Re: Heart or Brain?
:Dlol, it’s all a matter of definition;)
your reasoning is absolute, but human brain likes relative thinking, especially with their little existence as referential:halo:
so, according to human ego, empty refers to the lack of usefull thing, not that air is useless, but it’s (still) free, so empty means full of air, in this very case:snooty:
Re: Heart or Brain?
is she good for you, are u good for her? if she were uglier, fatter, older...(i.e. the looks as they are ...were not there, really if she looked like someone u didnt think was pretty..literally picture that) would you still think she is good for you? do u think given her goals and you goals, would they be compatible?
are you good for her? do u know what she wants, and are you it..or close?
then ..if those things are good, then you know she is as per "brain" good for you....then look to see...what does the heart say? if you knew both you and her were going out 2morow...would you get butterflies in your tummy?! would you be a bit nervous? and happy? if she said the place she wants to go to is the kinda food you really dont like all that much, would you go ....happily? if yes....thats what the heart wants.
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^ wah :k:
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true^
but if i had to pick one over the other....i would pick the brain.
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but if i had to pick one over the other....i would pick the brain.
why would you pick the brain, plz elaborate :)
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but if i had to pick one over the other....i would pick the brain.
How would the brain determine if that person was the right one?
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heart together with the mind must take precedence.
dushwari
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When it comes to marriage should one use his/her heart or brain. Ideally both but what if they conflict, which takes precedance.
I think it needs to be decided by a committee which consists of heart, brain, tummy and errrr one other particpant.
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honestly, this is one of the best articles i’ve come across on this topic, i.e. what should you consider before marrying someone..
Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
Will there be a television in the bedroom?
Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
What does my family do that annoys you?
Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
heres a link to the article:
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/17/fashion/weddings/17FIELDBOX.html?ex=1324011600&en=177d7653fb0b85d7&ei=5090&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss
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I dont know if all these questions get answered if ur in an arranged marriage senario.
But i always believe follow ur instincts...
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arshad5,
men and women are from this earth, not mars or venus.
that book is suited for the really wayward and non comitting types of people, perhaps.
but, not for well meaning and practical as well as honest young adults.
it is not about finding differences. it is about counting on the similarities, esp if commitment is desired to stay with one partner and put the noble seal of marital contract on it.
best,
dushwari
dushwari
Re: Heart or Brain?
When it comes to marriage should one use his/her heart or brain. Ideally both but what if they conflict, which takes precedance.
**Heart Can be transplanted..................:( **
**Brain will never be transplanted!.............:D **
SIMPLE!
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None, it's your destiny, if you listen to your heart you'll blame your heart so also you brain you'll do the same.
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pata nahin -lol
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Dont know!!..
…then ehh PArents…thy know best..
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whichever voice talks more sense. always remember... 98% of ur happiness in life (or lack of) comes from marrying the right person!
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Id choose the heart...in matters like a wife where feelings are important id rather make the choice that feels right rather than the one that looks good on paper...
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When it comes to marriage should one use his/her heart or brain. Ideally both but what if they conflict, which takes precedance.
if there is a uncertainity at the very beginging... chances are its not a grt start... when u fall in love u lose ur heart and mind alltogether ..
but if u marrying because u should and it would be convinient then i guess follow ur heart .. which will never say yes until u r in love ..
the brain thig will become a chore after a very short while and then there might b bigger problems ..
i guess that is .. :)
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ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww 
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it's the luck that brings people near