Many different possibilities in this kind of situation.
1- Mother is too stubborn. Son is genuinely trying but not getting anywhere.
2- Mother is concerned based on something we do not know.
3- Son is mama's boy as women say when he leaves them or does not fight for them.
4- Girl is too pushy and a dreamer.
5- Son had not expected mother's reaction. Things he could not see what mother could.
6- Son deliberately led her on and is a player. (Not possible since he has caused trouble in the family)
Solution based on info available:
Tell him no need to continue relation until he gets his mind clear and gets mother on the side.
Girls should have some dignity after all.
I know it is difficult for many girls in similar situation but this is the risk girls take when go too far in relationship.
And please no need to speculate mother's role on assumptions (she is not gori enough etc.) , some skewed unusual experiences, or observations.
Mothers for the most part do look for best interest of their children. I am siding with a woman here and what I see sometimes women being the worst enemies of women.
What do you think the above points that you've made are????????????????? They're mere speculations, Diwanay Sahib. So, don't tell others not to speculate either. A speculation......is another word for an assumption. You're not doing anything different from what the others are.
Don't be so peowed over the "she's not gori enough". I never said that this was a definite reason for the rejection. I threw that in there along with my other more pleasant sounding "speculations" for her refusal (incompatibility, education, cultural background, distance, etc etc). So, I included other possibilities. Also, the whole "she's not fair enough"........whether it is or isn't a reason in this particular story..............is not an entirely unbelievable scenario in our culture either. I'm not exempting the guy either. But my comments about some (key word: SOME) women who do get upset because the girl wasn't her choice...............are based on my personal observations. Everybody's experience is different. ONCE AGAIN......not saying that this is the case here. Women interact with women.........so what is "UNUSUAL" for you because of YOUR GENDER...................is a rather COMMON issue that WOMEN are more familiar with.
Don't just go brushing things off as "unusual" when certain issues are SOOO COMMON that they are seen in MANY of the threads in the life forum here.....that you see often in the media/dramas/etc (which is reflective of a society/culture's mentality and problems). Unusual indeed.
Women can be each other's worst enemies........I've said that before myself. But brushing issues off as unusual or skewed is not right either. It's like invalidating another person's personal experiences as if it's all a figment of their imagination.
OH.......and your above novel solutions have been previously mentioned by others in this tread. Who said mothers don't think of their children's best interests??? But they're human beings......not immune to jealousy, insecurity, etc. I assure you I'm not pulling this out of the air. People write based on their experiences, whilst also putting forth suggestions/possibilities.
I would love to read your advices on matters but can you please for my sake try to use less words and still give the same advice. Is that even possible??