I didn’t know you were pashtun; glad to find out. Too bad I can’t speak pashto, damn westernize upbringing.
Anyway, I know there are girls out there like you Paris who are traditional but I haven’t met or seen any here in the west. Thus, I think for me it would make sense to go back home rather than marry someone who has totally different views. You get married only once (not four for me as much it will shock some of you) so it had better be the right choice.
well you can’t met us trditional women…cause meeting men is not “traditional” …it means that you could only a superficial untraditional face of mine when meeting me in the west…
it means that the more exclusive kind of people you are looking for…the harder it is! you have to dig behind superficial things…
so i warn you, arranged marriges are based on superficial meetings…so you might be trapped by superficial outlooks, be carefull;)
^ Who's getting arranged? I don't believe in them. I'll find the girl; arrange a meeting with my folks and her, if she "passes" then we set a wedding date. :)
Btw there will be plenty of pakistani girls who will marry just for your status in the US/UK so dont worry, theres plenty of “house wive” material in pakistan. I have a feeling your in a for a surprise
I agree with Sahar though, most girls from here wouldn’t want to marry someone so narrowminded anyways.
Next time you are here, try to see and observe the different kinds of people here, just like you will find in Pak. You will find mod-squad larkian as well as hijabis. I have seen girls observing purdah that they even wear gloves and full niqab, incase you think all girls living in NA wear jeans and tank tops and are too modern.
This just reminds me. I went to Georgia once and called up a sister in the area that i had never met before (called her through the masjid) . She came to pick me up, and i was surprised to see she was covered from head to toe in burqah, in the summer time, and you could only see her eyes. She took me to jumaa and then later took me to meet other muslim women in the area. They were all in hijab and modest clothing. Most of them observed full purdah. They also treated me to dinner that night and then dropped me off at my hotel.
I was surprised and impressed by their hospitality. By the way, most of these women were reverts and they were African American. All of them were brought up in the west but the way they carried themselves, even i was ashamed to call myself a born Muslim after i met them :)
This just reminds me. I went to Georgia once and called up a sister in the area that i had never met before (called her through the masjid) . She came to pick me up, and i was surprised to see she was covered from head to toe in burqah, in the summer time, and you could only see her eyes. She took me to jumaa and then later took me to meet other muslim women in the area. They were all in hijab and modest clothing. Most of them observed full purdah. They also treated me to dinner that night and then dropped me off at my hotel.
I was surprised and impressed by their hospitality. By the way, most of these women were reverts and they were African American. All of them were brought up in the west but the way they carried themselves, even i was ashamed to call myself a born Muslim after i met them :)
MashAllah, very good to hear. Although personally I'm not into full purdah or hijaab. A solid shalwar kameez with dupatta on the shoulders is good for me.
I knew this one guy who (weirdly enough liked me) said that a girl from here wont make him parathas in the morning and I said HELL NO. According to him thats the reason he wanted to marry a girl from pakistan.
I find it more insulting for women in pakistan then here.
Hahahah “Runna walayaan deh pakkan pronthay, teh chadyan dee ugg na balay”… gone are those days, now ready made parathas available in Market.
I love Parathas, and make myself one every morning, verna meri to subah hee nahin hoti But if someone wants to marry me for Parathas?? Move on baby, I’ve better things to do
There’s an FOB I know who came here and told her busband point blank, I never made chapatis in PK, so no way dear! (Too many servants for everything, bartan dhonay wali, kapray dhaonay wali, safayee wali… LOL)However, when her children didn’t like to eat Pita bread, then she had to made chapati for the love of children, LOL!!!
A man who's extremely traditional in his thinking might be better off marrying someone who thinks in the same way. If he did marry someone that grew up here who didn't think as he did there might be a few arguments here and there and I don't think that would be a very fun marriage for either of them.
I mean I wouldn't be happy with a man who thinks because i'm his wife I shouldn't work ever and he's the only one that can bring home the paycheck. It would be difficult to live with so many restrictions.
People don't change after marriage so it's not like his thinking will change drastically one day.
I think the only guys who think grlz here are horrible and slutty are the slutty guys themselves.. obviously if a "Shareef baccha" :D only has em as acquaintances and never hangs out with em, how will he get close to grlz to really know fi they are badmaash or what? Unless he happesn to think anyone who doesn't wear salwar kameez, is studying for a career or works or has a social life, is "badmaash" in his "shareef" eyes :D
No, im saying ANY guy who says all women here are sluts but claim themselves to be shareef and traditional are anything but. You do or don’t fit into that
…it means that you could only a superficial untraditional face of mine when meeting me in the west…
But if someone wants to marry me for Parathas?? 
Move on baby, I’ve better things to do 