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Yeah! I mean, you look beautiful though you're hiding your hair.
^ I agree.
I don't wear hejab myself, but the concept of a segregated wedding certainly seems more consistent with the idea behind hejab than loading on makeup and jewelry (and a scarf) and sitting on stage in front of a couple hundred men.
If the girl is hijabi, there is nothing wrong with "loading on makeup and jewellery" and sitting on a stage with your husband on your nikkah.
But if she does not want to wear the hijab on her nikkah and wants to have a segreated wedding that thats great too. But she has to be aware of the non merham men (which includes her brother in laws, first cousins, and other men) should not enter the sisters side. And also the guests have to warned as well.
If the girl is hijabi, there is nothing wrong with "loading on makeup and jewellery" and sitting on a stage with your husband on your nikkah.
I don't think that makes very much sense. The whole purpose of hejab is supposedly to avoid attention from non-mahram men by "concealing" your beauty. Sitting on stage in front of 300 men, dressed in a bright red gown, and covered in makeup and elaborate jewelry, it doesn't seem like you're making any effort to avoid attention from non-mahrams, even in you do throw on a hejab.
Frankly, this reminds me of the girls you see wandering around in skin tight jeans and gaudy makeup, but with a full hejab pinned on so tightly you can't see a single hair popping out. It just looks ridiculous.
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i agree that wearing skin tight jeans with hijab is ridiculous. But the whole point of hijab is not hiding in a corner away from men. It is about modesty. Not a stich of hair and skin is showing except her hands and face. There are many woman who wear hijab, and dont wear makeup but are really beautiful. That doesnt mean that they should show their face in public. There is a diffence between wearing a Hijab and wearing a Niqab.
It takes courage to wear the hijab. So please dont downgrade their status.
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I'm not "downgrading" anyone's status. I'm just pointing out an inconsistency.
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Ok this is not the thread to get into this. You need to really understand the real meaning of hijab to understand the point I'm trying to make. All I can say is that May Allah SWT guide you to wear one. Ameen.
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To quote your earlier post, hejab is "about modesty." If you really feel so modest that you need to keep the outside world from seeing your hair/neck/arms, then I don't understand how you rationalize dressing up precisely for the purpose of attracting attention to yourself and sitting on stage in front of a couple hundred men. I would also argue that you're technically paying for and setting up a venue where hundreds of dressed and made-up women (many, if not most, without proper hejab) are freely mixing with men (who likely are not walking around with their gaze lowered) - again, if you're conservative enough to believe in hejab, I don't understand how you rationalize that.
I guess you "really need to understand the real meaning of hejab" to understand the glaring ideological inconsistency I'm pointing out. Anyways, to each his own. I really couldn't care less about what you wear or what you plan on doing at your wedding...I was just making an observation.
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^ agree
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my best friends sister who does hijab just got married. she wore a farshi lehenga and a gown-like long kamiz with it. she used her dupatta and her matha patti to cover her hair, and her neck area was covered by the collar of the gown (band galla, or high-neck sherwani style galla). it did the job of her being in purdah, and looked stunning without looking awkward in any way.
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salamoalikum
i really like the topic as i m also 1 of u who takes hijab n niqab too.its really difficult for us .in my opinion its better to have a sagregated wedding have female waiteress(ask the hall or lawn management to provide .they will although they charge more)and arange a lady guard remember she is the most important person otherwise u cant stop any1 from entry in female portion.
wish u good luck
massalamah
Hi jenab ali 
long sleeves can look elegant too with or without the hijab! or does the belly always have to show with the short sleeves ? one thing i hate about the sarees is the belly that is showing
I saw aishwariya rai wearing it like that in devdas…
I dont like sarees but my mother loves to see me wearing one lol , the prob is well it isnt much a problem but i wear hijab , i dont like short sleeves and i have oriental features lol now please anyone tell and confirm it doesnt look nice !!! i have 101 reasons not to wear one although some sarees are really pretty !
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excuse me, but what is wrong with a hijabi wearing a sari with full sleeves? I do it all the time and get many compliments on its elegance.
