Re: he says he loves my sis
I disagree with chitchat I think you should divorce because you've given him so many chances one more will not change anything.
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i decided to get divorce, I told to his father, all of them are not willing for that including my husband, my husband is asking for last chance and contacted me through some far off friend because he could not reach me directly,my family has boycotted with him forever but want me to give him one more chance. I know you will think I am stupid or wasting your time but I am stating exactly WHAT I am facing. and please stop saying ´´íf this is true´´. today I am broken and at a strange turn of my life,
Dear pokenem - I would never use such language as you are stupid wasting our time if this is true etc. Because last thing I want to do is to pour it on.
I was referring to post above mine - it is an expression in the west I think. So sorry you are going through this. My duas are with you.
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I think you should give him one chance for the sake of your daughter and divorce is not as acceptable in our society as in west. moreover you are not financially stable so don´t make life of your daughter hell,
for one year you can see him and will be settled too in sha Allah, otherwise you can come here to ask;) and one more thing, yes let your family be away from him forever, good for you.:)
You're kidding me, right???
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He wept?
Good actor, our industry needs people like him.
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Guys, the issue is not if the 16 years old is adult or a child, issues are that he is married and the 16 years old is his SIL.
If she was 32, would that make the situation more acceptable?
Re: he says he loves my sis
Guys, the issue is not if the 16 years old is adult or a child, issues are that he is married and the 16 years old is his SIL.
If she was 32, would that make the situation more acceptable?
Exactly! Islamically he can't even marry two sisters at the same time. He is lacking respect for relationships and control of his emotions - which is a bigger problem then the age of OP's sister.
he says he loves my sis
So he doesnt live with u? Do u live with your inlaws?
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You're kidding me, right???
what is so kidding about this
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if you have any self respect you need to kick his rear out...
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what is so kidding about this
You're advising her to stay with a man who's been perving on her little sister, who doesn't love her, who doesn't value sacred relationships. He's a jerk! And needs to be kicked out!!
As a woman how can anyone tell another woman to stay in a relationship where you're treated like crap. I don't see how "staying together for the sake of her daughter" will do any good to anyone involved. I think her daughter deserves to stay in a loving environment. You don't think seeing her father lusting for her khala will make her life hell?
If this were me, I'd pack my bags, grab my daughter and get out of there asap.
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i decided to get divorce, I told to his father, all of them are not willing for that including my husband, my husband is asking for last chance and contacted me through some far off friend because he could not reach me directly,my family has boycotted with him forever but want me to give him one more chance. I know you will think I am stupid or wasting your time but I am stating exactly WHAT I am facing. and please stop saying ´´íf this is true´´. today I am broken and at a strange turn of my life,
You are NOT stupid. You are in fact very brave. You've just taken a step toward a better life for YOU and YOUR DAUGHTER, a step many would be too afraid to take. Your going through a tough time now and if you feel the need to release your frustrations, feel free to do so here.
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pokenem, please don't be afraid.
It will not be easy but you know what is best for you and your family - which is your little girl.
I am a firm believer in Allah swt not giving us more than we can actually handle. I think you can conquer this.
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You're advising her to stay with a man who's been perving on her little sister, who doesn't love her, who doesn't value sacred relationships. He's a jerk! And needs to be kicked out!! As a woman how can anyone tell another woman to stay in a relationship where you're treated like crap. I don't see how "staying together for the sake of her daughter" will do any good to anyone involved. I think her daughter deserves to stay in a loving environment. You don't think seeing her father lusting for her khala will make her life hell? If this were me, I'd pack my bags, grab my daughter and get out of there asap.
i know he is a jerk but her sister has not to stay single forever she will be married after few years and her family have boycotted too.
so when khala is not around what´s wrong in seeing him for few months more, he is trying to contact her, contacted through some friend means he is not willing to leave her, her in laws also not want that as she told.
it is not west where divorce is acceptable and govt supports to children and women for their rights, moreover being single parent is very tough and that too when mother is struggling with her career, where she has spent few years of her life why not few months more
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i know he is a jerk but her sister has not to stay single forever she will be married after few years and her family have boycotted too.
so when khala is not around what´s wrong in seeing him for few months more, he is trying to contact her, contacted through some friend means he is not willing to leave her, her in laws also not want that as she told.
it is not west where divorce is acceptable and govt supports to children and women for their rights, moreover being single parent is very tough and that too when mother is struggling with her career, where she has spent few years of her life why not few months more
Although what the above is saying is true I don't think the OP should stick with her husband just because she'll have to work hard and become independent.
Of course if she was living in the west it would make her life easier but regardless of where she lives his behavior should not be tolerated and I think separation should be a must.
chitchat she has forgiven him numerous times what makes you think he'll change this time around?
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he contacted her soon after she stopped to respond him, forgot her sis and just focussed on contacting her again, it shows clearly he doesn´t want to loose her.
before making her daughter loose her real father forever , better to give him last chance.
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Is your sister married?
Now this is an intelligent question