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no brother man.
She is just being a girl. Trying to make thing work, trying to make peace.
And she is not the only one being played by a man.
Its sad how fragile girls can become in hands of wrong man OR in wrong situation imposed on them by ill willed or idiotic ppl.
:hinna:
poor girls… trying to manage life… :hinna:
cough drops 
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is that sarcasm mcpendo? ah well, i am too tired to read between the lines at 1:30 in the morning. i am just going to hit the bed and sleep in tomorrow; infact stay in bed all day tomorrow cuddled up with my bunny :(
No it wasn't sarcasm i mean you're actually a saint for even thinking about marrying him. What i meant to say women wouldn't even consider talking to such a guy let alone contemplate marrying him. But if you help improve someone's life, then you're a better person in the eyes of Allah. (This does not mean marry him though, i mean you helped him out with money etc).
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thank you sadi khan, i did exactly that and i told him that i could no longer be his 'zariya' to success, so if he still wanted to be with me, he could come marry me when he was able to stand on his own two feet. i gave him some time to think about it and hope to find out his decision soon.
deewana, i studied criminology from the university of waterloo here in waterloo/kitchener, ontario. i am working full time, and i plan to continue working in the future as well. i met him when i visited pakistan last year. i did not check his bio data before falling for him. it doesn't matter whether you believe me or not but at least don't publicly claim to be a know-it-all about such nonsense claims when in reality you know nothing about the person sharing their problems anonymously on this public platform!
I am sorry again, but you had few inconsistencies in earlier posts. These kind of stories have been told before and have been debunked.
Still not believing what you assert. This is the risk anyone takes when posting on open forum and some may believe and some may not believe.
However, more power to you. ;)
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So much bull**** Paki drama, sorry I have nothing to add, I didn't even read all that.
I'm just so glad I'm not involved with that crap anymore!!
My advise, if you are born and raised in the West, marry a person from the West, don't go for back home!! Trust me, we are nothing like them and you know that every time you visit, you realize it in about 2 minutes.
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My advise, if you are born and raised in the West, marry a person from the West, don't go for back home!! Trust me, we are nothing like them and you know that every time you visit, you realize it in about 2 minutes.
Right. I'll say the same.
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to the OP…you’re just making excuses now. just because your life with your mother and your family is bad doesn’t mean that you should completely throw away your life by getting married to someone like him and expect everything to be amazing and beautiful. find someone better. someone who at least has 3 neurons in his brain. and as for paper marriage, don’t you think the CIC will do a bit of background checking before allowing a person into their country as a citizen? they want proof that the wedding is legitimate and they’ve rejected many-a proper marriages because they suspect the slightest wrong in a marriage. so how does the genius of your boyfriend expect a paper marriage to be his ticket into the country? for someone with your qualifications, all of that should have been looked at before even thinking about starting a topic of paper marriage.
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after all that he has said and done and you still want some sort of a future with this guy?
What good is all this education, if common sense passed you by. 
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it's sunday night and i hate sundays so i am quickly going to type this and go await the beginning of monday in some miserable corner.
thank you all for your comments. when i came here, i only had one thing in mind. i did not want to discuss this with my sister/friends because i did not want to be judged by my loved ones based on one page out of a 1000 page story. being judged here doesn't really matter.
i have talked to him. i gave him time to think. he said that he loved me for me and not for my citizenship or money, so he would stay in england, work hard, and get somewhere in life and then marry me. he asked me for a few years, which i didn't have a problem giving him. now if i see that he is making progress, or at least trying hard, then i would know that he's the right guy for me. on the other hand, if i see that he is not putting in any effort at all, then i would know that it's best to forget him and move on.
