it’s interesting how i am the opposite of this … not like ive been in a situation of being stared at like that out of pakistan … but in any given situation, i am easier with screaming, cussin, and creating a scene in pakistan, than here now. and i hate to feel this absolulte lack of control, or let’s say, loss-of-style .. but i guess that has more to do with where you feel comfortable, where you feel at home.
These! It’s interesting how some are really making it sound like paki girls back home are lazy and good-for-nothing. Yes there are the sort, just like they are anywhere else in the world (yes iv heard complaints of docile abcd/bbcd women who dont do anything) .. and yes i also admit that there may be more of them in number back home. but there are women really trying to break these boundaries. and it’s not just a handful, there are more. just going back to the italicized part of PatriotXs post.
when i moved abroad, i thought life was so bloody easy here. i am not part of any desi community, dont really have friends. but in general. cleaning, cooking, going out. the first few days i was here, i remember how i used to all of a sudden panick at night to iron my clothes … forgetting that there is no loadshedding here. i only started using the dishwasher this year, but wow!!and washing the clothes!! double wow!
my mother still has the old type. the clothes are washed in the machine, but rinsed by hand in tubs, and then spread to be dried. and the stupid massis is another big issue. sometimes they come, sometimes they go away and dont come back for 2 weeks. also that my mom cooks herself , dad doesnt like it if a maid would cook. in my entire family, the women cook themselves.
the maids are mostly for everyday cleaning, dishwashing and laundry. and when they are not there, then everything has to be done yourself. also the fact that there is a lot more mess made in pakistan. its way more dusty. more pots and pans, as more is cooked at one time. my mother makes handi for not just the five family members, but also the 4 maids we had. and the food was enough for eating 2 times, meanin 18 peoples worth. sometimes she had to also cook food enough to send it to my fathers workplace. and that food was not just for dad, but also for the workers.
and other than keeping eye on maids, cooking, and doing things around the house, she also picked us kids up from school. when in college, i started taking the bus. and 2 years later, i had a car. in the third year i started working part-time. so basically i was away from 8 or 9 in the morning till sometimes 10 in the night.
but the point of this thread was not to attack each others lifestyles, but just to see how it is diferent. life isnt easy back home. it can be very frustrating and cage-like, especially for those who want to do something. life in the west is also not so easy, but for other, different reasons.