Re: he doesn’t care
^ arshad, that last line is pretty sexist and quite offensive… women aren’t “products”, we’re human beings. and maybe its not a man’s “job” to “shift us”… the world will go on, even if a women is unmarried and in her 30’s, believe it or not (oh no! 
). when the time is right for each person, they’ll get married, not sooner, not later, no matter how hard you want it to happen differently. if, as a person, you (you, generally i mean, not you, specifically) have even the slightest faith in God, you would understand that.
i think your comment about putting all your eggs in one basket as a woman is also ludicrous… when someone proposes and you accept, the onus is on both of you to fulfill the commitment you made to each other when you got engaged. otherwise, why bother?
in response to your earlier comment in this thread… marriage and relationships are also not games- you can’t set time limits on people and push them into doing what they’re not ready for yet- sorry, but that isn’t how it works when you’re with someone. the main thing is, you cannot hold somebody else hostage to your own expectations. Until and unless both parties agree on a course of action, both of them are up the creek without a paddle, so to speak. its absolute bull to say as a woman you should expect to be played… there are honourable men in this world and men who have been brought up with the right values and taught the right way of treating relationships, and you do your fellow men no justice when you say that.
in this case, and others, expectations should have been discussed and sorted out from the get-go… you can’t keep it all inside you and still be dating someone 5 years hence when you don’t even know what they want from life and vice versa. its like planning for a party that might or might not happen… no wonder she’s going through personal hell right now.
for all we know, her boyfriend is confused by her urgency and her pushing for a ring… maybe he’s not even that serious about this relationship. maybe he’s just lazy about moving on to someone else or is waiting for that someone else to fall into his lap magically… regardless, the fault is his for not clearing it up with her sooner, and the fault is hers for that same reason as well. why waste your time with someone in a relationship when your end goals are different?
she wants to be married, he doesn’t. its very simple. theres no point running around in circles trying to find a reason for it… thats the way it is, and chances are, this is not a decision made on the fly all of a sudden either… like i said, whats going through his head and hers should have been aired and discussed ages ago. sometimes no matter how hard you try, things aren’t meant to be and you simply have to move on. and the best way to figure that out is through communication… it just boggles my mind that expectations about the future were never discussed here… what else did you talk about, lady?