many raised an issue about considering such a guy. let me tell you this, money, education, fame; these things don't mean a thing. what means is whether the person really loves you and will stand by you no matter what happens. two of my aunts are married to two very rich guys of pakistan. they have everything, but neither are their husbands good looking, nor educated (one is not even metric pass), and neither were rich when they got married. and another thing, call it a bollywood sentiment or whatever, but i would rather live in a cardboard box and eat baasi roti with a man who loves me then go through an ugly divorce or mil/sil/other issues with/because of a man who doesn't care (i have read enough posts about those on this forum)
anywho, i would once again like to thank you all. stay happy and safe, and that is not an ashirwad cuz i am no granny.
byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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umm and about common sense, common sense is for lazy couch potatoes. i like to understand reality by examining it carefully, not by means of conventional wisdom ... ok final bye bye
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diwana ...
I just saw this thread, as I gradually read it ... I found so many inconsistencies it was unreal. No ... I concluded it WAS unreal, just as you did. Jaanwar tinkered with a trick first, there were a lot of comments and when omni came back ... guess what? "I am no troll" ... LOL
Is that the first thing someone genuine says to all those comments?
Then you arrive and a quick response goes to you too.
But I tell you what should some of these storytellers ever decide to write a story I want to find out about it 'cos I believe I'm willing to invest in them ... On second thoughts how would know when they have published a book - they could come crashing in with another story.
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omni, what has this guy done for you?
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So much bull**** Paki drama, sorry I have nothing to add, I didn't even read all that.
I'm just so glad I'm not involved with that crap anymore!!
My advise, if you are born and raised in the West, marry a person from the West, don't go for back home!! Trust me, we are nothing like them and you know that every time you visit, you realize it in about 2 minutes.
Lol!
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This thread is proof that sometimes love really is blind!
Before you consider marrying him - please let him secure his own future!!!! Don't let anyone esp' him talk you into marrying him at this stage! You have to be selfish for yourself and think about your future ahead.
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I don't know whether it is love that is blind or people, sometimes, have too many expectations from others. They should let the time run its course and see if they meet their basic requirements.
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i have talked to him. i gave him time to think. he said that he loved me for me and not for my citizenship or money, so he would stay in england, work hard, and get somewhere in life and then marry me. he asked me for a few years, which i didn't have a problem giving him. now if i see that he is making progress, or at least trying hard, then i would know that he's the right guy for me. on the other hand, if i see that he is not putting in any effort at all, then i would know that it's best to forget him and move on.
many raised an issue about considering such a guy. let me tell you this, money, education, fame; these things don't mean a thing. what means is whether the person really loves you and will stand by you no matter what happens. two of my aunts are married to two very rich guys of pakistan. they have everything, but neither are their husbands good looking, nor educated (one is not even metric pass), and neither were rich when they got married. and another thing, call it a bollywood sentiment or whatever, but i would rather live in a cardboard box and eat baasi roti with a man who loves me then go through an ugly divorce or mil/sil/other issues with/because of a man who doesn't care (i have read enough posts about those on this forum)
anywho, i would once again like to thank you all. stay happy and safe, and that is not an ashirwad cuz i am no granny.
byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
umm and about common sense, common sense is for lazy couch potatoes. i like to understand reality by examining it carefully, not by means of conventional wisdom ... ok final bye bye
god, who let you graduate from university?!
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diwana ...
I just saw this thread, as I gradually read it ... I found so many inconsistencies it was unreal. No ... I concluded it WAS unreal, just as you did. Jaanwar tinkered with a trick first, there were a lot of comments and when omni came back ... guess what? "I am no troll" ... LOL
Is that the first thing someone genuine says to all those comments?
Then you arrive and a quick response goes to you too.
But I tell you what should some of these storytellers ever decide to write a story I want to find out about it 'cos I believe I'm willing to invest in them ... On second thoughts how would know when they have published a book - they could come crashing in with another story.
Psyah bhai it is not surprising at all that you 'concluded' the same thing. :)
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omni .. ur last statement .. BRAVO .. u sound like a really confident n intelligent girl
good luck honey n all the best