Hey All!.
In terms of looking for spouse. How comfortable are you approaching opposite gender?. Do you expect him/her to approach you. If someone approaches you for the purpose of looking for partner how would you like to be approached???
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Astaghfirullah!
- is the treatment all boys get when they try to approach me!
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Same as above! I don’t date, and even if I did it wouldn’t get me anywhere because I’m not going anywhere without my parent’s permission. In the dating realm as I don’t think ‘approaching’ necessarily means marriage for those in other cultures…I have been approached by desi, non-desi, muslim, non-muslim. So if they are desi- Muslim I prefer they try to ask my parents, if they are non-desi, non-Muslim, I prefer they not ask at all because that is just not even a question in my family. I prefer they not involve my friends, and have them hint me. Most of the time I prefer to not even know they even wanted to approach me.
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hahah, yeah I’ve been told by a few guys and some of my close girl friends that I am not very approachable.
I never approach a guy. I think in theory it is nice if the guy approaches the girl (and it works out). But if the guy hitting on you is some chichora, then I definitely have my guard up and he is in for a lecture or some bezati. lol jk but a cold stare at the very least.
I think I am slightly awkward if a guy approaches me (and I like him) … I won’t be myself and that’s how I ruin my chances.
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^Well..we are all attracted to good looking people in general.
However..i would say there should be fine line drawn in regards to approaching people for marriage. First one is..making sure to best of ability that he/she is kinda person would most likely be interested in you as well. This may happen in friendship case when both opposite genders decide to take their relationship to next level. Another is when ya don't completely know the person but ya are still interested. Things become bit tricky here and everything depends on the situation. So as a guy, i would be the one to approach a girl for serious relationship. For instance, i will try to find out about a girl something..and then talk to her and go from there.
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y u so cruel?.
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i'm very reserved in this regard and will never propose in real life unless i get clear signals.
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Generally, women expect men to make the first move but also reserve the right to throw a fit if, God forbid, they are not interested.
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Most men are very approachable. Women can easily approach a variety of men, in a variety of situations, for a variety of purposes.
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and then they say, not enough men.
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^ According to eXtronic dictionary, gal is approachable if she agrees to meet at coffee shop. 
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and then they say, not enough men.
Its difficult to accept that your misery is self-imposed.
If I told you you can date half of the women on your facebook friend list you'd be in denial wont you?
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Its difficult to accept that your misery is self-imposed. If I told you you can date half of the women on your facebook friend list you'd be in denial wont you?
hain?
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Before marriage I was not approachable at all, I didn't want to date so I just made it clear that I'm not available.
Some people choose to date and want to choose their own spouses and make themselves approachable.
In my experience guys saw it as a contest to see if I would ever waiver or break. It was extremely difficult at times but I managed to keep to myself. Only once I thought I would have given in, he was truly a great guy.
Years later after marriage and kids we met and he disclosed to me that that he had been in love with me and I was surprised, he said that he never got any signals and didn't find me approachable. I won't lie. I was saddened and thought of what could have been.
Before marriage he was the only guy I would given in to if he approached me!! Go figure!
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He's a lot more attractive than your husband, isnt he?
Why would you be 'saddened' if you ended up with a better one?
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lol
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I love my husband. Maybe it's different when marrying someone because You chose them as oppsed to someone who has been chosen for you, I guess the type of love you feel maybe the same in the end or different. Like romantic love or companion love.
I don't know why I felt sad but I did like it was a loss.
It's wasn't looks, I guess it was more that we had so much in common and had similar backgrounds and mindset.
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He's a lot more attractive than your husband, isnt he? Why would you be 'saddened' if you ended up with a better one?
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Generally, women expect attractive men to make the first move but also reserve the right to throw a fit if, God forbid, they are not interested.
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misquoted me.
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I love my husband. Maybe it's different when marrying someone because You chose them as opposed to someone who has been chosen for you, I guess the type of love you feel maybe the same in the end or different. Like romantic love or companion love. I don't know why **I felt sad but I did like it was a loss. It's wasn't looks, **I guess it was more that we had so much in common and had similar backgrounds and mindset.
Youre mincing words. Knowing your gut feeling isn't that difficult.
Its funny isnt it... You have companionate love for your husband, but expect your husband to have romantic love for you. You'd be offended otherwise.