Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
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Well, I'm in the UK, and as far as the people in my social circle are concerned, dating is pretty much putting out as soon as you meet the person
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I'm very confused, you claim to be a very decent/shareef person, yet, your social circle says something else about you. You are known by the company you keep.
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
you are too young for getting interested in such matters. if you want it to be Islami then openly tell ur mother abt this take a dare. otherwise, wait for the time wen ur mother considers you right for marriage. moreover, for knowing sumbody one needs not enough time. the new ppl are more sharp and shrewd, they have various latest modes of judging the other spouse.
Mate , in essence you want to date with your parents permission ? 
thats what you basically want .. because practically looking at it .. you are either going to be engaged to be able to meet your future partner with your parents permission and get to know her for a few years … OR you are asking your parents to let you meet with girls and get to know them without being engaged , which no girls parents will allow you to do..
to be engaged , your parents will find it hard to explain to any girls parents why their son is the best choice for their daughter .. all parents want settled sons in law , individuals who are ready to take on life’s fiscal responsibilities …
my son will one day become an xyz.. is too much a risk to be taken by a girl’s parents … know what i mean?
it clearly indicates that you may be ready in your mind for it , but in essence you have yet to learn alot more in maturity and give it at least until you finish your med school … otherwise even if you are engaged , and lets say after 3 years of knowing your fiancee you decide you dont like her … are you going to break off the engagement? that wont be fair to the girl… right?
so let it be for the time being … and an important thing : the way you view life , changes by 180 degrees the day you step into your practical life … your priorities change , your friends change, what you look for in a partner even that long list changes !
Ok, 1st post, here goes!
I'm 21 (m) and halfway through med school, pretty mature outlook on life and I'm from a traditional-ish family. There's always been an unspoken, mutually understood agreement that when the time comes, I'll be introduced to girls with a view to marriage and I'm fine with that. I'm relatively liberal with religion and culture in one sense, but I'm really strictly against drinking, smoking, etc and even "dating" (in the sense of having casual relationships
But I feel ready to meet someone now, and though I've been dropping hints for a while, my mum doesn't really take it seriously. I have an older brother so maybe she's thinking it's his turn first (he's not interested at the moment though)?
In my view, its not like I want to get married right now, I just want to meet someone and become friends etc etc etc so I know I'm not jumping into anything, and its not rushed and maybe get married once I graduate (in a couple of years).
I suppose this is different from other similar threads because I'm a guy in a situation many girls find themselves in!
So I guess my question is, how do I let my parents know that I'm ready without being really overt?
omgg my dream is to get married to someone whoes close to my age, whos going to med school just like me and whos gonna end up being a doctor! so i tink im ur prefect match!! JOKING! lol
but seriously i tink you should def wait till you get a degree and after that you can start looking for a girl..by the time you get married you'll have a job also!
lol its not like that, a lot of my good friends are girls and may parents know it (partly because a lot of my friends are my mum and dad's friends kids). My parents are pretty cool but I suppose they still see me as a kid.
To all the people suggesting the "get a girlfriend, take her home" route, quite honestly I'd have more of a problem with that than my parents. It's just not how I've been brought up.
i adore u!lol there are no guys like u here!
but seriously i know wat u mean! it takes time to get to knw the person nd u dun just want me arranged to a grl whose been arnd nd u will never find out cuz u never got a chace to talk to her! ... talk to ur mom nd if thats kinda uncomfortable.. tell ur brother to say it ur mom it always work wit me.. if im shy to say sumthing to my mom... i tell my sister nd she goes saying in a good way like i think u shud do dis and i was talking to ____ nd she thinkk ... blahh nd blahh
** I adore u!**lol there are no guys like u here! but seriously i know wat u mean! it takes time to get to knw the person nd u dun just want me arranged to a grl whose been arnd nd u will never find out cuz u never got a chace to talk to her! ... talk to ur mom nd if thats kinda uncomfortable.. tell ur brother to say it ur mom it always work wit me.. if im shy to say sumthing to my mom... i tell my sister nd she goes saying in a good way like i think u shud do dis and i was talking to ____ nd she thinkk ... blahh nd blahh
It's good you don't waste any time. :)
to be engaged , your parents will find it hard to explain to any girls parents why their son is the best choice for their daughter .. all parents want settled sons in law , individuals who are ready to take on life's fiscal responsibilities ...
my son will one day become an xyz.. is too much a risk to be taken by a girl's parents ... know what i mean? !
iduno i kinda disagree
i know a frend whos getting married nd they both in college nd hes wanting to become a dentist but hvnt gotten into dental school yet nd its tottaly an arranged marriage!
i guess i am trying to say is that there arent muchh good guys left nd wen a grl parent see that the a guy is good wit good heart, religious and alot of other good qualities they leave it up to Allah and inshallah everything will work out..
Re: How do you let your parents know you’re ready?
GS is where is it happening:cb:…On a serious note, just in this thread there are people in the same situation. Why not get to know one another?!
It's good you don't waste any time. :)
whats dat suppose to mean??