Jaanwar , Many non hijabi's are control freaks and totally opinionated B's ... so does that mean we can generalize all non hijabi's to be like them?
Majority of the muslims including me unfortunately are muslims by name not even close to being a muslim by action. In order to justify our non compliant behaviour and mind set , we pick on those who still try to follow the religion ...
Why should we compare someone's certain islamic action with another one. Eg: those who wear hijab are following a farz ... their social ettiquette is a different farz .. only Allah has the power to decide whose actions are good enough and whose are not. We should appreciate them for wearing the hijab but criticize them for their bad social ettiquette rather then comparing their two actions and degrading the hijab as well.
I despise those muslim women who wear sleeveless, deep necks ,show cleavage , tight skin hugging revealing clothes .... and I try to let muslim women know that this is nothing to be proud of. Why do I do that? coz I have a fard(farz) responsiblity towards other muslims .. when we see something being done wrongly it becomes our fard to point it out though I try not to impose myself on others.
On the other hand, I am a non hijabi, and I have never disliked the fact that hijabi friends often tell me to consider hijab. They are fulfilling their fard as muslims.by telling me.
Ofcourse its very much the marzi of the feedback reciever how they wish to continue but when they revert back and start criticizing the knowledge giver on certain other aspects of life , that is not fair. at the same time if a hijabi, starts imposing their mindset on others , that too is not a good attitude ...
*Inshort , if a hijabi gives you a lecture on how to behave socially and is her self the epitome of batamiz behaviour or a control freak .. then yes we have the right to question them back and criticize on their own manner .. *
If she is herself not wearing a hijab and forcing this advise on others then you have every right to question her on her advise. But otherwise , No it wouldnt be fair in anyways to point fingers at their hijab for their social mannerism...
Well said.
Btw, there are many women who from the core of their heart know that they MUST do hijab being a Muslim, irrespective of how other hijabis behave in present times, but they some how try to remove their guilt of not doing hijab through discussions about those Hijabis with whom they have had a bad experience. May be they think that by doing gheebat of hijabis they might not be questioned on the day of judgment about not doing Hijab. On the other hand those who don't do hijab but at least accept the importance of hijab and don't love to do gheebat of "hijabis" by searching faults in them, get taufeeq of hijaab soon, by the grace and mercy of Allah (swt).
p.s. If we HAVE to do a general comparison, personally my knowledge says that in general relatively non-hijabi Muslims are not better Muslims overall than hijabi Muslims, that include Manners, modesty, namaz, roza, hajj and of course "haya", but they LOVE to pick on few bad cases and give an impression that most hijabis are like them. On the other hand you would find relatively less hijabis discussing bad manners of people by categorizing them as "Non-hijabis"
