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16 is not pedophilia, 
and neither does it mean he’s gonna lust after his own daughter
yes, he’s a douche, and a jerk and all the bad stuff…but…jeez some of the comments are..!
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come on…he is a baby rapist…don’t you go around defending those evil douches!!! 
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He’s a person without boundaries.
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^provided that he really exists.
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He's a person without boundaries.
And I don't mean to defend him....because he is still a jerk and doesnt' deserve to be married...
I just don't see this as having incest/pedophilic tendencies...
then again, i remember saying a 20-something guy falling for a 13/14 year old girl was a creep and kind of a pedo. so..umm...(illshutupnow)(
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well…that is pedo…
i thought pedo or not depends on the age of the victim (the kid) (ie below or above the age of consent) and not on the age of the perpetrator…
a 20 year old lusting after 14 year old is less pedo than a 25 year old doing the same??? 
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I don't even think that is the point. It's more about the fact that this is his wife's younger sis he's openly lusting after. And he's had inappropriate relationships with other women too. He's gross. Why stick around with a guy like that?
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^ exactly. there is no excusing his behavior... I dont' think anyone is defending him or anything.
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Just to clarify myself, I said he had pedo tendencies...that means nothing.
Those who are trying to justify something by bringing the argument if 13 being the legal age of consent. Do you even know how many girls under the age of 16 die during childbirth in countries like Bengladesh and other developing countries because their young bodies can't take it. Get a life.
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So at 17 years, 11 months, you are a child and not kosher for older men nor allowed to drink or gamble. But in that 1 month, you mature so much that you are fair game. It is arbitrary and therefore not applicable everywhere.
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[mod]We can discuss age of consent issues in a separate thread. Please stop derailing this one.[/mod]
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Although I agree with the posters saying that he is not a pedophile, it's clear that this man doesn't have lihaaz for rishtas. I don't think you can stretch falling for your sis in law (who isn't your mahram...which is why you're supposed to observe hijab in front of your bro in laws) to somehow conclude that he's going to look at your daughter inappropriately (WHO IS your mahram) BUT you don't want your child (or you) in an environment around a guy that doesn't respect you enough to stay within his limits.
I know you say you want to be stable but COME ON. You're 27 and you have a child. How much longer are you gonna wait until you move out? What is YOUR limit? I know it's easier said than done, but I think you need to get the heck out of there.
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To clarify I still think the guy is absolutely ****ing insane. But the issue of 18 years is arbitrary and purely a western concept. When now 18 is more in line with teenage brides.
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she told us thats it, she is not very clever, very innocent and simple as she is of 16 only.
Not implying anything here, but most 16 year olds have an inkling when a man is making moves on them, especially when he's a repeat offender. I'm assuming whatever he's doing is not subtle enough to be misunderstood, since you've fought with him several times and he's admitted guilt. Your FIL knows about this? So what's the good man doing about it? Your complicity is apparent when you say "everything was smooth until yesterday when he said he loves my sister." How was everything going smoothly when you've admitted to being privy to the situation for some time now. Why have you allowed this to continue as far as it has, especially when she lives with you. If your sibling is sheltered you need to have a talk with her because you're putting her at risk. You do realize that most abuse takes place right under the victim's roof. These scenarios are the most exploitative because they involve relatives so everyone's happy to turn a blind eye. How do you find it in you to continue living with the man? You don't feel protective towards your kid sister? If for some inexplicable reason I was in your position (let's say I had a voluntary lobotomy), I'd have hung him by his gonads, slapped him with a divorce and set a rottweiler on him by now. Your FIL seriously knows about this? Nice. If he had a daughter who was sleeping with her husband whilst playing her kid BIL on the side he'd have shot her by now.
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^ Now tell us what you really think!
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yesterday he said he loves my sis and loves me too,he was weeping and saying he can´t leave me and want to marry her too,islamically
Islam doesn't allow marrying two sisters at one time.
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If this was a real Pakistani family, OP's brothers/dad would be beating the deleted out of the hubby right now :/
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thank you all for considering my situation and giving me suggestions and it is not a drama but unfortunately a part of my life through which I am going.
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^ Now tell us what you really think!
i decided to get divorce, I told to his father, all of them are not willing for that including my husband, my husband is asking for last chance and contacted me through some far off friend because he could not reach me directly,my family has boycotted with him forever but want me to give him one more chance.
I know you will think I am stupid or wasting your time but I am stating exactly WHAT I am facing.
and please stop saying ´´íf this is true´´. today I am broken and at a strange turn of my life,
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I think you should give him one chance for the sake of your daughter and divorce is not as acceptable in our society as in west. moreover you are not financially stable so don´t make life of your daughter hell,
for one year you can see him and will be settled too in sha Allah, otherwise you can come here to ask;)
and one more thing, yes let your family be away from him forever, good for you.:)