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Submission, let me get this right, you've never yet talked to whom ya going to marry in the near future?
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Dude that’s nothing. My parents hadn’t even SEEN eachother until the night of their wedding! 
Personally, I think it’s wrong to dedicate yourself to a person so blindly. How can you be sure that you will even get along with them?
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Yeah but back in those days the above was somewhat of the norm....but nowadays for that to be sill happening.... shock, horror.
BTW nicely told Sahar.
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Hm wedding was the second time I ever saw my husband. :)
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BTW nicely told Sahar.
thats jsut part of it...some grls dont even give consent n it happens:)
:S
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for real?
:S
...but then that makes it invalid if consent has not been given.
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Yeah forreal orph
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They asked me, that they would be happy to accept anyone if I have anyone in my mind. I told them that I have no one in my mind so I would like them to select one for me. They asked me my priorities.
I told them "Seerat", "haya" (character) and religious family above all (I can compromise on looks, wealth, status....etc but not on Seerat). Before seeing her I did "Istekhara". I was shocked to see her in reality as she was according to the indications I got in my "Istekhara", so I accepted her.
It has been two and a half years since I am engaged and 2 years since I have been living abroad but I have not yet spoken to her for even once because my mother in law thinks that I can only talk after "Nikah" (which would take place soon inshAllah along with mariage) and I respect her beliefs.
** My fiance wanted to talk to me but I sent message through my sister that it is only possible if she gets permission first from my mother in law, because if I want her to respect my mother than I should first show respect to her mother's likings and dislikings. I know she would not have tried to take permission.**
How thoughtful
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Mature "rivayati" stuff... I think I'd like to keep out of this
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Thanks canpaki and sara516 sisters for the kind prayers and encouragement. The closest word for "Seerat" might be modesty or good character.
@orpheus. Yes, I haven't talk to her and only seen her once. It might sound odd as it does to everyone here in the west, BUT as I said that I was shocked to see her in real life because before seeing her what I saw in my dream after "Istekhara" was enough for me to believe that She actually was the one Allah has written for me. Alhamdulillah. I am sorry for not explaining my dream here.
And my mother in law has not forced me for not speaking. She said that both of you can speak if you like but incase you seek my liking and disliking, than I would not like it. <----This statement was enough for me.
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Well that's all nice and good and good luck by the way, but never having spoken to whom your going to marry is down right scary no matter how way you see it.
Has it not crossed your mind to atleast use this so called engagement period to get to know her, or just call her and say hi and ask her how she is and all...
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Orpheus, people have different lifestyles and preerences and what works for one.may not work for the other..:)
I met my husband at a party at his cousens, we dated/hung out for about 4 months, his dad met my family, then his parents met my fafmily and asked my dada abu for the rishta and we got married a year later.
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Has it not crossed your mind to atleast use this so called engagement period to get to know her, or just call her and say hi and ask her how she is and all...
Orpheus...what may seem scary to you and me may not be scary to others. Apparently this guy did Istikarah and he has faith in Allah therefore he is going by the feeling he had in accordance to his dream.
cute stories btw....especially sahar's. :)
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Hey i dig that, that's why i said good luck to them both.
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i met my hubby at a company where i went to pick up my friends check because she was sick.from that minute on,we both knew:)
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My husband and i grew up togethor, he was my neighbour, and had always been a close friend, i think the first time i really wanted to marry him was when we both went to university, it was in another city, so both our families were far away. and i remember that he had been planning this camping trip with his friends for months, and he came to my dorm room to borrow my camera, and found me on the floor, and took me to the hospital (i had to have my appendix removed) . I woke up a day later and saw him sleeping in a little chair in my room all huddled up snoring, and i looked at him and thought..wow i want to marry him.
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thats sweet, ramsha! its funny- when its right, you just know. for my FH and I, even though we were both attracted to each other, and we both knew we liked each other, i was the first one to go up and say it out loud. that was scary! he said he had reservations about dating a pakistani girl because of how strict my family was. but then two days later, he was like, yo what up, lets go out. hahaha
so we did! and the rest is history, as the cliche goes.
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^ aww thats nice, well for me i wasn't really the first one to say anything, we were actually at a mutual friends wedding and an uncle confused us for husband and wife, at that point we just laughed, but he brought it up later on and thats how everything got started
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g u p s h u p