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and its her money. you tried explaining your logic to her, she didn't get it. so let it be... worse comes to worse, you'll maybe wear that stuff once each, probably for your after wedding dawats... you'll only get to be the "new dulhan" for a short time- enjoy it! let people fawn over you and indulge you... its not such a bad thing :)
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tell her jo paise aap teekay banvaney par kharchei gi un paiso kay mujhe earrings banva dein!
OR
"forget" to take your jewelry with you ;)
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Some things are not worth arguing over. If you have told her why you dont think its necessary, but she still wants to spend the money, then let her be. All you have to do is let her be and wear the stuff on your wedding.
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I have two tikkas and two jhumars (one is artificial), I only wore them again at my devar's shadi when i wore my dress (yes yes like an ass i did looked moving on....) but i dont think anybody expects u to actually really wear the tikka and jumar afterwards...
Now, if u wanna talk abt a one-time only thing....nath. that is NEVER gonna be re-worn no matter hwat!
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in my opinion aap ko artificial tikka nahee pehnana chaye..itnay expensive polki set kay saath artificial teeka... it is just like HSy kay dress kay neechay bata slippers...hehe
you can use it as pendant later on.
^ NO its not just any artificial tikka, its the one made by expert jeweler to match the set and is of a really high quality (usually gold plated and includes stones etc).... you cannot tell the difference between the real and the artificial, if you get one of a good quality made...
but Gina what i am getting confused about now, after reading other ppls comments is, this...
did your original question pertain to teekas and jhoomers just for the barat/walima sets???
or is your mother in law talking about making teekas for other jewelery sets as well (the ones that are meant to be worn after the wedding)????
I thought she was thinking of making teekas with all your sets (even those meant to be worn later) and that i thought was too much....
with wedding/walima sets u may as well let her do what she wants if she really insists...
but say no to additional ones (like other sets that are meant for after wedding), or else u will have to wear em afterwards with their respective sets...
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just let her make the teekas u can have the gold in form of savings for future so actually its not waste of money...........
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you know wht i was thinking gina....i know these things seem silly now but suppose u made the real teeka and jhumaar--and it stays in its originl form---you can always pass it down to ur daughter or daughter in law an heirloom piece and that's priceless:)
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otherwise to convince an elder is pretty difficult at times because they feel as if they know/understand the world and are better aware.....
just try to relax:) and enjoy being a bejewled bride...imagie how many time all ofus will enjoy looking at ur "dulhan poses and dresses" on GS
Alright MIL-to-be actually wants me to bring the sets my mother has collected over the years to get matching "teeka's" made. For the main baraat/valima I agreed to the set she liked (I love it too) and it's REALLY heavy. I suggested that even those she shud make artificial as I know I wont be wearing the jhoomar,teeka,anklets,bazuband etc again. I always told my mother to get me small wearable sets instead of huge gold ones.. and she got me the prettiest diamond ruby, uncut diamond jade.. and polki/kundan sets.
Thanx girls, I think I shud just speak to my fiance and convince him that a trip on the Swiss Chocolate Train is more important to me than 4-5 "teeka's"
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whats better is wearing ure 4 5 teekas whilst on that swiss chocolate train.. u could put it on display and earn some money from those tourists willing to pay anything to see some desi jewelas.. :D
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^ lol!
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This reminds me of an incident that took place in an upper class neighbourhood near Toronto (Richmondhill). New immigrants were attending parent-teachers night at their child's new school and the mother decided that she would really make a big impression on the teachers if she decked out in gold. The pricipal ended up being so shocked that he actually called cops to give her protection on her way home from the school. (It's common to have cops here at an Italian wedding as people are decked out). Desis I tell you....!
I shall not forget to post pictures of me wearing a matching teeka...on the Swiss Chocolate Train! =)
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naqsa, are you serious?? ahahahahhaha! richmond hill desis... man, thats hilarious
This reminds me of an incident that took place in an upper class neighbourhood near Toronto (Richmondhill). New immigrants were attending parent-teachers night at their child's new school and the mother decided that she would really make a big impression on the teachers if she decked out in gold. The pricipal ended up being so shocked that he actually called cops to give her protection on her way home from the school. (It's common to have cops here at an Italian wedding as people are decked out). Desis I tell you....!
Tragically funny!
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Yeah...it's absolutely true. I could so picture the mother thinking the teachers will be so impressed with the amount of money we have...more money = teachers pay more attention to your kids. Helllooo...it's not Aitchison in Lhr! One of our extended family members went to their childs pre-admission interview there and the mother bought the 'latest' bareeze suit for the interview!
^:rotfl:
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Awww, she seems sweet. I say let her get what she wants to, after you're married, you can totally be in control and decide what you should wear or not.
^ She is a jaan and that's why I even dropped the idea of speaking to my fiance about it :S and packing my bags.. i'll prolly give them away to my nands-to-be's! WHO wears "teeka's" anywhere in Dubai? sigh
Word of advice to all the unmarried girls, don't find an eldest brother of the family for urself or an only son! U're saas will fullfil ALL of her armaans on u!