Re: He doesn't talk to me
*cough*troll alert.
Re: He doesn’t talk to me
^ Kya hua ? :aq:
BeautyQueen,
Your fiance would NOT like it if HE caught YOU flirting with some guy…he would be very upset himself. You say that he brought up the topic of “trust” in relationships. Why did he do that? Is it because YOU are constantly distrusting him? If that is the case…then you should reflect over your actions.
On the other hand…if you normally don’t go around distrusting him…then why is he getting so upset that you caught him talking to this girl??? If he is innocent and if he truly loves you…shouldn’t he be trying to console you and reassure you that he is being faithful to you??? The fact that he’s getting defensive and is giving you the silent treatment might indicate that he has a guilty conscience.
The “silent treatment” that he’s giving you is a form of control. He KNOWS 100% that you will definitely be worried when he doesn’t respond to your calls and emails…but he doesn’t care. He WANTS you to be upset. He WANTS to make YOU feel guilty…instead of communicating with you like a mature adult. He wants YOU to feel stressed and bad. He WANTS to hurt you. Open your eyes, girl. He KNOWS what he is doing. This is called emotional and psychological abuse and it can be more painful than physical abuse. Why don’t you wake up and see that he is not a normal or healthy individual.
A mature, responsible, and respectful guy would have the courtesy to tell you that he is busy and won’t be able to receive your calls and emails. OR he can also tell you that he is stressed out and needs a short break from the situation. BUT HE NEVER PROVIDED ANY SUCH EXPLANATION. Because he has made the decision to mentally torture you.
Shouldn’t a girl be treated with respect by her fiance? This is the guy who has decided to spend the rest of his life with you. So is he trying to show you that THIS is the way he will also treat you after marriage??? How would he like it if his own sister or mother was treated in this manner?
The foundation of relationship is RESPECT and COMMUNICATION. And if these two things are missing…then there is NO relationship. You are so worried that your relationship is over with him. The truth is that you have no relationship with him especially when there is no mutual respect or communication.
I have not read all the posts in this thread but I would not be surprised if most of the people are telling you that this guy sounds like bad news and that you should end the rishta with him. And I’m getting the feeling that you are stuck on this guy. It’s easier said than done to move on from somebody. But you have to decide…is this the type of mental torture you want to put up with in your marriage on a regular basis? If someone is showing you their TRUE UGLY COLORS before marriage…then you need to question whether you should make a life-long committment such a person.
Just because someone says “I love you” and buys you gifts…and does a 1-year courtship…and then puts a ring on your finger…doesn’t necessarily mean that he loves you. Love is shown through actions and especially in times of difficulty. And if he can’t even respect you…and makes threats about breaking the relationship…he doesn’t know what love is himself. When you love someone…you can’t imagine not being in a relationship with them. You don’t make threats to break things. This guy is a fool, BeautyQueen. Marry a man…not a little boy.
If your own sister was in this same situation…would you advise her to marry this guy and potentially ruin her life??? What advice would YOU give others?
If you plan to marry him anyways…then you BOTH need to understand that your marriage is not a competition to point out each others negative qualities. You both also need to focus on and mention each others positive qualities as well. And you need to sit down and address this communication problem that you both are having.
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And stop chasing after him. Don't email him or call him. Give him a taste of his own bitter medicine to see what it feels like. Let him come to you. And when he does............address your issues with him. And TELL HIM.........that you have no respect for such immature behavior. And that if he can't get it together.......YOU are leaving him.
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^ yes put his finger in an envelope n parcel it to him 
LOL. Actually he’s far away from her right now, so she can’t get his finger.
Instead she should take a picture of HER giving him the finger/flipping him off…and then parcel it to him.
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He doesn't deserve you! And redvelvet should write a book!
LOL. Actually he's far away from her right now, so she can't get his finger.
Instead she should take a picture of HER giving him the finger/flipping him off.......and then parcel it to him.
nope sorry i meant to say RING but the typo made it so funny. lol
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You girls are so melodramatic, go find another guy! its flippin easy learn some thing from Samantha from Sex in the City!
You girls are so melodramatic, go find another guy! its flippin easy learn some thing from Samantha from Sex in the City!
Forget Samantha, with the whole rishta system all the girl has to do is say the word and her parents will find a parade of bachelors for her, so why all this mooning over a guy who doesn't cut it? Trust me when I tell you I could write a long list of my aging single gori friends who wished someone could do that for them.
Forget Samantha, with the whole rishta system all the girl has to do is say the word and her parents will find a parade of bachelors for her, so why all this mooning over a guy who doesn't cut it? Trust me when I tell you I could write a long list of my aging single gori friends who wished someone could do that for them.
The thing that i hate most in girls is that they never tell their problems to their parents or are never clear they hold the feelings and cry and get a brain tumor and never freakin' go up to the fat aunty and be like GET THE EFF OUTTA MY HOUSE! or straight up tell the guy if you're gonna F around like this this relationship is over! THIS IS THE PSYCHO GIRL that will eventually rule! Not the silly little crying shy girl! GROW UP MAN grab some kahutas get out there. Call him up and leave a stoic message that will shake his vertebrae. "If you are gonna act like this, trust me i will come over there and woop your ass boy, and im gonna steal your car and crash it then rip the leather on the seats and also im gonna take a huge dump in it which will probably ruin it and also im gonna shoot you."
You girls are so melodramatic, go find another guy! its flippin easy learn some thing from Samantha from Sex in the City!
Samantha's a slut. Us women have more class.
And YOU watch Sex in the City? Yikes.......what does that say about you?
Samantha's a slut. Us women have more class.
And YOU watch Sex in the City? Yikes.......what does that say about you?
Sex in the City are mere peanuts compared to the horrific things I've witnessed!
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in the end, we all end up with ppl we deserve. i have seen it happen one too many times. all this relationship advice only helps so much.
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The best tracking tool for online.
Teamviewer set automatically to connect from remote pc.. :( like my fiance do to catch me..
my PC is not clean no rats I mean no flirting girl or any material in it :D
then having msn and other messenger chat history. I do just to keep a record which is now acting against me :(
:D
khair its all about not running after each other (ignoring each other) and so you both will feel how important are you for each other. Though you not only have to ignore but just to test him as totally ignoring him can also give him a reason to blame you that you dont care of him and so he is also not into you more now. :)
At the end of the day, miss beautyqueen will stay with her fiance. He knows it too.
He doesn't deserve you! And redvelvet should write a book!
Her book would be a bestseller as well! :)