thankyou!
I just came across your message and I must say the dilemma your going through is exactly what im going through.
I do have the freedom to find someone myself, but I feel life is too busy with working 5 days a week. I had the perfect chance when i was at uni but all the guys were not the type i would like to marry, but now its a question of how to find the one and where?
Anyway I really hope and pray you find someone inshallah.
exactly, life is too busy and i don't know where or how to look. pakistani, muslim girls aren't allowed to do a lot of things which would make us more available. we're taught all our lives to stay away from guys and then when we're in our 20's our parents secretly wish (some of them anyway) that we've found someone and if we haven't then they find us one. i go to uni too but i haven't even seen one guy who i might be interested in.
where were you girls, when I wasnt married?? i had the exact same situation, i wanted to find someone special myself but at the end had to go for good old arranged marriage! it had its own initial problems, now it all smooth and working out fine if not perfect.
with age of just 22 any..786 you have next couple of years to find someone, dont look too hard, he will come to you one fine day. if you are studying, thats easy but then you will hardly find serious ones there, as most of the guys at that age only looking for fun nothing more. but there will be many who are just like yourself, trying to find someone and staying behind. so look for those ones too.
finding someone online is also good, we have some working marriages out of GS now. you can see how people are writing here, get the idea about their personality not always as people portray and pretend with no limits as its online thing.
friends and family, college and uni, online here or some only serious sites about martimony
these are your best bets. but dont overkill yourself.
haha, i guess we were too young to think about this stuff at that time. some people might argue that i'm still too young..but anyway, i am going to school right now but i haven't come across anyone that i'm interested in. most of the guys i've seen and heard of are just looking to fool around and i can't afford to waste my time and emotions on anyone. thanks for your suggestions!
To find the one my dear, you must choose between the Red Pill or the Blue Pill and see how deep the rabbit hole goes? in to the Matrix!
lol..yeah..i never quite understood the matrix!
That's the thing, I want to find the guy myself
Make a signboard with ur original post and walk arnd the city .... Atleast dozen is guaranteed, depending on ur looks the number of guys u find will increase exponentially =)
Re: How do I find “the one”?
Anonymous hav u tried any of those sites i referred to yet?
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^no I haven't actually. I will soon..I'll let you know whenever I do :)
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what kinda guy you are looking for?
his education?
his background?
what are your plans after marriage?
and would u mind tell us about your kind self? your education? your future plans (besides finding a hubby)?
ps. 
no i am not a rishta aunty just wana see what things girls expect these days? or should expect?
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^lol okay well..the guy's education is one of the important factors. he needs to be a working professional. i'm not too anal about backgrounds, he just needs to be pakistani, and a sunni muslim.
and um..about me..well i'm working on becoming a child psychologist, along with that i'm an artist (painter) and a makeup artist.
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ummm…artistic ppl are hard to get along cuz of their mind is constantly making kichreez. they are pretty spontaneous, and many times they want the results asap.
and many of them look for Utopia
(guyz, this has nothing to do with me 
…i dont make khicree, i make the enitre biryani ki daig).
so are u lookign for someone in North American, and a green passport holder, ya import bhi chalay ga?
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^ doesnt make sense...
U cant be so general about what a person is goign to be like
anonymous... those are good things to start off with. It's good to have some type of criteria, but not be so rigid about things... it gets hard when one has like 100 things that need to be met..
as u meet someone, as u get to know someone, u end up disregarding things here and there and start holding other things as a priority... its natural
haha..well if you know that much about artistic people, then you should also know that they’re very sensitive..so it’s best not to generalize about me :D. i’m fairly patient with things, i don’t want results asap but i’ll admit i am looking for utopia.
oh and btw, i hate khichree.. i’m learning how to cook these days, and i must say, i’m pretty darn good 
^ doesnt make sense...
U cant be so general about what a person is goign to be like
anonymous... those are good things to start off with. It's good to have some type of criteria, but not be so rigid about things... it gets hard when one has like 100 things that need to be met..
as u meet someone, as u get to know someone, u end up disregarding things here and there and start holding other things as a priority... its natural
yup, i totally agree
oh i forgot to answer the last part. yes i am looking for someone in North America..and i prefer a passport holder.
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It's not easy. My brother is having a hard time too despite being in a desirable profession. My family's friends have introduced him to some girls but so far nothing has happened. He's also looked online and found some nice girls there but again nothing has panned out. I'd say to do what everyone else has suggested. Try to ask friends at work or from your social network, the masjid, attend events in your city that have lots of aunties where people can talk to you and find out that you are single. In North America, ISNA is coming up July 4th weekend, you can register for their matromonial service.
Online there are several sites like shaadi and other sites that people have listed. Consider those living in Canada as well if you think you need to expand your circle. Toronto has a lot of muslims for example.
Most importantly, just pray, and meanwhile keep busy in what you are doing in your life like studies/work. Insha'Allah you will find someone just right for you.
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anonymous, if you're looking for some eligible bachelors, then just let me know. I have many accomplished & shareef pakistani friends that are looking for long-term committment (that is - marriage). I'd be happy to play cupid.
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Don't worry too much about finding 'the one'. Worry more about your life afterwards eg. all the responsibilites that marriage brings.
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just pray to Allah and he will come from nowhere..just dont think toooo much about it
i met my hubby first time on the airport haha...so u never know, he can be anywhere!!! :O
It's not easy. My brother is having a hard time too despite being in a desirable profession. My family's friends have introduced him to some girls but so far nothing has happened. He's also looked online and found some nice girls there but again nothing has panned out. I'd say to do what everyone else has suggested. Try to ask friends at work or from your social network, the masjid, attend events in your city that have lots of aunties where people can talk to you and find out that you are single. In North America, ISNA is coming up July 4th weekend, you can register for their matromonial service.
Online there are several sites like shaadi and other sites that people have listed. Consider those living in Canada as well if you think you need to expand your circle. Toronto has a lot of muslims for example.
Most importantly, just pray, and meanwhile keep busy in what you are doing in your life like studies/work. Insha'Allah you will find someone just right for you.
yeah people have suggested matrimonial sites..i guess i can try those. thanks for your reply