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^lol
This happens in “all adults party” also.
I was invited to a “ladies only” night… all girls were suppose to just have fun… but guess what ???
one girl tagged her TWO kids together!
and the other girl!!! 
Tagged her MOM!
people just don’t get it 
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I agree. It's true some parents need to learn how to teach their kids behave, but a wedding without kids is simply boring.
In all seriousness, is there a polite way of including this on the invite, only well behaved kids welcome?
BTW, some more experiences, kids poking and touching the bride, sitting all around her, treading on the lehnga.
One day in a Pakistan wedding I was trying to photograph the bride, and this gang of brats just would NOT move and crowded round, parents saying NOTHING to them, ignoring my polite requests to PLEASE MOVE, so in the end it YELLED "HATTO, HATTO!!!" Would u believe it, that actually did the trick, but i got evils from the parents.
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lol at MOM!!!
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Some of these stories are funny 
I know kids running around can be annoying. The last wedding I went to ( 2 weeks ago) was well organised and they had arrangements for the children outside of the hall to keep them occupied. There were a range of activities like a bouncy castle, face painting and some other things.
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i suppose you could put “Adult Only Reception” on your RSVP card, or “We have reserved ___ number of seats in your honour at our reception”, and in the blank, fill in the number of people invited from that family.
that should make it very clear. if they’re confused, they can call you and clarify.
Remember that no matter how you handle this situation, not everyone will be happy. You may have hurt feelings either way so you need to handle the situation with decorum.
The Wedding Reception That’s Chilly to Children - The New York Times
Q&A: Guest List: Telling Guests It’s 18 and Over? - By TheKnot.com
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^and what do you say to those who bring extra guests (read families) of their own? 
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Nicely put, I certainly think this wording can be used in invites without causing offense.
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We operate our wedding like an airline and strictly enforce and excess baggage policy. Any guests who exceed your quota will be offloaded from the venue immediately.
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I a all for desi ppl having a no children policy at weddings, I personally dont like taking the kids because I can either cater to them or socialize, its not fair to the kids if I ignore them, its not fair to me if I make an appearance but had minimal time to even talk to anyone.
This comes with a caveat, a huge one for desis..start and end your events at times that are not laughably divergent from the listed times.
My other option is to plan for a set time, go there and come back whether the vows have been exchanged or not, whether dinner has been served or not, and whether the event has concluded or not.
Kids have set schedules, and I would rather have them be at home with a babysitter so when its their bedtime they can sleep. desi events in general barely have guests arriving around when it would be kids bedtime. I would be very selfish of me to drag them to an event at 9 p.m. where they would be uncomfortable and the event does not end until 1 a.m. or something.
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Unless it's close family/friends where my kids will be participating in some way, I rather not take my children to a desi wedding. I have taken them to banquets where they were invited and they've behaved well but they get so bored at this age. They'd rather be home doing Wiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii instead under the care of a nanny.
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Hey!! kids make greeeaaat bridesmaids/flowergirls and pageboys!! lol
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I've been to alot of weddings where they have hired magicians and face and body painting ppl to keep the children busy and out of the main wedding hall, especially when duas or speeches are being read, and its usually done the trick to keep all thoe screming little kiddies away
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i have noticed that in wedding sometimes pictures can be ruined by kids.................usually they will make funny faces and will not move from the stage and you cant even tell them to move if they are your releative
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This is probably my biggest regret of my wedding day:too many little annoying kids running around. It was something that just didn't cross my mind at the time!
They went around ruining centerpieces, knocking down flowers in the aisle and simply not shutting up!! OOf it was so so irritating. Alhamdullilah my husband is probably the most patient and calm guy in the world so he made things alot easier for me by talking me out of watching the bratty ones lol
:-)
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I don't think that we can ever say 'No Kids!' at any wedding in Pakistan. Just went to a wedding last week where the bride and groom were so late that the kids thought they weren't coming till 12:30am and started playing on the stage. The stage was in utter chaos when the couple made an entry around 1:00am. They just laughed, took a few pics, mingled with the guests and ate the food.
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I can not BELIEVE what im reading here!! I am SO shocked! im so GOB-SMACKED! How can kids be THIS awful? i havnt seen it i only remember seein my little cousin going on stage (at a mehndi) and starting to pull the flowers off i shouted at him soo badly. But kids actually 'poking' *and *'stepping on the dulhans lengha' i cant even IMAGINE that! I dont care whos kid it is i would deffiently get sum1 to make sure the kids r sitting down not touching anything or i wud ask them to leave. And kids on the stage? absoloutly NOT! unless ur the bride/grooms neice or nephew u shud not even be thinkin abt stepping on to the stage. I hate these parents that dont control their children when their at a wedding. Im the type of person that would jus tell them straight up. I am deffiently thinking about putting No children allowed to the wedding on the invite card when i get married. Or i wud get sum 1 to jus stand by the stage and make sure no children get on the stage. Thats so dis-respectful i wud be so upset if that happend on my wedding day. I cant see the funny side to it at all.
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I am getting married in July 2010 in Pakistan so I already know there will be a huge ocean of kids at the wedding (as you invite 500 guests with all their kids). We have such a different range of tameez in our family. Some are polite, others are unbearable.
I am totally going to speak to my wedding planner about having a bouncy castle and other activities on the mehdni. This way everyone is happy and the big sludge of children are removed from the stage leaving it for the adults to enjoy.
What I find hilarious is when the camera man asks kids to move out of the way. They just come and stand in the middle and its like MOVEEEEEEEEE.
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If kids are invited to weddings then i think its very important to have some form of entertainment for them, what else are they meant to do? we've all been kids before. can;t expect them to just sit quietly in their seats. it would be wonderful but unrealistic to expect that.
^Why is it unrealistic? I've been to plenty of weddings where some kids ARE sitting quietly next to their parents for long periods of time, looking at picture books or playing with a toy brought from home...AND kids who are running like mad throughout the wedding hall no matter what amusement is or isn't provided.
Why is it the host's obligation to entertain someone else's kids when the host's child is getting married? It would be nice if everybody could provide some sort of entertainment for the children during weddings because it is long and tedious for a child to sit through quietly...but a lot of people don't have it in their budget, and even if they do, I've still been to plenty of places where it makes not one bit of difference and a lot of the kids are still causing a commotion.