I dont know why there is such a distorted view on sisters who wear the hijab and what they are limited to in terms of clothing and "events".
This whole idea that hijabis shouldnt get any attention on her wedding...hello! Its HER wedding! Of course people will be looking at her and she'll be getting attention. Also, in your views, hijabis cannot be public speakers? Reporters? Anything else that has to do with being in the public eye?
Oh please...get out of your cave and look around...hijabis are everywhere and proud and nothing wrong with it.
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o dear all
salam
how a nice conversation is here...let me join
let me add first im talking abt main not all....as in every country caring hijabi or even naked ppl r...
i see ARAB girls wear tight but long black Aba...& full hair covered...
some other arabs specilay lebeniese same long dresses or skirt but tight & full hair & sometimes chest covered with scarf...
i was in Turkey their hijabi girls wearing very very tight dresses(in most public i mean) like skirt & sgirt or pant & shirt ...& wear a scarf & also a cloth under it that no hairs come out by mistake...
i also saw pakistanies...care abt their chest area to wear loose but their hairs left(i talk abt most public)
so according my own experience...none is complete...but according hijab may thoes arab who wear more just sometimes their aba is tight its better than all of these...
but among rest i feel a pakistani who wears decent dresses is more near to main propose of hijab than turkish....but in first look it may seem o turkish wears hijab pakistanies dont..(it was idea of many ppl arround me in first look)...but after a min thinking...no pakistanies does better in competition of noncomplete hijab cuz atleast they care abt not seem sexy than only care abt covering hairs...
hairs r beautiful more than being sexy(most men admit it even may some men feel sexy i talk abt major ideas)
but body attractive is abt sex than beauty...
so dear all...here we dont have fight...some cares hijab some doesnt...some care complete...some care limit...some care according their culture & less than limit...
main issue of hijab has 2 condition
1.wearing full body except face & both hands
2.avoid jewl make up or any speciall dress to attract eyes(surly mean sexy eyes not simple look as u r walking & ppl see u as they pass arround u)
so simply anyone who cares for hijab...will have wedding ...in a culture like pakistan that u hardly have seprate wedding so all will see Bride...she is in attention even if she wont wear bridal jewl make up & etc...
if she cant leave make up according any issue...means she should leave all she can do for covering also???
also that bridal dress u have & ur big jewl may make u seem nicer but not sexy realy...& according catching eyes on u watever u do as a Bride u r in eyes...so u should go for nice make up but it shouldnt be sexy(there is many style of making up in natural way ..they make up u just with repair ur face to seem shining than putting sexy colors for being sexy)...also rest things
cuz beauty is different as u sit as a Bride anyhow u catched eyes so now u shouldnt seem sexy but beautful is else....
i dont admit if u can make seprate parties if u have that situation its Only real islamic way...other ways u do is not minimum limit of wat islam wants but still its may Maximum u could do...
So there is no laugh on why a bride sit with hijab & jewl & make up....she belives in hijab so she did wats she could do but she also knows thats not full hijab but still she has first condition of covering...less is better than none??? atleast for whom does belive in it...
for whom doesnt belive so none seem logic
any idea?
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I agree with some points you mentioned. But please try not to put people into "groups"..not all Arab people wear tight clothing with their hijab and not all Pakistani's wear loose clothing without hijab. Allah knows best what it is in their hearts and their intentions.
I agree, long sleeves can look nice with many outfits including shalvar qameez, and other outfits with long qameezes. And I also agree in that large exposed midriffs are generally tacky. However, I personally don’t like how sarees look with full sleeves and a hejab…I think it looks very awkward and cumbersome. It’s my personal opinion, that’s all.
I really don’t care to argue with you, especially now that you’re getting rude. Like I said before I COULDN’T CARE LESS WHAT YOU OR ANY OTHER HIJABI GIRL DOES. You can dress up in as gaudy an outfit and jewelry as you like, slather on makeup an inch thick, and get up and bellydance for your male guests for all I care (in full hejab, of course)…it makes no difference to me. I am simply pointing out a pretty glaring ideological inconsistency - one that apparently not everyone can pick up on even after having it explained to them repeatedly.
