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oh ALMOST same as my parents .. but mine had seen each other’s pics but never talked 
It was cute though ..well the way my dad tells it 
Me: I still have to meet 
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seems u guys/gals haven't had to work hard to find your partners.
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^ thats coz the guy did all the work 
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chatroom and then gupshup and then...
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must have been desperate guys… 
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there is no "the one"
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dont’ be so quick to dismiss…ull be needing advice from em me can tell 
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It depends upon how you look at it. In my view arrange marriage means to not only take advantage of parents guidence (who ofcourse are more mature and experienced than you ) but to also show respect to their advice instead of taking an emotional and immature step (which mostly happens in love marriages).
IF you check the stats the rate of failure of love marriages is alot higher than arrange marriages in asian countries. Arranged marriage mostly doesnt exist in western countries (except through match makers) due to which there divorce rate is alot higher than in asian countries. (I might be wrong but this is what I have come to know).
BUT that doesn't mean one should not select a person of ones choice. Ofcourse we have the right to chose anyone on the basis of our own priorities by ofcourse also respecting the advice of our parents, which is worth it, because not only they are more sincere to us than anyone else in this world, but also after giving sacrifices for us all their lives, they deserve at least some right to be given some importance before making any decision in our life.
The reason why I trust them in this decision is that I feel that they know me from the time when I didn't even know myself. They have spent their whole life observing and thinking about me and my siblings even more than they would have given attention to themselves.
In this matter the reason why I don't completely trust "only" myself is because my age demands things which might apparantly look attractive and later hold no value, but their experience and sincere prayers would help me in getting someone who might not apparently look very attractive to me but inshAllah would be helpful for me in the long run. Because there is "Barkat" of Allah in that as "Allah puts his blessings on people who keep their parents happy, but also keeping themselves within Islamic limits"
^Having said all the above, I didn't mean to offend anyone who supports love marriage, but to share what sincerely I feel is right for myself. I might be wrong for alot of other cases. As everyone has his own perspective and a right to live the way he wants.
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its all about personal perspective, man. i'm having a love marriage and i think we have as much chance to succeed as another couple who might have an arranged marriage. as far as divorce in asian and north american countries, well theres a LOT more factors that determine how and why a couple separate. to say its mainly cos of the type of marriage couples have is pretty naive.
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It's not so black and white, parents can make mistakes, and be immature and emotional (i.e., "your grandmother/uncle/neighbor/chachis brothers cousins' wife/wanted this rishta" etc) and the children can make better decisions than their parents. It happens.
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Congratulations. I hope you and your wife are very happy together. Please remember that no matter how you get together, there will almost definitely be frustrating and difficult times in the marriage. Faith, hard work, love, respect, and understanding are necessary to make it work.
Also, this is a bit off-topic, but I just wanted to remind you that though those stats may imply that arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages, it’s difficult to measure and determine “success.” Are you measuring it by how long the marriages last? Is a marriage really successful if the couple suffers silently together and refuses to consider divorce?
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precisely!
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Met my hubby at work. He used to come over to my office and apparently saw me several times before I saw him. One day, me, him and his friend got on to the same lift going up to my office. And when I was introduced to him, he said such a wonderful hello…I can never ever forget that. He truly “had me at hello!” Oh and he claims that the first time he saw me, he said to himself…that’s the girl I’m going to marry! I’m still bit cynical about that though.
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Thanks sisters for the kind advices. I would keep in mind these aspects.
The first thing I would tell my fiance after marriage (inshAllah) would be that I would be the one who would make the final decision as there is always one head of any place, BUT neither mine nor her opinion matters infront of the logic of Quran and Sunnah, so it would be better that we both always base our decisions according to Islamic teachings and the one whose decsion is more strong in that aspect would be respected by both of us, which both of us would judge honestly. Ofcourse we should both also be flexible and politely respect each others opinions.
Besides, I believe marriage is all about **"nibhana". **We need to "Forgive and Forget" on a number of occasions and be polite and practical in our approach. Someone asked Hazrat Ali (R.A) " What is marriage?" He replied " One month of loving and than fighting and fighting" ( What I understand from it is that fighting is also part of loving, when you have difference of opinion, unless it doesn't cross limits).
p.s.
I wanted that my marriage takes place according to the sunnah of the Prophet (saw) which seems very difficult in a family which enjoys high status and is living in a fashonable environment but I pray to Allah that InshAllah it takes place the way Allah wants, and I need prayers.
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I had his rishta over and almost ignored it for some silly reason. Then all of a sudden one day, i asked my ammi if she had done anything about this rishta at all. She said no she hadnt called him because of my "silly" reasons. Once she called him,and things started moving, i still had my doubts because of my prev relationship experiences. But the day he told my mother this, "Why is she so afraid? If one person did waht he did to her, does not mean every one is going to turn out like him". That was the day he had me :)
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Submission, i am sorry i havent had the chance to read all your posts but i would like to ask one thing : Have you ever considered that your fiancee may like to talk with you or meet with you? This way you are not only limiting yourself but her as well. I totally understand your reasons for not wanting to talk with her or meet with her befor the nikah. A friendly suggestion would be to get the nikah done sooner if possible (thats how my husband and i did, because we didnt feel comfortable talking to each other during the engagement period).
Nice stories by people btw. Its nice to hear about the love in relationships.
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^JazakAllah khair sister for the kind advice. Yes, you are right, I should not keep her waiting for long. Infact my parents and her parents are planning the marriage along with nikah in near future. (InshAllah)
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That's really sweet. sounds like one of those stories from Khawateen digest. :)
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how has the arranged marriage turned out?
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wow..8 days and marriage? thats fast..
although ur a luckyyyyyyyyyyyy duckyyyyyyy