Re: help please!
Wow. I come back after a day and now kinda feel overwhelmed at all these comments.
First thing first I do not think he is a paedophile. We have not had a physical relationship: we live a million miles apart! The whole issue of him being so much older than me when I was 14 etc is creepy to hear as a stranger but to us it seemed perfectly normal..
Want some legit advice from a guy? Bail.
Let me make a few uneducated guesses. I might be wrong but I want to take a shot anyway.
- He tells you that you guys are special. You guys have true love or whatever. He cares for you more than anything. But you are the one who needs to compromise.
- He has problems with you socialising with other males. He has problems with you doing anything with the opposite sex. He probably gets mad then apologizes.
- He talks about religion and what not all the while behaving in a not-so-religious manner with you. I might be way out field with this and I apologise if I'm wrong but I think you've had conversations bordering on dodgy with him.
- He gives you the whole guilt trip whenever you argue. He's been with you for so long. He's invested so much into the relationship.
Sorry if I seem a bit harsh. But I just don't buy that dude.
How did you come up with these guesses?
Yes to the first part but I think we both made compromises for each other.
Yes he did have major problems with me socialising with other guys at first but it's more of a culture clash than anything else. If I were in pak I don't think i'd socialise much with guys cuz they come across as quite pervy (sorry!) whereas here being friendly doesnt mean being suggestive. Anyhow he did/ still is slowly come to terms with it once we talked it through. I think its more to do with insecurity between us as we are so soo far apart for most of the time and so feel kinda over protective of the other.
I talk and worry about religion more than he does lol. He's a decent guy and I do admit some conversations have been bordering on dodgy but they were as much my fault as his. I'd rather not discuss that further
Yes he does. As do I. (sad times for us both)
I don't know what exactly you were trying to say with these guesses but there are my answers.
And also, no my parents do not know about our relationship. It would break their hearts and it's one of the reasons I've been so dissatisfied..
What the Nom man said.
Also Pedophile. Someone lock his ass up.
Also you guys know you are getting trolled right? This is the second or third time I have read a similar story on GS. The story is almost identical. I know I have a horrible memory and people can attest to that, however I very rarely use the word pedophile on GS and this is definitely the second or third time i am using it.
So OP good troll but just not good enough.
U r saying that you are a new member, but your messed up situation (if real) will pull u to ranks of top messed up girls of GS pretty soon...
To both of the above, I am honestly offended and strongly feel you guys need to show a little sensitivity. Like seriously, do you think I have nothing better to do than to make up a random story then ask strangers for advice on the internet about it? I have better things to do with my time!!
As for informing me that im a messed up girl, well thanks. That really helped. You should definitely go into counselling or something, you'l really comfort a lot of people out there.
Older guys have a way to manipulate u, look at urself for instance, ur 19 now and ur using ur head and thinkin of ur future, at 22 year old a guy has more knowledge about his ambitions, futiure etc than a 14year old. he was more wise than u are now 8 years ago.
I had never thought of it in that way. Thank you.
To everybody, thankyou for taking the time to post advice. I have emailed him about some concerns and now I'm waiting for his reply. I hope he doesn't take it lightly or on the other hand offensively. Inshallah everything will work out for the best