I rarely quote fataawa (especially Sunni ones at that), but here are a couple that explain why wearing makeup, and even colorful, pretty hejabs and abayas, are inconsistent with the ideology behind hejab:
Islam Web - Fatwa Center - A woman wearing light make up when going out of her house
Islam Web - Fatwa Center - Muslim sisters wearing attractive colourful Hijaab
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I apologize if I offended anyone with the cave remark..i take it back. Everyone has a right to their own opinion...but there shouldnt be a need to judge a sister on how she looks if she wears the hijab (the same is also applied to sisters that dont wear hijab).
For me, I dont dress to get "attention" ..i get all the attention i need from my hubby :).
I dress to look nice and presentable. Trust me, wearing a black abaya while out gathers more "attention" and stares than wearing an outfit that is at least colour coordinated.
Anyone can get Fatwas from anywhere on the net - I spoken numerous times to my Shaykh and other reliable scholars and there is nothing wrong in looking nice. There is a difference between looking pretty and nice and looking sexy. Looking sexy (astagfirullah) is not our intent, nor should it be any other Muslim Sister (hijabi or not).
The whole point of this thread was to help out hijabi brides in looks...not to state opinions that hijabis cannot look absoutely fabulous on their wedding day.
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Afshi -
you look ABSOLUTELY gorgeous. If you dont mind, could you share with me how exactly you went about the neck covering? is that head covering under ur duppata septerate from the neck covering or was it one piece? I am getting married in May, and im hijabi, and im having so much trouble figuring out how to 'cover'! if you could please help me, i would love you for that!
Thank you so much!!
(if you dont mind, im not too familiar with this gupshup thing, you could find me on facebook, search Amina Razvi and ill be the one in hijab!) <3 Thanks!
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thanks arazvi!
well for the neck covering piece, I have made a turtleneck type top that was cut off at the mid-drift and had no sleeves. I had my wedding in the summer, and I knew it would be hot wearing 2 layers of clothing. I got hooks in the back so it was easier to wear. It fit snuggly like a sari blouse. Um...the material was satin (i think)...the seamstress bought the material to match and sewed it.
It was also the same material for the head covering. I didnt make a cap, because my hair was getting done. So instead it was just a long piece of fabric and I tied it at the front of my head like a hairband.
I got the sleeves sewed on, which was again, extra material that the seamstress bought to match.
I plan to wear my wedding dress again to a mehndi (either my SIL or BILs) which is why i didnt make it completely "halal" by having everything stiched together. A mehndi function would be all girls anyways, so i could go hijab- free :)
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Oh very nice! Thank you for the information!
So you got the turtleneck made in Paki? My dress is being made in paki but i live in the states and i dont know how to call them to 'explain' to make a turtle neck blouse, bc what you have said is what i had in mind. I bought a turtle neck shirt from the mall, but its an ivory color - not a match with my skin nor the dress, but another thing i have in mind is wearing a jhoda akbar set - which will help in covering my chest and the choker will cover my neck. are you in the states? i wish i could be in paki to full be able to customize my dress infront of me!
the head piece in not too worried about bc i will bring my dupatta to my hairline but then drape down the sides in the back so the dupatta wont be able to be used to cover my chest area. So i really need a solution for the neck/chest!
once again, thanks for the info!! :) i really do appreciate it!
Oh very nice! Thank you for the information!
So you got the turtleneck made in Paki? My dress is being made in paki but i live in the states and i dont know how to call them to 'explain' to make a turtle neck blouse, bc what you have said is what i had in mind. I bought a turtle neck shirt from the mall, but its an ivory color - not a match with my skin nor the dress, but another thing i have in mind is wearing a jhoda akbar set - which will help in covering my chest and the choker will cover my neck. are you in the states? i wish i could be in paki to full be able to customize my dress infront of me!
the head piece in not too worried about bc i will bring my dupatta to my hairline but then drape down the sides in the back so the dupatta wont be able to be used to cover my chest area. So i really need a solution for the neck/chest!
once again, thanks for the info!! :) i really do appreciate it!