marry her? As you get to know her in person you wouldn't feel anything that would attract you to her other than only the physical? The way she is with the elderly, her strong relationship with Allah, the way she does the small things to consider your feelings, knows you better than you know yourself after only being around for a short time........I'm just throwing around some examples here.

What if the next girl is completely hot but a total mismatch in terms of subculture, language, getting along with your family and is a total jerk to you......what then?

Men and women cannot be so different in the attraction department.