Re: he doesn't care
The are a couple of comments that are directed at my earlier post(s).
You state that my comments are sexist, and that lifes carries on even if you are unmarried. Well I am not arguing with the latter. Even if I accept your assertion that my comment is sexist....can you tell me if its true or not?
Putting your eggs in one basket does not mean that you start dating several guys at a time. It means that you keep your options open ..have an open mind and have plans to move on if the relationship does not progress. Perhaps you can tell me if that is a prudent thing to do or not? Assuming that you want to get married obviously, otherwise there is no harm in being single all your life.
the whole eggs in a basket thing? i understand the statement, but the thing is, thats not how relationships work. if you like someone enough to propose to them, that comes with certain expectations and understandings, i.e. that you two are willing to give this a shot, and you're on the same page mentally and you're going to make this work. that you've stopped keeping your options open because you're committed to each other. you can't just be floating around in a sea of prospective husbands, afraid to commit to someone, and men can't do that either with prospective wives. at some point, you HAVE to say, ok, this is right for us, lets do it. and you can't say that thinking oh when someone better comes along, its bye-bye to this one, and hello to the other one either. thats not right.
in this case, they've been dating for years... not months, but years. so even though theres been no proposal, there should be an understanding of permanence here. for him to back out now is pretty harsh and not so pleasant, so i'm not surprised by her reaction, but as i said, this stuff should have been cleared up years ago. these things are talked about consistently, not just touched upon once, and then forgotten. you have to keep touching base and making sure your partner is happy and your goals are still the same-- and this applies even after you're married.
and yes, i can tell you, your comments about women being products that need to be shifted are untrue. what do you mean? women are people. and life will go on if one is still unmarried. and maybe those women can find their men on their own without waiting for mr. right to stroll along and propose.
oh yeah, and i'm already happily married, thanks :)
Sara.
i told my dad to not do anything yet about the other rishta and just talk to his dad
