Aright I just read your post. How.do.you.girls fall for such losers? It really is beyond me. You are a grad, apparently from a well settled decent family, and you think you are 'in love' with some jackass who is not only under-educated for you but has been using all unfair means to get to and stay overseas and make whatever money he can. Love, you are just another 'jugar' for the bloke. Not only his ticket into Canada but apparently also his source of funds while he stays there. Having seen and experienced all what he has been doing right under your nose, if you still fail to see what is wrong with him and this whole idea, well, I wish you a happy marriage.
Either ^ that, which makes you rather unwise, somewhere high up the scale of being gullible and stupid as they say, or you are just a troll.
PS: Do you have any like-minded but much richer friend? I have a few pending ventures should she be willing to finance, oh and of course I will give her my heart and soul in return. You go tell her exactly that, I'll cut you a share.
Exactly. To top it off, you refuse to listen to the best advice you will get.
Don't know how you met the guy, but if you end up staying with him, you deserve all the mess your life will become. Cheers.
Aright I just read your post. How.do.you.girls fall for such losers? It really is beyond me. You are a grad, apparently from a well settled decent family, and you think you are 'in love' with some jackass who is not only under-educated for you but has been using all unfair means to get to and stay overseas and make whatever money he can. Love, you are just another 'jugar' for the bloke. Not only his ticket into Canada but apparently also his source of funds while he stays there. Having seen and experienced all what he has been doing right under your nose, if you still fail to see what is wrong with him and this whole idea, well, I wish you a happy marriage.
Either ^ that, which makes you rather unwise, somewhere high up the scale of being gullible and stupid as they say, or you are just a troll.
PS: Do you have any like-minded but much richer friend? I have a few pending ventures should she be willing to finance, oh and of course I will give her my heart and soul in return. You go tell her exactly that, I'll cut you a share.
Exactly. To top it off, you refuse to listen to the best advice you will get.
Don't know how you met the guy, but if you end up staying with him, you deserve all the mess your life will become. Cheers.
i also know that he has the potential if he tries.
EVERYONE has potential. That doesn't mean you should waste your time and energy trying to cultivate that potential if that person is an ADULT who is using you and everyone around him and seems to have no moral center. I don't know you, maybe that's the kind of people you hang out with. Good for you, then.
Obviously this guys is going to give you a tough life in future too. You should stop wasting your emotions and time on such jerk. Such type of “good for nothing” guys may swap their “jugar” anytime. :nono: Trust me, they are neither loyal nor trust worthy. find your self a mature, well settled guy… you just need compatibility .yea payar waiyaar kuch nahi hota. 2 din ke chaandni phir andheri raat hay
You are in deep s***. he wont let go of you easily. you are his no limit credit card with no bills.
He's gonna butter you and you're gona fall in it. I've been through all this.
He doesn't love you hun. It's about time you wake up. This guy will always demand money. Marry in secret? You guys must be crazy! Why can't he marry you properly if he LOVES you? Doesn't that make you suspicious. Oh please there are plenty of people out there, why are you letting a loser ruin your life?
how ? 10 K is very limited credit ? tht wont even pay for his 1 year tution fees in UK .. ?
Its 10k now, it won;t be 10k in a couple of year's time. I spent 100 times more money then she spent on a guy and what i found in Pakistan was his wife and a kid, two brand new cars and yeah a huge house. Surprise surprise.... I'm sure she doesn;t want to get this surprise after wasting golden time of her age waiting for a person who doesn't deserve it.
i totally agree with you , guyz frm home town nt only pooor but also short of ghairat ,so no solution for these kinda species n dont expect anything good in future from these kinda manipulative guyz too :k:
thanks sahar02, your comments made my dil go bagh bagh with hope and khushi.
ok well the thing is, there is more to this story. i don't want to talk to my parents about anything because i don't want to give my mother excuses to taunt me. my mother has always been a screamer and a self pitier (if that is even a word) and a fuss starter. she has always given my brother priority over us sisters. everytime she gets into an argument with my dad she brings his entire khadaan in it. she doesn't even leave his dead mother alone.
i don't want to go into details about it but i am not on very good terms with my parents. the only reason my mom agreed to give him a sponsor letter was because she wanted to look good in my aunts eyes, who originally came up with the idea of sponsoring him. she has always given me threats k 'main daikhti hoon yeh rishta kaisay hota hai, uski maan ka call aaya tou main bol doon gi tu kitni beghairat hai, etc etc.' i was hoping that he would settle down a bit and then we could marry and i could just move away from daily taunts/arguments, but i guess it won't work. i am just thinking of moving out on my own and letting him deal with his own probs. do shikar with 1 teer!
Aright I just read your post. How.do.you.girls fall for such losers? It really is beyond me. You are a grad, apparently from a well settled decent family
thanks sahar02, your comments made my dil go bagh bagh with hope and khushi.
ok well the thing is, there is more to this story. i don't want to talk to my parents about anything because** i don't want to give my mother excuses to taunt me. my mother has always been a screamer and a self pitier (if that is even a word) and a fuss starter. she has always given my brother priority over us sisters. everytime she gets into an argument with my dad she brings his entire khadaan in it. she doesn't even leave his dead mother alone.**
i don't want to go into details about it but i am not on very good terms with my parents. the only reason my mom agreed to give him a sponsor letter was because she wanted to look good in my aunts eyes, who originally came up with the idea of sponsoring him. she has always given me threats k 'main daikhti hoon yeh rishta kaisay hota hai, uski maan ka call aaya tou main bol doon gi tu kitni beghairat hai, etc etc.' i was hoping that he would settle down a bit and then we could marry and i could just move away from daily taunts/arguments, but i guess it won't work. i am just thinking of moving out on my own and letting him deal with his own probs. do shikar with 1 teer!
There you go jaanwar...thats why.
I'm sorry about your situation...that REALLY sucks...looks like ure stuck between a rock and a hard place. If he's using u well ure using him as well, ure using him to get out of a bad situation with your parents...but i don't think you realize that by marrying HIM, you'll be in just as bad a situation....not the same one but maybe worse.
I think you did have the right idea by moving out and getting yourself out of your parents house AND dumping this guy.
^yeah. If stuff is difficult at home, I would suggest you live on your own for a little bit at least. It really helps you clear your mind, focus on your life and yourself, and get a different perspective on issues at home.
You have the right plans. Now, just DO IT!
Remember, that if you don't a) Move out and b) Let him handle his crap, you will NOT, WILL NOT be happy for a really long time, maybe never. If you want to take care of yourself (which is your responsibility) and ensure happiness for yourself, take the difficult steps NOW.
