Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Yes, good luck!!! I wish you the best - pray you find your partner in the most Islamic fashion possible, ameen. :)
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Best wishes to you Zabair!! And dont forget the canadian cutie here :) we'd all love to see a GS wedding even if it takes place a few years down the road :) And I specifically and formally introduced the two of you.
Seriously tho...I think your parents will understand when you explain to them your thinking and your desires. They seem like very loving parents who have your best interests at heart so be not fearful of expressing your wishes!!!
Keep us posted! :)
Best wishes to you Zabair!! And dont forget the canadian cutie here :) we'd all love to see a GS wedding even if it takes place a few years down the road :) And I specifically and formally introduced the two of you.
:o called me cutie
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
^lolzz
you are so ready too for a dude , dude
^lolzz you are so ready too for a dude , dude
am i ever! zubi, PM is free...
Re: How do you let your parents know you’re ready?
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Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
In old times (around 1900s), guys would put salt in the ghara (earthen pot for drinking water) to let parents know they are ready ;)
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didn’t know that… . zubi mere bacha, get to work in cafe! have fun
or just put salt in ghara hahaha
or just put salt in ghara hahaha
we don't drink out of a ghara... will it work if I put salt in the drinking water bottles?
i think she meant sid. 
Lol
i like this story, so have you spoken to your mum yt what she said?
But if you parents aren't too strict etc maybe if you meet sum1 yourself like if you sorta like sum1 just casually talk to them to get a general vibe and take it from there.
I dont think theres anything un-islamic bout tht and its not official so win win both ways?
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Bring a white girl home, the next day your mom will have 4-5 girls ready for your viewing pleasure. On a serious note, I agree with Xeno, you say the following:
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strictly against drinking, smoking, etc and even "dating" (in the sense of having casual relationships
I just want to meet someone and become friends etc etc etc so I know I'm not jumping into anything
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What exactly do you think dating is?
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Ok hypothetical question.
Say if a girl was/is ready for marriage and meeting potentials, how does one go about telling one's parents that:konfused? It would be a lot easier for a guy to tell their parents than a girl I would imagine?
Hey your nic reminds me of that song, “Kuriye aa kohl ni, dildirani banawa!”
Well, in order for my mom to get the point, first I just started repeating how my friend ABC got engaged, DEF has a bridal shower, GHI is a mother of 2 kids, and “OMG mom, we alllllllllllllllll are the same age, and went to school together, teehee!!”
It works. :halo:
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
That was the song from which the username originated from.
LOL my cousin has dropped those hints to her mum but her mum does not take hed to anything she says regarding this matter.
What exactly do you think dating is?
Well, I'm in the UK, and as far as the people in my social circle are concerned, dating is pretty much putting out as soon as you meet the person, and especially at this age relationships are pretty much always sexual. I guess everyone defines in their own little way, and I defined my "acceptable" version!!
Ok hypothetical question. Say if a girl was/is ready for marriage and meeting potentials, how does one go about telling one's parents that:konfused? It would be a lot easier for a guy to tell their parents than a girl I would imagine?
You'd think, wouldn't you!!! I guess my parent's aren't so receptive. Not spoken to them yet, its been a bit manic with the holidays
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Wow. I never had to tell my mom...she started scoping people out the minute I got my period. There was even a time when I was anti-marriage because she was so worried about me getting married but thats long gone now. My problem was the opposite, telling her I wasnt ready at the time!
Re: How do you let your parents know you're ready?
Ok, 1st post, here goes!
I'm 21 (m) and halfway through med school, pretty mature outlook on life and I'm from a traditional-ish family. There's always been an unspoken, mutually understood agreement that when the time comes, I'll be introduced to girls with a view to marriage and I'm fine with that. I'm relatively liberal with religion and culture in one sense, but I'm really strictly against drinking, smoking, etc and even "dating" (in the sense of having casual relationships
But I feel ready to meet someone now, and though I've been dropping hints for a while, my mum doesn't really take it seriously. I have an older brother so maybe she's thinking it's his turn first (he's not interested at the moment though)?
In my view, its not like I want to get married right now, I just want to meet someone and become friends etc etc etc so I know I'm not jumping into anything, and its not rushed and maybe get married once I graduate (in a couple of years).
I suppose this is different from other similar threads because I'm a guy in a situation many girls find themselves in!
So I guess my question is, how do I let my parents know that I'm ready without being really overt?
My statements may sound harsh but that is not the intent.
If you cant have an adult to adult conversation on your own, with your parents then you are not ready. seriously.
What are you asking for, some sort of parental blessed dating even if that is not what you are calling it.
many girls and their families would have a view that if ppl clickm and they dont have years to figure it out and umpteen meetings, but a few meetings and if they click then make it official i.e. engagement with the view that the wddding would be in a couple of years when you finish up.
as people have pointed out, teh age thing will play in it too because girls your age may not have a few years to ge to know u to see if they click, and younger ones would be so much younger that you may not click now, i.e. someone who is 16-17 right now.